Getting Lucky...In A Different Way.

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It's often stated that most AFC's "get lucky." That is, whenever they find a GF, it was out of sheer luck. Perhaps it was through friends, or the stars aligned properly, whatever the case was, you didn't make your own luck, chance just happened.

Well...I find that, the harder I work, the luckier I become.

The more opportunities you pursue, the more opportunity for what is considered luck, can occur.

The more women you approach, the more flavor you get, and the more opportunities you meet a woman you will find that you can instantly connect with. Moreover, there ARE women out there who want EXACTLY what you've got. For whatever reason (usually some limiting belief), it's stuck in your head that you can't approach, she won't like you, or you're not compatible.

Some key points...

1. Successful people, and men successful at finding good love lives, make their own luck.

It's been harassed to no end, but I'm putting it in definite writing. The more women you approach, meet date, even chat with, the more chances you'll find the nude model, the girl digs porn, loves sports, is a horny librarian, or any of the above. Amongst my friends, I usually stop telling them what kind of girl she is, because THEY NEVER approach, and when they found out what 'type' of girl she is, they're all over her. I've had friends to try to girls I've dated away, so I keep stuff personal. It's not need to know, nor is it funny battle stories. They're just interesting tidbits that you learn there's a wide array of women, and the more women I've been willing to succumb to, the more women I've been able to meet and realize there's flavor for everyone.

2. Women exist out there looking for you. Just as gold and oil existed for the man who discovered it, so, too, does the woman(women) you seek.

Think I'm lying? Ever roll up on a girl excited to meet you? Maybe she was 'into' your type very much. Or maybe you noticed your personality amongst friends. Whatever the case maybe, in a club of 100 girls, 50 will be available for chit-chat. Take a few seconds to pluck out some interestings and just meet them. No reason to make it a big deal or get a whorish rep. You're just being social.

The very fact that 'different' women exist who aren't compatible substantiates the fact that, 'different' men exist to be compatible with them. Your uniqueness is an asset, that gives you strength amongst certain girls ready and willing to meet you. At these times, C&F or seduction are just bonuses. You've already cracked the code and the sale is made. Enjoy things, keep it exciting, and know yourself.

3. If you accept nothing but the very best, you very often get it.

If your goal is to date 8's and only approach girls you're attracted to, then you'll only date hot girls. Yes, you can gain confidence by talking to someone you're not attracted to, BUT, I find the conversations to be somewhat different emotionally. When you're talking to a girl you don't necessarily like, there's no remorse or regret over loss. You felt nothing, and were not fearful of losing anything.

And while you can't be upset over not connecting with that hottie, it still takes several hottie-approaches to gain the feeling and confidence within us to persevere. Once you instill the feeling you've approached a hottie before, and succeeded, that confidence is implanted in you FOREVER. It only takes some rejection and some success to do so.

So by approaching only girls you're attracted to, you up your odds of being successful with them and also of meeting more hotties to be with. When we're young, the tendency is to date whoever, and in time, the attraction fades quicker with someone we're not as attracted to. As you age, you go for what you want and stick with it, and that's all you get. Hoorah!

It's not rocket science, is just a matter of discipline and sticking with the routine of going for those women you deserve and are attracted to. And for those not believing or haven't experienced it, the more you approach, the luckier you get.

Out of 100 approaches and conversations that last 5 minutes. You could easily meet 5 girls who'd be easy to connect with. Five more who'd turn over in time to be great dates. Probably 50 who will go no further than conversations. And a host of others that are in between.


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Some good points here. I'm reminded of JWhite's daily journal of cold approaches (I'm too lazy to link to it but I'd recommend searching for it and reading it if you haven't already). At the end he does a breakdown of the statistics of his success rate, with some interesting results. Most approaches yielded a number. A few numbers yielded a date. I think about half the dates included making out, and one led to an actual relationship. This was out of like 50 approaches I think...

It really is a numbers game. Individual rejections mean nothing except that you two weren't compatible. Even when you're only approaching ones you're interested in, it's still only a matter of time before you find one that returns that interest. The more you approach, the better your overall chances, the more your confidence goes up, the more connections you make, etc.

It's not about success or failure, just meeting people and trying to connect. There's really nothing to lose.
 

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I remember back when I used to say stuff like, "All women are the same."

I've dealt with enough women to know that there are all kinds of chicks out there including chicks that are ALOT of fun to be with
(in and out of bed).

I've come to appreciate many types of women but for whatever reason it seems that the type that seeks me out the most are the ones that are cute but a little wacked out in the head.

I personally think all women are a little crazy (maybe the hormones or whatever) and irratic but there are two different kinds of crazy in a chick.

There's good crazy and bad crazy.

Good crazy is a cute chick who does things sometimes that make no sense but she's not seriously irritating or too dificult to deal with and often you can just shake your head and laugh at the sh*t she does.

Then you have your chicks that are REALLY crazy and might f*ck around and cut your a$$.

I've dealt with both and I run when I sense anything like the second one.
 

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Re:

I agree, some girls are whack. To me, we're the ying and yang of life. Yes, extremely crazy girls make your life hectic and troublesome. On the flip-side it's the minor eccentricities and oddities that are attractive and add to the fun.

They're not all the enemy, just as NOT all us guys are going to be friends. So pitting it as men vs women is a losing battle. Us men are more competitors than we are versus women. To a degree, systems, tips, etc, have an air of absolutism to them. As if you HAVE to use C&F to win over every chick. Hardly. Worse, if it's not as natural for you, and you're ad-libbing everything, there will come a point it runs.

Know that, just like all your unique friends, there also exist just as fun, different, and potentially like yourself.

My buddy Kev always uses the common sensical approach to this, and, that's what develops over years anyway, as he's 38. His insight is instrumental at balancing out youth vs maturity. Bottom line...

"If she isn't meeting you half way, you don't have a relationship. Period. End of story. A friendship doesn't exist on anything less, so why would you expect anything different from dating?"

"If it hurts, why are you doing it? Notice the red flags NOW! Don't wait until you're at the edge to change course. Warning signs are on ski resorts to prevent accidents, not as markers on a trail for more fun."

"Chill back and have fun. Don't try to speed up or direct a relationship. Each and every cool girl will fit your life in someway. Let it ride out. So long as you're not hurting anyone intentionally, you've done no wrong, so enjoy your life."

"Be up front and honest. There's no sense on deferring pay, for you or someone else. It might hurt more now, but as time goes on, the pain, or pleasure, deepens. So be a man about it."

The dating stuff isn't rocket science, we only seem to make it that way on this site. I like the info, to a degree, and meet cool people, but if you're spending even an hour a day worrying about it, that's 59 minutes too many. Meeting a girl is simply about pleasure in your life. If it's just a sex thing, so be it. Make sure you see eye to eye and you're not someone's puppy dog. Know that it's just sex so you don't get hurt or overly attached. If it's a relationship, go no more than 50%, and keep it in perspective by viewing this relationship through the same viewer you do friendships and family members. If you wouldn't do it for family, or for a long-time friend, why a girl, or a new friend?




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