GF going bar hopping without me

[DEEZEDBRAH]

She is allowed to go to a bar and get smashed and do whatever it is she wants to do without you knowing.

No she is not if in a LTR. Your lack of self respect and sense of boundaries is telling. Likely a foreshadowing of future cucking.

@ OP, she acts the part or you downgrade to Netflix and chill not commit. If she bar hops, she is actively pursuing the bigger better prize.

Begin seeking a better alternative.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Well, it is not normal for the girls I date to go clubbing often and get drunk.

Why? Because getting drunk is a bad habit and it means you lose at least half control over yourself, an overall sign of poor-decision making when sober and surely after you get drunk AND secondly, because I personally do not see the fun in clubbin. Yes, you might go and dance your ass off once in a while, but if you go every weekend or every other weekend...nah. No girl that was worth it for me went clubbing more than once a month or even more rarely than that.

+1

Its just scapegoat for later when she has a train ran on he ass.

 

[skinnyguy]

I would love to have a gf who gave me a free pass to fuhk other women

Dude, no matter what you do there’s literally nothing she can hold against you. Take advantage of this!

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I would love to have a gf who gave me a free pass to fuhk other women

Dude, no matter what you do there’s literally nothing she can hold against you. Take advantage of this!

I've heard of the scenario, and the same said GF would either not put out or put out very low. Supposedly she wasn't horny. I'm sure she figured she didn't mind if someone else did what she should be doing. And in a lot of those scenarios, they were taking pipe from elsewhere. That's why they don't mind.

The only way of doing this with any sort of "integrity" is swingers. You guys would be brazen enough to do it in front of each other.

 

[Glassguy]

No she is not if in a LTR. Your lack of self respect and sense of boundaries is telling. Likely a foreshadowing of future cucking.

@ OP, she acts the part or you downgrade to Netflix and chill not commit. If she bar hops, she is actively pursuing the bigger better prize.

Begin seeking a better alternative.

I have more self respect and boundaries than 99% of the dudes on this forum. Better check yourself bro.

And unless you're zip tying your chick to the bed, she can damn well do what the fvck she wants and you can either except it or drop her.

Again. Better check yourself

 

[RangerMIke]

And unless you're zip tying your chick to the bed, she can damn well do what the fvck she wants and you can either except it or drop her.

Yea this is pretty much me. Who cares what she does when she isn't with you? If she is your exclusive GF... that's on you. If you don't trust her enough then you should not be in a LTR with a chick.

The truth is you really can't completely trust any of them... but good luck trying.

 

[skinnyguy]

I’ve had extreme oneitis too.

You need to bang a much hotter chick to get your mind off of her. She’s not even worth posting about cause she’d rather bang Chad.
She’s not even your gf.

 

[soulforge]

I have more self respect and boundaries than 99% of the dudes on this forum. Better check yourself bro.

And unless you're zip tying your chick to the bed, she can damn well do what the fvck she wants and you can either except it or drop her.

Again. Better check yourself

Glassguy is right in the sense that a chick will do what she wants. You can't tell a hoe she can't go to the clubs to ride diks.

However YOU can choose not to date or commit to this kind of woman.

If you don't want a bar slut of a GF simply don't date one.. Pump and dump, move on to quality chicks!

 

[flowtheory]

Some good info in here.

However, I’m curious why out of the blue you messaged her “you ok?” And she just said “I’m fine”

Were you guys fighting?

I mean, there’s clearly more to the story. And she was transparent on what she did last night... I have a feeling you may be smothering her? Give more details to the story otherwise it just paints her as shady. But the problem may be with how you’re acting which is a catalyst in to her going bar hopping with people.

Either way her actions are saying she’s out without inviting you.

 

[Glassguy]

Yea this is pretty much me. Who cares what she does when she isn't with you? If she is your exclusive GF... that's on you. If you don't trust her enough then you should not be in a LTR with a chick.

The truth is you really can't completely trust any of them... but good luck trying.

I am with you Ranger.

Who wants to be with a chick (LTR sense) that they feel as if they have to watch like a hawk or manipulate to keep around? If she would rather go out clubbing with her friends, thats fine. She is either going to do it in front of you or behind your back. The more I have learned about women, the more I realize that once they get this little fantasy in their head and decide to do something, they are going to do it regardless.

Its a major sign of disrespect to "go out clubbing" especially without the partner's knowledge while dating exclusively. I dont care if I have been talking to a chick for 2 months or 3 years in a LTR....once this happens I am done with it. Simply silence and distance. I refuse to argue with them.

The key is to hold frame and covertly send her this message as part of your ongoing frame:

Want to go out exploring what available c0cks are out there with your friends? Live it up. I hope you find a good one because you can go kick rocks.....your not coming back here.

 

[Spaz]

Well, it is not normal for the girls I date to go clubbing often and get drunk.

Why? Because getting drunk is a bad habit and it means you lose at least half control over yourself, an overall sign of poor-decision making when sober and surely after you get drunk AND secondly, because I personally do not see the fun in clubbin. Yes, you might go and dance your ass off once in a while, but if you go every weekend or every other weekend...nah. No girl that was worth it for me went clubbing more than once a month or even more rarely than that.

I'll fvck a party girl, they're fun.

But I'll never date 'em.

 

[Spaz]

Lizardking is on the MONEY

I mean think about it.. What goes on in bars and clubs?

You have a bunch of people INTOXICATED under the influence of alcohol and most likely some drugs too.

You then have a bunch of hoes, barely even dressed, titties and pussies hanging out all over the place... You got a bunch of SINGLE men, desperately looking to get there DIKS wet!

It's a FACT one of the side effects of drinking alcohol is, it LOWERS INHIBITIONS.. And you are MORE likely to engage in RISKY behaviour, such as taking several DIKS in the club toilets..

You take a bunch of intoxicated, horny people and put them under one roof, with loud music.. What do you think is going to happen? A fukin prayer meeting? NOPE!

If your GF is visiting the clubs and bars on a regular basis.. Its only a matter of time, till she starts TAKING DIKS!

I 100% can vouch for this.

I used to own a club, I've seen shiet that has taken me by complete surprise.

 

[sosousage]

I'll fvck a party girl, they're fun.

But I'll never date 'em.

recently one chick danced in front of me in her house naked and i was like damn she can dance... shes also club hopping once or twice a week. she wanted me to dance with her but i said no. she would realise i cant dance lul. anyway sometimes i wish i can


she danced like if you were to check pro dancers on youtube, but i dont think she took any lessons, some people just feel it


while im more like wood, hahaha

 

[CMNILS87]

Why? Sounds a little insecure.



Yeah damn, I was initially thinking who cares it's not like it's every weekend like what was happening with @soulforge 's ex milf...
...then I read that it's not even his gf. Over and he still believes....

Those 2 statements are insecure? I use them all the time, we both have “pretend lovers”. But she then self deprecated saying nobody will date her

 

[Dash Riprock]

So the f*uck what if she went out "without you??" BFD. It doesn't male her a w*hore, have red flags, she's not f*ucking Chad, whatever. For crying out loud, get a grip everyone.

Do you NEED her with you 24/7 to have a good time? Plus, you don't OWN her. She can have her own life and fun without you--it's allowed. Instead of acting all needy and beta like most are propagating in this thread, be a confident MAN of value and say, "Great! Have a fun time! I'll talk to you tomorrow." Only someone insecure would do other.

 

[Spaz]

So the f*uck what if she went out "without you??" BFD. It doesn't male her a w*hore, have red flags, she's not f*ucking Chad, whatever. For crying out loud, get a grip everyone.

Do you NEED her with you 24/7 to have a good time? Plus, you don't OWN her. She can have her own life and fun without you--it's allowed. Instead of acting all needy and beta like most are propagating in this thread, be a confident MAN of value and say, "Great! Have a fun time! I'll talk to you tomorrow." Only someone insecure would do other.

It's not about confidence. Neither is it abt insecurities.

And u r right, it's about value. It's abt being smart.

I'll tell you this, from experience, from actually actively participating in that life style for maybe 2 decades and a good 4 years as a former owner of a nightclub; 90% of women that patronised a club will cheat, the 7% that doesn't cheat is because she's either too fat or too ugly or too old.

Then there's 3% that doesn't cheat, they've there to merely celebrate after a wedding with the newly weds or being supportive of their bff who just broke up etc.

I might be wrong +/- 1 or 2 points on the % but it's generally about there in my estimation.

 

[D.Savage]

Bruh, why does it bother you for her to go out without you? You sound beta as **** lol, you should have so much going on in your own life you dont even keep up with her enough to even notice her doing **** like that. Your girl should be trying to keep up with you not the other way around.

Your her boyfriend not her father lol of course she could of let you know what her plans were, i mean that would be the respectful thing for her to do, but her going out without you is not the issue, its how she went about it.

She doesnt respect you or fear losing you, hence her actions(i could be wrong) what you should do? Tell her "If you ever do something like that again your ass will be single"
Withdrawl your affection/attention and act distant for awhile, punish her bad behavior. Please do not feel sorry for her or let her manipulate you because thats exactly what she is going to do.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

There's a lot of cucks ITT.

Lulz at gf attention whoring at the bar without you. She should reach op how to spin plates. Lulz at cucks and their lack of boundaries.

 

[Reykhel]

Those 2 statements are insecure? I use them all the time, we both have “pretend lovers”. But she then self deprecated saying nobody will date her

Get you. Read it another way.

 

[soulforge]

So the f*uck what if she went out "without you??" BFD. It doesn't male her a w*hore, have red flags, she's not f*ucking Chad, whatever. For crying out loud, get a grip everyone.

Do you NEED her with you 24/7 to have a good time? Plus, you don't OWN her. She can have her own life and fun without you--it's allowed. Instead of acting all needy and beta like most are propagating in this thread, be a confident MAN of value and say, "Great! Have a fun time! I'll talk to you tomorrow." Only someone insecure would do other.

It's a matter of personal choice.. If you CHOOSE to get into Relationships with woman who are OFTEN getting drunk in clubs and bars, then stop fukin complaining and getting all INSECURE over these hoe!

I personally choose not to invest LONG TERM in bar sluts.. I feel they are a LIABILITY..

If you make your bed, then fukin lay in it.