getting numbers, but no dates???

[djbegin]

someome please give me some advice on what i'm doing wrong.

i have no problems going in and talking to a girl and immediately creating a connection in some way. i use good eye contact, kino, ...etc and usually close by getting the girls number. but when i call her whether it be 5 days later or whatever, it seems they are not really interested anymore. i seem to get the answering machine or she says she will call and won't.

this has happened to me a few times and these girls can't all be flaky. i read on some other posts to try not to focus on getting a girls number and more on creating a connection. i feel like i'm doing that, but i guess not enough or what? anyone that has had this happen to them or knows what i should change about my game.

thanks

 

[Phrozen]

Mix it up a bit and try calling girls after maybe 2 days of waiting. Perhaps you're not giving a good enough impression to make them remember you after 5 days.

 

[The_Mole]

i have the same problem, but only because i dont call them because i live near campus and dont have a car too go on a date with.

 

[Pecker]

you need to REALLY stop caring about what you SAY or DO with these girls. start experimenting and pushing those boundaries of what is acceptable and what isn't.

whenever you start to feel nervous, or start worrying about f'ing up, remember to get playful

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

Its all a numbers game. On average i get about 1 phone number for every 4-5 cold pu attempts. Dates ratio are even lower. The bible says to expect 10-15 no's for every yes.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

The Peckster is right. Stop worrying too much about the mechanics and just do it. Only by experimenting will you know how much is too much or too little. And also, I would stay away from the KINO before you even ask for the number. A lot of girls get unconfortable with that, so they'll do anything to get rid of the creep who's too touchy, even give him the phone number just to escape. So they've rejected you even before you made that phone call. Go figure that out.

Something to think about...

 

[DYDevotee]

I'll show some pity and help you out

-I have quite a knock-out of a girl friend and she gets approached all the time by guys, and she makes fun of them all the time and says all the dumb things they're doing.

-So here's the stitch,

1. girls are in general ruder over the phone then in person.

2. girls lose that "connection" quickly and it needs to be reestablished.

3. hot girls get hit on all the time, you're just another joe nobody until you get that spark going.

4. because they get called all the time by guys, it's easy to forget about you unless you give them reason not to.


So remember, if you wait 5 days before calling, you're back to ground zero with her. as far as a connection goes.

 

[djbegin]

thanks for the advice, i definately agree that a girl loses a connection pretty quickly and think that is one of my major mistakes is waiting too long to contact them.
also, i think that i don't make myself a challenge enough to these girls so they have nothing to work for. any thoughts on how to avoid this. thanks

 

[1hepcat]

I kept track for a while and it turns out I can predict with over 95% accuracy which girls will go out with me after asking for the number. It's really simple: If she is enthusiastic about giving you the number, she likes you and will go out with you, even if you wait 5 days to call. If she doesn't like you, she will give you the number after a pause and you will see a different look on her face. Examples:

I ask Jenny for her number. She immediately perks up and smiles and says, "Sure!" and reaches into her purse to get a pen. Writes it down for me, including her name. Or if I write it down she makes sure I have it right. "OK, this is my home number, and here's my cell." I have her home and cell numbers both, that's really good.

I ask Amy for her number. She pauses for a second, her facial expression turns kind of serious and says "um... 555-2394. (a cell number; maybe she indicates it's her cell)" but doesn't offer to write it down.

 

[MrBond007]

Originally posted by 1hepcat
I"um... 555-2394. (a cell number; maybe she indicates it's her cell)" but doesn't offer to write it down.

She gave you a "555" number.IDIOT!

 

[ZeeOwl]

Uh... I think it was just an example ... lol