Gf going on multiple dates/meetings

[crikeyhanky]

Sad but true..

I wonder if OP is willing to give us a update?

I met the guy. Drank a beer together.
He apologised saying he didn't knew.
He is an orbiter & she friendzoned him.

 

[Learning Curve]

Hey guys!

My gf of 3 years has recently admitted she went on a few dates with a guy. We were fighting a lot and she said at one time she would see someone else just so I can leave her. At first she said it was a one time thing, then 2 dates, then 3...like an auction, the number kept rising.

She's very temperamental so I didn't pay much attention. Then she started coming home later and later in the evenings. Days in a row sometimes. She admitted seeing a guy but no sexual activities of any kind.

I finally got a hold of her phone & searched through the messages. Indeed she saw this guy for 3-4 times, one time at his place. Spent some time with him at a festival along with a friend of hers.

The messages are civilised and not of a sexual nature, this guy is in town for a limited time and apparently they matched on Tinder. He seems very polite and uses phrases like "I am not the person for a LTR" or "I just wanna chit chat".

He offered her some wine and cooked for her. She didn't tell him about me at first, but the messages stopped a few days ago. I am not sure how to interpret this, I think he's away with business.

I don't like to be a hypocrite, I cheated on her a number of times, for longer periods of time with one girl, but these semi platonic conversations & meetings are peculiar. I tend to believe her that no sexual activity took place, she was having a tough time on multiple levels this year and maybe this guy was a refuge or something. Something different...

Any ideas would be appreciated.
Thanks

To be honest, I'm wondering what kind of relationships you are aiming for.

You cheated on her, and now she definitely cheated on you with that guy I'm telling you this from now.

The "I'm not into LTR just to chit chat" means I already banged your GF when she was at his place.

In your place, i would end it and find a new LTR material girl and grow a set of balls and if you don't like the chick you are with dumb her and go bang around. Because afterwards it turns into a wh0re house.

This is of-course personal perception and character but many guys cheat on their GFS and don't care. I'm ain't into that mentality. If i commit for LTR then I'm committed because otherwise i can have a rotation of 5 girls and enjoy life.

End it and move on. Unless you want to be in a toxic non-trustworthy LTR that will stay this way.

 

[Gamisch]

I met the guy. Drank a beer together.
He apologised saying he didn't knew.
He is an orbiter & she friendzoned him.

Oke oke oke.

Well, i know what this is like. It sounds like the most favorable outcome in a shyte situation. It's like seasoning a turd with all kinds of exotic herbs and spices. At the end of the day it will always taste like shyte...

Again, i know what's its like. You should simply be ruthless and leave her azz. This relationship is like a broken window glued together: its looks ridiculous and a "new window " is a MUCH better solution..

Imo a woman can only be respected once per lifetime. If you keep her it will chip away from YOUR selfworth. No matter how you try to frame it, if he is a loser ect ect. If the latter is true its even MORE pathetic and humiliating for you to deal with this.

Dump her azz , and regain/ maintain your selfworth and self respect my brother!

 

[crikeyhanky]

Oke oke oke.

Well, i know what this is like. It sounds like the most favorable outcome in a shyte situation. It's like seasoning a turd with all kinds of exotic herbs and spices. At the end of the day it will always taste like shyte...

Again, i know what's its like. You should simply be ruthless and leave her azz. This relationship is like a broken window glued together: its looks ridiculous and a "new window " is a MUCH better solution..

Imo a woman can only be respected once per lifetime. If you keep her it will chip away from YOUR selfworth. No matter how you try to frame it, if he is a loser ect ect. If the latter is true its even MORE pathetic and humiliating for you to deal with this.

Dump her azz , and regain/ maintain your selfworth and self respect my brother!

What do you mean respected once per lifetime?

 

[Gamisch]

What do you mean respected once per lifetime?

Every woman gets one opportunity.

She went on tinder. Tinder to women is like..
crack to a crackhead. No crackhead ever only took "1 puff" from the pipe . As i ( former alcoholic) learned the hard way: one drink = a thousand drinks.

One tinder date = ..Lord knows how many prospects she's lusting over. 10? 20 ? 50? All of them probably "more attractive " ( in HER eyes due to new relationship energy and curiosity) than you. Its an uphill battle bro..

Any woman gets 1 chance per lifetime. If ahe blew it ,she's out . You can keep her but it will NEVER be the same!

 

[Bigpapa]

Every woman gets one opportunity.

She went on tinder. Tinder to women is like..
crack to a crackhead. No crackhead ever only took "1 puff" from the pipe . As i ( former alcoholic) learned the hard way: one drink = a thousand drinks.

One tinder date = ..Lord knows how many prospects she's lusting over. 10? 20 ? 50? All of them probably "more attractive " ( in HER eyes due to new relationship energy and curiosity) than you. Its an uphill battle bro..

Any woman gets 1 chance per lifetime. If ahe blew it ,she's out . You can keep her but it will NEVER be the same!

Most women from tinder or similar mediums rarely go out on actual dates with guys from there

There are ofc exceptions that go out to a lot of dates and bang dudes from there, but the vast majority are not

So if she is a hoe, she was a hoe before you met her just that you lied to yourself that she is not a hoe or thought that you can change her

Rookie mistake

 

[Gamisch]

I met the guy. Drank a beer together.
He apologised saying he didn't knew.
He is an orbiter & she friendzoned him.

This is just crazy. I mean ,you are clearly tripping bro. Somebody needs to tell you this!

Your mental state is ...far from optimal , to put it nicely. You are at the brink of a mentally collapsing.

You try to control a woman who had no respect for you for a long time. You went to see this guy, ofcourse he feared for his life. I know i would when her fecking BOYFRIEND invites me for a beer...thats scary.

You need
- a shrink
-PLEASE. PLEASE PLEASE. Dump her NOW . She's evil bro. She is pure evil. Respect os gone. Just take ..wait ill scream it JUST TAKE YOUR L AND Leave!!!
- dont do drugs/ alcohol bro
-dont rebound yet .

Keep us updated. Take care if yourself firstly.

 

[Gamisch]

Most women from tinder or similar mediums rarely go out on actual dates with guys from there

There are ofc exceptions that go out to a lot of dates and bang dudes from there, but the vast majority are not

Bro....wtf is this bs.

Really?? This site is un fecking believable sometimes. Now we got you yapping your damn mouth with some bs cope nonsense . And how you know this? Just..
Stfu please bro..

I ask you RESPECTFULLY to stfu because you add nothing now. Normally you are a solid dude, but why the feck you say this????

Dont agrue with me like a woman please , give OP time to read ,think and heal. He might commit a felony due to this women you idiot.

What a bs take. Women are on tinder for sex naive son of a b*tch..its takes 1 d1ck from those +99 matches to cheat....just shut up oke?

 

[Bigpapa]

Bro....wtf is this bs.

Really?? This site is un fecking believable sometimes. Now we got you yapping your damn mouth with some bs cope nonsense . And how you know this? Just..
Stfu please bro..

I ask you RESPECTFULLY to stfu because you add nothing now. Normally you are a solid dude, but why the feck you say this????

Dont agrue with me like a woman please , give OP time to read ,think and heal. He might commit a felony due to this women you idiot.

What a bs take. Women are on tinder for sex naive son of a b*tch..its takes 1 d1ck from those +99 matches to cheat....just shut up oke?

Dunno why you get fired up

Just said that if she is a hoe she was a hoe before the guy met her, just that he chose not to see it

And yes, most girls on tinder do not actually go out to dates with guys from there. They are just there for pure validation. So it should be a big red flag if she does this, especially in a relationship

 

[Gamisch]

Dunno why you get fired up

Just said that if she is a hoe she was a hoe before the guy met her, just that he chose not to see it

And yes, most girls on tinder do not actually go out to dates with guys from there. They are just there for pure validation. So it should be a big red flag if she does this, especially in a relationship

Sorry bro i was really cranky yesterday my apologies. I shouldn't come at you like that

My excuses

I dont agree with everything @Bigpapa says but he is right on this one. I don't understand why you get so excited.

I had a extremely busy and emotionally draining week, my apologies. I shouldn't respond like this you guys are right about me being too fired up.


My apologies

 

[crikeyhanky]

This is just crazy. I mean ,you are clearly tripping bro. Somebody needs to tell you this!

Your mental state is ...far from optimal , to put it nicely. You are at the brink of a mentally collapsing.

You try to control a woman who had no respect for you for a long time. You went to see this guy, ofcourse he feared for his life. I know i would when her fecking BOYFRIEND invites me for a beer...thats scary.

You need
- a shrink
-PLEASE. PLEASE PLEASE. Dump her NOW . She's evil bro. She is pure evil. Respect os gone. Just take ..wait ill scream it JUST TAKE YOUR L AND Leave!!!
- dont do drugs/ alcohol bro
-dont rebound yet .

Keep us updated. Take care if yourself firstly.

Don't be such a drama queen!
I went through two family members deaths & a divorce. I can take care of myself. I'm fine.
Thanks for the mild advice.

 

[Gamisch]

Don't be such a drama queen!
I went through two family members deaths & a divorce. I can take care of myself. I'm fine.
Thanks for the mild advice.

Lol

I am the drama Queen. I'll watch my damn mouth as I don't wanna get banned, but I'm biting my damn tongue.

Firstly i have ZERO emotional connections to you ,I just think your actions show exactly what you described in your contradicting statement , that you seem to go through a emotional rollercoaster. You should be THANKFUL, that i took the time to stand up for you, protect you and hold a mirror in front of you. But hey, thats modern men, extremely egotistical and they are like women and even worse.. but imma get used to it !


Your girlfriend cheated on you, next thing you do is somehow invite the man she cheated on you with "for a beer" to hear what??? How he plowed that azz doggy and came in her face? How she begged for 3 more rounds??You think he'd tell you this to your face?????

Hahaha, but its ME who is the drama queen hahahaha. Like wtf..that is some borderline tripping wanna be thug shyte I've never heard off. A man gotta be at a really really dark and fecked up place if he pulls this.


Whatever bro. You asked me to elaborate and I did you ungratefull...whatever. I wish you all the best. You'll learn the hard way. Dont ask me for anything anymore, and I will bet a 1000 euros that you gonna get played like a fiddle my friend . Look up the term cognitive dissonance . Thats you right now

I won't respond to you anymore and wish you all the best. When it all comes crashing down you'll think of me lol.

Sayonara.

 

[Bigpapa]

I would unplug internet anytime and go back to the old way, the way people lived in the 50s, 60s, 70s.. until the arrival of internet.

You like it or not, this are the best times that humanity had ever had in terms of equality, money, development , etc

Thinking that other times were better is just you romanticizing something without properly knowing how it actually was the life of people then

I do not think that the internet is the problem per se, just that people do not adapt to the changes as fast as they happen

The Industrial Revolution was horrible for the guys affected by it as they did not want to adjust to the new changes nor they could adapt as fast as the changes were happening , but overall for human development it was a great thing and opened new horizons

 

[Bigpapa]

Yes until it doesn't. Consalidation is not the answer either.

Since Jesus of Nazareth the idea was always one government to rule all earth . Jesus was preaching mainly about the Kingdom of Heaven on Earth

Then the history is mainly about consolidation till eventually we will be all under 1 government

History after Jesus and founding of Christianity was not about not going towards 1 government, but who will run it. Different people wanted to be the leaders of it