Yea same situation..
Hey Mazeman11,
I'm not going to tell you what to do, but I went through this same situation (South Asian descent). We dated for over 8 years and my parents were in a constant state of apeshyt about it for more than 6 years. It caused a lot of strain between my family and me and eventually the relationship ended, but I'm happy now that I stuck to my guns and have no regrets. It's just another part of life to be experienced by people that are straddling two cultures, I guess.
In the end, you're the one that's going to be satisfied or regretful with your life decisions. That's why I made the decisions I felt were the most congruent with myself, despite all the guilt trips that my parents tried to smother me with, like saying how I was basically betraying them by dating a girl from a different ethnicity.
It sounds ridiculous to me now that someone's greatest fear in life should be that one's son is going to end up with someone from a different ethnic background. It just seems selfish because it puts supreme importance on some arbitrary measure of success only relevant to themselves. I think when I have kids myself, my greatest concern in their life would be that they don't have desire or put in the effort to be the best/happiest people that they can be or that maybe their life would end prematurely. I really can't relate to this 'fear' anymore and now that I'm older and much more independent in my thought, it just seems really stupid.
Well, eventually they accepted the girl and liked her a lot, but we broke up for other reasons. I'm pretty happy with how things went in the end. I felt like someone who could stick by my beliefs - my parents (and her parents) respect me for that. I don't feel like I would deserve any respect if I ditched the girl just because my parents wanted me to.
The only thing I would really not do again is letting all the pressure and guilt trips and mental games from my parents get to me and affect me badly. I'd do my best to take it in stride and realize that South Asian parents are just fvcking crazy sometimes. Oh yea that and being a bit of an AFC with the girl towards the end, but that's another story