I actually do benefit from this woman. She cooks, cleans and doesn't mind paying when we go out (with her debit card). I also try to keep things evenly by paying for stuff. She's assured me her debt is her problem that she's dealing with. I also believe in keeping things separate and I don't intend to ever get married. I just brought it to the board to see if there could be something that I'm overlooking. But good info all around.