GF has cheated on ALL of her Ex's

[mrcloudsurfer]

Ok guys,

I've been wrestling with this one big time and need some advice. I've been in a relationship with this very attractive girl for 8 months (I've known her for 6 years but was in another relationship). This girl is almost perfect. Extremely attractive (she's 5'11'' and stunning), she's amazingly thoughtful and sweet, she's educated (she has a master's degree), and the sex is very good (but I wouldn't call it mind blowing.. which is part of the issue I will talk about below).

So here's the problem.. she is so attractive that men are constantly flirting with her... and I've come to find out that she has slept with many men and cheated on all of her boyfriends, but she says I'm different. She says that she truly loves me with all of her heart and that I satisfy her completely.. but knowing that she's slept around so much and has cheated on all of her exes really is creating a dilemma for me. I've been on the verge of breaking up with her numerous times because I just can't understand why she has suddenly become a "good girl" when all of her life she basically slept around with anyone.

Another thing that is really bothering me is that she said that before me she was a total freak in bed and liked it very rough, but with me she just wants "sweet and long love sessions".. Before we started going together she always wore really sexy outfits and looked extremely hot.. since she's been with me she just wears jeans and conservative tops and doesn't put any effort in looking "hot" anymore.

I've been one of those guys who has always been honorable and a gentleman.. and a part of me is just so skeptical that this girl I've known for years who was the super hot girl that everyone wanted to sleep with.. and many did.. is now suddenly this super sweet girl who is ready to settle down since she's met me. A part of me feels like she really values the love and affection she gets from me but I fear that the part of her which was the sex crazed hottie may just go underground and that she is going to try to have her cake and eat it too.. What do you guys think? Keep in mind.. if I didn't know about her past this girl would be almost too good to be true! Also one of the posters on here asked how old we are... I'm 30, she's 28.. I'm well established (career, home, all that good stuff).

 

[El Payaso]

Quick question. How old are you and how old is she?

 

[BraddH]

She loves you

 

[JoeMarron]

Typical "reformed" c0ck carousel rider. I bet your girl is about to catch a ton of sh!t in this thread. I wouldn't break up with her but keep your eyes WIDE OPEN and have an exit strategy ready. This chick is practically a walking stereotype of what not to settle down with. To play devil's advocate however she may be one of the few women who can legitimately make such a drastic change in her personality. The question you need to ask yourself is why would you want to settle with the tame version of her when other dudes got the freak version for probably far less than what you've invested.

 

[Albatross953]

Dude, have some fun and don't catch feelings. Assume she is sleeping with whoever she wants.

Remember....death, taxes, and you can't make a ho a housewife.

My bill is in the mail.

 

[Willard]

She is pushing 30, maybe she wants to settle down now. Just be careful.

 

[MikeOck]

The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. It would be naive to assume that all of a sudden she has become a different person.

 

[In2theGame]

"GF has cheated on ALL of her Ex's"

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[gravityeyelids]

Dump her. She's not putting in the effort to look good, provide good sex, etc. Aside from the whole thing about her being a slvt and having cheated on other guys (which is reason alone to never have dated her...), this indifference is a very bad sign. Even if she had never cheated on anyone in the past, i would still probably break up with her. Nothing more frustrating to me than a girl who grows complacent in relationships and doesnt make an effort to look good and perform..

Oh yea. and she cheated on all her ex's? STOP DATING HER. Or at least somehow try to turn it into an open relationship (idk if that's possible)

 

[rascal99v]

This is your own fault for getting involved with a low quality chick. You should have used the relationship just strictly for sex, and treated it as a joke, but nothing else. You know of her cheating past and a leopard never changes it's spots. If you invest into her, you will feel very stupid when she starts to bang some other dude or a former fvck buddy. Start lining up some new chicks to take her place. Investing into wh0res will always make you a sucker.

There will undoubtedly be the few idiots who tell you "it doesn't matter what her 'count' was, nor does her history.

:crackup:

Here he goes again, twisting words around, calling people names, making things up, and contradicting himself. The man who is concerned about the number of partners but who won't admit it.

What counts is her history, how she handles relationships, what kind of person she is, not the number of partners. She could have had 5 boyfriends and they could have all cheated on her. That means she would have fvcked 5 men. A chick you would call a wh0re but was a faithful girlfriend. So, yeah it doesn't matter how many boyfriends if she wasn't cheating and was being a good girlfriend.

That's something you can't understand. :yes:

When you see and know of a chick who is cheating on multiple partners, then that is a chick you should not invest in or consider to even be with.

That is what I've been saying all along, but you don't understand or just want to argue about nonsense all the time.

Fvck the wh0res and invest into quality women for LTR's.

rascal,

I don't know why you have a hard time with this. But who is counting numbers? There are slut tells which are just fine to use.

More importantly, you can't seem to have a reasoned debate without attacking me personally.

Numbers matter, you don't have to count them, but they still matter.

Attack me all you want, but the data is still the data.

:crackup:

Attack you LOL

Here you refer to me as an idiot above (without mentioning my name) because I talked about the numbers in 2 threads and you say I'm attacking you. :crackup:




LOL. You are a total contradiction Danger. Another fine example of how you argue in circles and twist words around.

You say numbers matter, but you don't have to count them? Well, then why argue with me and say numbers matter, when you say in the same sentence you don't have to count them. :crazy:

That means you agree with me that it doesn't matter if you're not counting them. :yes:

So, why do you still want to argue your failed numbers argument that's going nowhere?

Also, that graph is a joke. It's similar to the data by that Christian Coalition Think Tank who believes that any woman over one sexual partner is a wh0re. Seems like you bought into the hype too because you keep preaching the same stuff.

Good luck finding a chick in her 20's or 30's with only 1 sexual partner when the average used to be 4.

Looking at some faulty graph isn't going to tell you what you need to know about women. You have to go out and get your own experience by knowing and banging chicks to fully understand what's really going on out there.




You are worried with the numbers because that's all you talk about. This is the third thread you brought this argument into because lost the argument to me in the wh0re thread.

You said that numbers matter, and I say they don't.

More chicks are having sex today than they did before. So, their number count is going to be higher. What are you going to do? Stop every chick from having sex so you can get a chick with low numbers? :crackup:

I don't need to rely on faulty data like you do to know what's going on.

I rely on my own experience and what I've been through to get my knowledge. That's how you actually know what you're talking about and why you can give good solid advice. People who rely on data aren't getting the facts, we don't really know what data was taken to be truly accurate. When you've been around, you know what's exactly going on.

I've known chicks who fvcked 2 or 3 men early on in college. Those are low number chicks. Those same chicks cheated on their boyfriends. So, what good is having a low number chick when she is a cheater?

The number of partners doesn't always matter, it's the person herself is what counts.

That's like saying a low mileage car is better than a car with higher mileage. When the low mileage car turns out to be a lemon what good is it?

Like I said above, a girl who had 5 boyfriendds and who got cheated on by all of them is not a wh0re when she was a faithful girlfriend.

I would rather take her than a chick who's fvcked 3 dudes and cheated on all 3 of them.

You say numbers matter, I say they don't because chicks are having more sex and dudes do cheat on their women.

But you don't take that into consideration with your low number count theory.

Obese women, religious chicks who follow their faith, and people still in high school are going to be the only ones who you willl know has a low number count. All the rest are going to have average to above average partners in today's age. The average used to be 4, now it's going up.

So, for you to be worrying about numbers is ridiculous, because you most likely will never know how many partners anyway. And what are you going to do about it when more chicks are having sex?

That's why your argument is going nowhere and why you can't defend it everytime you bring it up.

Find a chick who is worth your time and treats you well.

If you're looking for a 9 with only 1 or 2 dudes, then you should start looking for a unicorn. :yes:

Numbers don't always matter.

 

[sylvester the cat]

this is the price one pays for that double-edged sword called 'beauty'.

when Time has finished with her she will be a saggy old bag of bones with a well worn 'muscular tube' so worshipped and venerated by men in the beginning and cast aside at the end.

Read Candide by Voltaire if you haven't already. Hilarious account of human stupidity.

 

[Jaylan]

^Lol @ data compiled from a gender known to lie about their number of sexual partners. Im sure a great deal of those virgins or 1's actually have higher numbers.

Btw, just because people dont divorce, dont mean they never cheat. And it doesnt mean the marriage is happy either. Lets stop ascribing so much quality to this low number stuff. Because at the end of the day, a whole lot of marriages are unhappy and/or involve cheating.

A quality woman is a quality woman. As long as a girl doesnt have a past thats too wild, and shes always been a good girlfriend and person, then Im open to dating her seriously.

And Id much rather date or marry a woman whos lived a little instead of dealing with the chicks who get married young or inexperienced, and then start regretting never dating much in their life. Ive seen too many threads online of women with low counts cheating, or having extreme thirst for new c0ck...especially if they dont click with their man in bed, but sometimes they crave new c0ck even if they are getting it good at home.

Plus tbh, female noobs are a turn off to me. They are usually too goody goody, boring, and rather prude. And lets be real...we've all seen what happens to many peoples sex lives after marriage and kids. Im wondering how happy the sex lives are of virgins and low number gals who stay married for so long.

I think this guy here makes good points on all of this. Id rather take the "increased risk" with a woman whos lived a bit so that I can enjoy amazing sexual passion, than be bored by some bland chick I have to show the ropes because she waits forever to have sex. Id already be worried about the sex drive of chicks who were virgins or had mega low numbers in their 20s/30s, but then Id be extra scared after the baby and marriage.

EDIT (ten post limit reached): And contrary to what PairFlush thinks, my experiences with virgins ( I have taken a few V cards) and other women with low partner counts is that they are good girls who bored me. I usually had to do everything in bed, or show them the ropes, and they werent sexually adventurous at all. That has nothing to do with propaganda, and everything to do with the reality of my life experiences. But trolls gonna troll under me I guess.

 

[IBreatheSpears]

A couple of you guys seriously need to get over your petty grudges and stop derailing threads into flamewars, otherwise all the experienced members will leave, and new people like me will cease joining, and all you'll have left is your little circlejerk of rage. Grow up and stop acting like children.

 

[fuko2007]

Dont get any feelings for her man. History repeats it self, if she cheated on all of her ex's she will probabially do it to you.

 

[VikingKing]

This is a no brainer. Sloots gonna sloot. Cut your losses now. She won't change. I would never trust a woman who has cheated on half of her ex's, especially not all of them. Holy sh!t

 

[Sofomore]

Isn't this pretty obvious? Once you find that out you need to get out NOW!

She WILL cheat on you, it's just a matter of time. I have a friend who's dating a girl that cheats on every boyfriend. He's too hopeless to dump her and move on. Don't be that guy that's so whipped he can't dump low quality trash. Move on.

 

[Bokanovsky]

You have swallowed every pro-slvt propaganda line ever told :crackup:

You can always count on Gaylan to stick up for wh0res, gays, feminists and single moms. More predictable than a Swiss watch!

 

[Bokanovsky]

She says that she truly loves me with all of her heart and that I satisfy her completely..

I think there's a chance that she's telling you the truth. That chance is about one in a hundred billion. You know what's going on as well as anyone. She's getting old, the clock is ticking and she's feeling the pressure to settle down. That's where you, "the perfect gentleman", come in. She's had her fun with the bad boys, now it's your turn. Boring sex and mom jeans are just a preview of what's waiting for you should you make the mistake of wifing up this woman. Phase II will be no sex, boring or otherwise. Phase III will be her cheating on you, followed by a messy divorce. Just say no.

 

[Jaylan]

You can always count on Gaylan to stick up for wh0res, gays, feminists and single moms. More predictable than a Swiss watch!

Lol how predictable is you getting all wet when someone brings me up. Stop being a queer troll for once.

And since when is having an aversion to virgins and good girls in any way a defense for wh0res? Use some logic.

 

[b305d]

I was in the same dilemma. Same kind of girl. In the end, I decided to bail out and the only reason I could bring myself to do it was because it turned into a LDR.

Some differences, we're both much younger than you and I have no doubt that she did love me.

That sh1t hurts,felt like chopping off my own arm because it -might- start rotting in the future.

There was a lot of "what if" in my head, but I decided to listen to my own logic and ignore the pain.

I knew one thing for certain, her past caused a lot of pain for me. I couldn't live with that for the rest of my life even if I knew for certain that she would never cheat on me, which I do not.

And you know, as soon as we broke up, I saw that ugly side of her. It's a terrible thing to witness, but better than living in ignorance.

I would tell you to enjoy the ride, wait till IL lowers and just end it.

But on the other hand, I want you to trust this girl, maybe even marry and start a family with her.

Then you'll pretty much be living my alternate life and maybe post on SS to update us.

5 months later, I still think about her everyday. Some nights, I wonder if I did the right thing.

Just give it a shot OP, send me a PM 10 years later and let me know how it goes.