Getting to know someone who is long distance

Rhino22

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This girl came into my work with her dad like almost 2 weeks ago. I recognized her from before because she actually use to work weekends and one of my co-workers told me that she asked about me because she thought I was hot.

So, she was there with her Dad. I couldn't really say anything or get her number in a situation like that. As soon as I walked into the room (Im a vet tech) she kinda looked to the ground (shy?) I remembered my friend telling me what she said before though so I figured she must be attracted to me.

So they left. I didn't think anything of it but decided to look her up on facebook. I know it wasn't the coolest thing ever but I had no other choice. So I did, and I sent her a request with a message that read, "You were in my work today right?" She accepted and said, "Yes! How are you?" Then she IM's me right away. She had to leave to go back to college the next morning and its 2 hours away! I asked her that night if she wanted to to to a rave with me and she said she would but she was getting up early and said when she comes into town on a weekend she would hang out. I gave her my number and said she could text me sometime.

The next day she wrote me and said.. "That number you gave me...I might have lost it" and then gave me her number right there.

So we have texted a bit since then. SHe will send me a random text and I will respond to her question like, "How is your day going?" and she wont reply again for hours. Is this weird? WHen I get on facebook she will initiate an IM session but will also seem busy and might disappear. I know she's into me based on physical attraction atleast because has said so and I have told her that I think she's cute. How can I really keep someone like this interested though? Maybe just kinda blow her off until she's actually in town?

Our TEXTING and IMing is weird though...I mean we don't talk about much I guess. We're both really busy. How should I really pursue her? Just wait until she comes back to town to really get to know her?

I know you're going to tell me to forget it because she's far away or whatever, but Ive actually nailed a couple different girls right before this one lol. Im not your typical guy on a conquest. And besides, this girl actually is...the hottest girl in the world. Im not joking at all. I remember her coming into my work before and I was just hoping I would see her again and what do you know? I have her number and she sends me random texts.
 

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Two hours is not impossibly far away. Find an excuse to be near her for a concert or event, and tell her to go with you. Do this soon, in the next weekend or two. Go out with her, have a great time, and at the end of the evening tell her that you don't feel like driving home so will be getting a hotel and of course she should join you there for one more drink. Then accidentally have sex with her.

also, this old craigslist post has some good advice:
http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/sfo/72823945.html
 

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Lol ok. How much $ do you think I should have for all this? It's kind of tight for me right now.
 

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She wrote on my facebook today, "I'm gonna be in town by you this weekend...coffee? =)"

I text her and said, "I know it's kind of an odd time but what do you think about Sunday evening?" Explained to her that I have a lot going on already. She said, "Maybe. I'm suppose to meet someone but I don't know when. That would be nice though =)"

Is she playin games? I can't just drop everything in my life to hang out sooner...
 

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No worries. Just text her on Sunday afternoon. If she says no, then don't take it personally. If she wants to see you, then be casual about it.
 

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Why are you wasting time on chicks you can't see on a regular basis?
 
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Yeah, anyway we hung out Sunday and the chemistry was insane. Never really clicked with anyone like that before. We went back to my place and had crazy intense sex (the best I've ever had). This girl is a 10! lol After that we hung out in bed for a while and then I took her home (which happens to be like 3 mins away from me) SHe said she absolutely wants to see me again when she's in town but she's also talking about me going to see her there. Ha.

So what do I do? Obviously Im not gonna try talking to this girl everyday right? We've been sending each other little texts every now and then then through out the day but thats it and on facebook the other night. She told me, "I hope you don't mind but I boasted to my friends for a bit about the other night. Not full details though." Im pretty sure this chick really digs me.
 

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We went back to my place and had crazy intense sex (the best I've ever had). This girl is a 10!

:up:


So what do I do?...Im pretty sure this chick really digs me.

Let me tell you first how most guys would handle it, the afc way. They would start calling and texting her constantly, flooding her with attention. Then they would start asking what she is doing every minute of the day and interrogating her about other guys. All of this codependency and insecurity would then destroy whatever attraction the girl originally had.

So be different. Be cool like Fonzie. Let her fall in love with you without it being obvious that you feel the same way about her. Spend time with her when you have the time, and enjoy what you have while it lasts. But don't worry about what she's doing when you're not around. Let her be the one calling and texting more often.

Congratulations again on a job well done. Now don't fvck it up.
 

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Haha ok. Yeah, I have been keeping the texts light. She knows I like her though.

So, should I not initiate any texts/calls?

And just to throw in something funny one my co-workers just hooked up with this guy in one of her classes and she said the sex was awful. Now he's texting her constantly and he said, "Im sure you can step outside of the office for a minute and call me" Wow, what a clinger. No, I would never be like this haha.
 
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