Gf is mad that I can walk away at any moment

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What a retarded relationship.

OP.. a woman's ultimate goal in life is control and security. Women like having men under their control (though they won't respect them) because it gives them a sense of power and control. Most women believe themselves to be psychologically superior to men. All the mind games come from seeing how far they can go with any particular man and what his limits are. The more bullsh!t he takes the lower his value. Because a man with options simply doesn't need to tolerate bullsh!t. And women primarily sh!t test men to see if they are weak under all the bravado. Most men are.

A man pretending he will leave at anytime but never actually leaving is obvious to most women. They invented this sh!t.. so why would it fool them? So most women will call your bluff.

The truth is this... a man with many options who really CAN "leave at any minute" will usually try to ensure a woman of the opposite. Men don't call attention to their willingness to leave. They tell a woman positive, flattering things so she won't go digging to find all the other sluts he is smashing on the side.

Women believe men are not allowed to "trick" women. So if she suspects you are full of sh!t she will try to punish you by playing you back.. she will sh!t test you until the end of time. The goal is to expose and embarrass you so she can have a good laugh with her friends.

Breaking up with you is her way of proving she is in control and you are full of sh!t. A woman who REALLY fears you might abandon her (or believe you are the best she can do) would never take such a dumb risk of breaking up. That would just free you to date others and forget about her. So ask yourself why she doesn't fear these things?

I'll tell you why: Because she believes you are full of sh!t and she is really the one in control. Breaking up is her way of proving it. And if she is wrong...oh well.. she was losing interest anyway... better to leave on her own terms and save face.

Laugh all you want. You will never win this game.. simply because you are willing to play it. This is a woman's game invented by women. The only way you win this game is by not playing it. This means ignoring retarded drama and f*cking other women on the side. Being a rock who doesn't engage in "games".

Games are best for men who just want to f*ck lots of hot women and move on. They don't work in LTR. This is why I only play games with women long enough to f*ck them a few times. Then after that.. I just act like my normal self and see what they do.

My 2 cents.
 

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I stopped reading at bad relationship with father....
You cannot have this form of relationship with a woman like that.
Same as you can't turn a party girl into a girl who will lay in bed and watch netflixs with you on the weekends.

One of the first questions I ask a woman is what her relationship is with her parents. It provides plenty of information for the seduction and direction of the relationship.
 

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So I just caught up with this thread...

tryst type said:
So, she did something I thought was inconsiderate Friday night and then she broke up with me when I called her out on it. Her response was "you're right you deserve better. This isn't working out. Are you happy now?"
Let's look at what I wrote again...

Desdinova said:
Your woman is giving you signs that she's needing a bit of confirmation from you. If you constantly avoid giving it to her, she will leave.
And now she's gone.

You can't keep pushing the hardcore "I'm the confident Alpha who doesn't need you" card without her feeling alienated. You need to allow a bit of human compassion in your relationships. You can portray it confidently, and I gave you a fantastic example of how to do it.

Women may be kinda fvcked up to deal with, but they're still human. They're the ones who are a bit more touchy when it comes to their feelings, and when they're swinging a bit too far to one end of their emotions, the worst thing you can do is push them farther in the same direction.
 

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Desdinova said:
So I just caught up with this thread...



Let's look at what I wrote again...



And now she's gone.

You can't keep pushing the hardcore "I'm the confident Alpha who doesn't need you" card without her feeling alienated. You need to allow a bit of human compassion in your relationships. You can portray it confidently, and I gave you a fantastic example of how to do it.

Women may be kinda fvcked up to deal with, but they're still human. They're the ones who are a bit more touchy when it comes to their feelings, and when they're swinging a bit too far to one end of their emotions, the worst thing you can do is push them farther in the same direction.
We met up a week later and talked in person where I explained my actions and told her they were coming from my subconscious because things between us seemed too good to be true so I was unwittingly pushing her buttons just to prove my skeptiscm. I told her I'm glad we broke up bc it made me realize this and now I'm aware and if we continued the relationship it would be better than before.

She at that point was stubborn and said "well it's good you're mature enough to realize that now you can take it into your next relationship" I said why, and she says "because f*ck you I made a decision" so I say ok I'm not going to convince you to be with me.

Then I changed the mood and got her into a happy fun one where I even flirted and kissed her when I left. Thinking things would be better but she stuck to her decision.

Think this is done for good?
 

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tryst type said:
Then I changed the mood and got her into a happy fun one where I even flirted and kissed her when I left. Thinking things would be better but she stuck to her decision.

Think this is done for good?
Nothing's ever certain with women. She might eventually cave, she might not. At this point, I wouldn't bank on her wanting to try again.
 

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Desdinova said:
Nothing's ever certain with women. She might eventually cave, she might not. At this point, I wouldn't bank on her wanting to try again.
So she's just pissed more than loss of attraction?
 

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Well done to you and a big pat on the back for having options.
 
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