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SgtSplacker
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Fat is kind of a general term, I don't care if someone is just barely obese. Now the morbidly obese people are a problem, always depressed, hygiene issues, food complexes, etc. I would avoid someone like that also. I would never deny friendship over a little pudge here and there. For me to accept someone as a friend we need to have something in common, I don't really care what they look like as long as it is not freak show material.
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From the title I thought it was something horrible....So what if she doesn't like fat people? She can't like everything you like!! Everybody has different opinions on everything!! That is how people are!! If you see this as a problem...then get rid of her!!zinc4 said:
You can still be kind and not like something!! As long as she is kind to you....that is what you should be concerned about!!. why did you cheat on a kind person?zinc4 said:
chinks? When you're cheating on someone......things start to bother you about them that never did before....you think less of them....you seem them differently in a negative way...then you look for excuses to dump them. What do you think chicks do to guys? They cheat on them.....pick fights with them....think negative of them ....and then they dump them!!zinc4 said:
I don't see any point for you to be in this LTR. You see her as negative person....you cheated on her...so obviously she isn't a good LTR to begin with.....otherwise you would be happy and not cheating!! You should happy with an LTR....she isn't making you happy!!
Don't waste your time with a chick who you already feel you have no future plans with!! That is a waste of time!! Find someone who fits the bill!!
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Nothing wrong with being. They are cute like hippos
buzzin_frog said:
You are probably right...i have no more excuses...i know overall, she is great person and I have been a bad person toward her...she decided to take a one month break from me to see if i could get it together....but i am going to have to tell her to find someone more serious than me because she does deserve that...it's difficult though because we are best friends and it goes way beyond sex or romantic dating stuff...
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I was fat, about 270 pounds. The amount of female interest I got was pretty much zero, despite being witty, charming, intelligent and well paid.
I got down to like 180 pounds, and the interest went up. I am now at 200, so about 20-30 pounds overweight, have a belly and some love handles, even minor man boobs, but my shoulders are defined and my legs and arms aren't fat as they were at 270.
I genuinely don't find much difference being a little overweight and being quite skinny. A lot of women, especially as they get older, are less body fascist and sometimes they don't want a man to be skinnier and hotter than they are for a relationship. The other thing is that a man who is a little chubby but has game, and sexual confidence beats a ripped guy who isn't sexually confident hands down.
I don't hate fat people in the slightest. I think it's sad they are how they are, and being pretty fat previously, I know how unhappy they are, but hate them? That's odd. Of course I HATE it when fat chicks show interest in me, I take it as an insult that I could be deemed to ever be attracted to them.
The odd things is that I have found the more poor/trailer trash the man, the more they are in to fat chicks. No idea why.
I personally hate attractive people more than fat people. People (especially very hot women who know it, but guys too) who haven't had to develop their character and just live off the look. It helps in jobs, business and relationships and I have no time for those who get a free ride. Also, most of these people genuinely believe that it's their inherent awesomeness which causes their success, and boy will they have a let down when they get older.
No hate for the fat. Pity maybe, but like I say, I have far more hate for the naturally lucky than the unfortunate.
I got down to like 180 pounds, and the interest went up. I am now at 200, so about 20-30 pounds overweight, have a belly and some love handles, even minor man boobs, but my shoulders are defined and my legs and arms aren't fat as they were at 270.
I genuinely don't find much difference being a little overweight and being quite skinny. A lot of women, especially as they get older, are less body fascist and sometimes they don't want a man to be skinnier and hotter than they are for a relationship. The other thing is that a man who is a little chubby but has game, and sexual confidence beats a ripped guy who isn't sexually confident hands down.
I don't hate fat people in the slightest. I think it's sad they are how they are, and being pretty fat previously, I know how unhappy they are, but hate them? That's odd. Of course I HATE it when fat chicks show interest in me, I take it as an insult that I could be deemed to ever be attracted to them.
The odd things is that I have found the more poor/trailer trash the man, the more they are in to fat chicks. No idea why.
I personally hate attractive people more than fat people. People (especially very hot women who know it, but guys too) who haven't had to develop their character and just live off the look. It helps in jobs, business and relationships and I have no time for those who get a free ride. Also, most of these people genuinely believe that it's their inherent awesomeness which causes their success, and boy will they have a let down when they get older.
No hate for the fat. Pity maybe, but like I say, I have far more hate for the naturally lucky than the unfortunate.
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I dont understand why you are so surprised or mad at such lines, its pretty much how any everyday girl reason right now.
They are superficial in any possible way, any girl tries to deal with people as good looking as possible according to her league, you will hardly find a hot girl which goes out with ugly guys and ugly girls.
Anyone who worked with girls or had them around enough knows that they can be kitten or tigers according to the look and status of the person they are dealing with while giving no weight to human features of such person.
OP you simply got an honest answer from a girl, that would be like for you to say that you like blonde girls with big boobs and slim ass.
They are superficial in any possible way, any girl tries to deal with people as good looking as possible according to her league, you will hardly find a hot girl which goes out with ugly guys and ugly girls.
Anyone who worked with girls or had them around enough knows that they can be kitten or tigers according to the look and status of the person they are dealing with while giving no weight to human features of such person.
OP you simply got an honest answer from a girl, that would be like for you to say that you like blonde girls with big boobs and slim ass.
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That's a bomb?
Who the hell cares if she doesn't like fatties? I can't see how it's anything but a good thing - hopefully means that she'll never get fat.
Who the hell cares if she doesn't like fatties? I can't see how it's anything but a good thing - hopefully means that she'll never get fat.
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Cosign on what Tomthebomb said.
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That there are many people who do something bad, doesn't mean it is wrong to think they shouldn't do the bad thing.Bible_Belt said:
Besides, it's only in the U.S. ... and Mexico ... then come the UK, Slovakia and Greece. Seriously, every time I see statistics by country it is north European countries, and sometimes Italy, in the better end of the list together with Korea and Japan. Shape up, rest of the world.
I agree with backbreaker that, so what? Here in the forum people constantly talk about how you should next girls for obesity or other flaws. But girls are not allowed to have standards for who they associate with?
I think backbreaker is wrong in saying we are living in a "shallow" society, though. In all times people have liked slim and athletic figures; just look at Greek statues from 2,500 years ago. (And every time you bring this up someone says "What about Zorn's paintings!" Screw Zorn, one painter with a fatty fetish, so what. Then they say "fat was beautiful in the Middle Ages!" No, it wasn't, it was a status symbol, that's different. They still loved athletic figures back then. Look at the Medieval paintings of Jesus and his disciples in churches, they were made to look slim and attractive, not fat.)
Why is that? Because being slim and athletic is a sign of health. We are strongly attracted to signs of health. Smooth skin, lush hair, clear eyes, good teeth, certain body proportions that research has confirmed. Everyone in SoSuave should know this by now.
I have fat people among my relatives. I disapprove. They are not helpless victims, they could do something about it. If I can stop myself from eating potato chips and chocolate, even when I want it badly, then so can anyone - I have more of a sweet tooth than practically anyone I know.
You should especially do it for the sake of your partner, or for your future partner. It makes us unhappy to see signs of gross unhealth, why would you want to expose your partner to that? Or your friends, and other people? Our sense of aesthetics is enormously strong and affects everything we build, even down to small details in every object, so imagine if we violate the aesthetics where it is the most important, in human beings. Then you make both yourself and people who see you a little less happy - or a lot less happy. You have a duty to improve the world, and that includes being the best person you can be. That is why I don't improve of obesity or anything else that adds something negative to the world. It is not shallow; ignoring duty is shallow. You have only one life, use it in the best possible way. That does not include stuffing eclairs down your throat.
Thundernuts
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To the cut the crap aside, I'm gonna have to agree with most of what Backbreaker said cuz honestly i do the same thing. Exception being i have a friend who is 250 lbs but he's strong as an ox and he's always had my back.
Seriously, we all have relationships with women based on looks and personality, friendships are the same way because people will judge you based on who you are seen with and obese people have alot of poor qualities that Wolfgang D jas just pointed out. I hang out with my friend because his personality compensates for his weight, and its funny when people think they can fight him and he beats the crap out of them (seen this twice).
Celebrities are people who's image is everything. How many celebrities do you see hanging out with obese people? Better yet, how many 10's (males and females) do you see hanging out with obese people.
This world is the biggest b!tch of them all.
To the cut the crap aside, I'm gonna have to agree with most of what Backbreaker said cuz honestly i do the same thing. Exception being i have a friend who is 250 lbs but he's strong as an ox and he's always had my back.
Seriously, we all have relationships with women based on looks and personality, friendships are the same way because people will judge you based on who you are seen with and obese people have alot of poor qualities that Wolfgang D jas just pointed out. I hang out with my friend because his personality compensates for his weight, and its funny when people think they can fight him and he beats the crap out of them (seen this twice).
Celebrities are people who's image is everything. How many celebrities do you see hanging out with obese people? Better yet, how many 10's (males and females) do you see hanging out with obese people.
This world is the biggest b!tch of them all.
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As a black man, I am a proud chubby chaser and also very biased. My physical standards for chubby women are SO much higher than for that of thinner women. Your waist needs to be the narrowest part and your hip/ass your widest. Also, your arms can't be bigger than mine (I'll make an exception depending how "lean" it is but fat wings are unacceptable). With that being said, I guess I am shallow but I don't care. If my soldier doesn't salute, then I get ridiculed. I didn't create my attraction; I simply perpuate it.