I will try to keep this short. I don't usually ask for help here, but I am so stumped I have no idea what to do next.
So I met this girl probably a month ago or so. Never really talked too much before that, but it came on all of a sudden, probably because word got around that I helped some less fortunate people with their groceries. Anyways, we get talking and what not. Bit of small talk here and there. Then about 3 days after constant talking whenever we saw each other, she asked me if I had facebook. Well I didn't, and I told her that some people had always wanted me to get one, and that I would think about it. This probably wasn't very good at the time, but I have come to love FB. So I made one that night, never told her that I only made because of her though. She added me the next day. We didn't really talk too much the next couple of days. Just the same old small talk here and there.
Fast forward to Valentines Day. I sent her a message around noon saying Rhinoceros. Of course she gets angry because she was expecting a "Happy Valentines Day" or some crap. I figure that is kind of weird, most friends don't say that to each other, or do they? But we messaged each other constantly that day, probably until 1 am or so. The next day she asked me how my day was, told her nothing really exciting since I was single. The messaging went on for probably the next 10 days, with only 2 days with no messages sent, but we did see each other those 2 days. For the first couple days I would always send the first message, usually harassing her about sleeping in or something. But then she started messaging me first, so I figure she is putting effort into it, and that she is thinking of me. Good signs I think. Then she starts using my "technique" and gives me a hard time about sleeping late. I would try to get her talking about herself, how her day is going and what her kids are up to. Just looked, we have over 200 messages, plus the messenger so its quite a bit. But I did leave lots of time in between every couple messages, usually 3-5 minutes between messages then 1-2 hours every 4-9 messages or so. And her friend added me on facebook, even though we have only talked once before. Im not really up on the facebook regularities and if people do that or not I have no idea, I really only use it to message this girl.
Last saturday I sent her a message asking if she was doing anything, yea last minute on a saturday probably wasn't good, and she said probably not, and asked why. I replied "so I can creep you" because it was a joke we had going. Then I replied right after that asking if she wanted to do something with me, but she says she is sick. I figure oh well, nice excuse I'm done wasting time. But then the next day she comes to see me, doesn't look sick anymore so I figure it was an excuse, but why did she come to see me?
She also got a tattoo today. She told me about a week and a half ago. But it was weird because I don't think she told very many people. Just her really close friends. She put the sketch of the tattoo up on facebook and asked for my input on it. I told her what I thought, then as soon as she knew I had seen the picture she took it down. She never said ANYTHING about it on her facebook, so I just don't understand why she wanted to show me, and ask what I thought about it since we hadn't been friends very long. Well as it turns out, what I told her I didn't like about the tattoo was almost identical to what she got changed on the picture, so I thought that was kind of weird. She told me she would show me the tattoo on sunday.
She is a really cool person, seems really happy to see me, very good looking, we get along really good. One reason I think that she is being so hesitant with me is that she turns 26 in a week, and I am only 17. That is probably really different for her, and I understand that so it may take a while for her to accept that. Also, one of her really close friends was just diagnosed with MS about 3 weeks ago, so I imagine that lots of stuff is going through her head.
So my question is, does it seem at all like I have chance? I know I think I do, but I like to think that a lot. Like I said I did ask her once, and I will ask her once more probably wednesday for a friday/saturday date. She has kids so she needs to find someone to look after them and whatever else, so 3 days should be enough to make plans if she wants to. Also the age difference could really come into play on this, since it would limit the number of places we could go, although I don't think she goes to the bar that often.
Im not that lost I guess and writing this out puts into perspective, just looking for some guidance on anything I might have done wrong but I don't see anything too major. Time will tell I guess
So I met this girl probably a month ago or so. Never really talked too much before that, but it came on all of a sudden, probably because word got around that I helped some less fortunate people with their groceries. Anyways, we get talking and what not. Bit of small talk here and there. Then about 3 days after constant talking whenever we saw each other, she asked me if I had facebook. Well I didn't, and I told her that some people had always wanted me to get one, and that I would think about it. This probably wasn't very good at the time, but I have come to love FB. So I made one that night, never told her that I only made because of her though. She added me the next day. We didn't really talk too much the next couple of days. Just the same old small talk here and there.
Fast forward to Valentines Day. I sent her a message around noon saying Rhinoceros. Of course she gets angry because she was expecting a "Happy Valentines Day" or some crap. I figure that is kind of weird, most friends don't say that to each other, or do they? But we messaged each other constantly that day, probably until 1 am or so. The next day she asked me how my day was, told her nothing really exciting since I was single. The messaging went on for probably the next 10 days, with only 2 days with no messages sent, but we did see each other those 2 days. For the first couple days I would always send the first message, usually harassing her about sleeping in or something. But then she started messaging me first, so I figure she is putting effort into it, and that she is thinking of me. Good signs I think. Then she starts using my "technique" and gives me a hard time about sleeping late. I would try to get her talking about herself, how her day is going and what her kids are up to. Just looked, we have over 200 messages, plus the messenger so its quite a bit. But I did leave lots of time in between every couple messages, usually 3-5 minutes between messages then 1-2 hours every 4-9 messages or so. And her friend added me on facebook, even though we have only talked once before. Im not really up on the facebook regularities and if people do that or not I have no idea, I really only use it to message this girl.
Last saturday I sent her a message asking if she was doing anything, yea last minute on a saturday probably wasn't good, and she said probably not, and asked why. I replied "so I can creep you" because it was a joke we had going. Then I replied right after that asking if she wanted to do something with me, but she says she is sick. I figure oh well, nice excuse I'm done wasting time. But then the next day she comes to see me, doesn't look sick anymore so I figure it was an excuse, but why did she come to see me?
She also got a tattoo today. She told me about a week and a half ago. But it was weird because I don't think she told very many people. Just her really close friends. She put the sketch of the tattoo up on facebook and asked for my input on it. I told her what I thought, then as soon as she knew I had seen the picture she took it down. She never said ANYTHING about it on her facebook, so I just don't understand why she wanted to show me, and ask what I thought about it since we hadn't been friends very long. Well as it turns out, what I told her I didn't like about the tattoo was almost identical to what she got changed on the picture, so I thought that was kind of weird. She told me she would show me the tattoo on sunday.
She is a really cool person, seems really happy to see me, very good looking, we get along really good. One reason I think that she is being so hesitant with me is that she turns 26 in a week, and I am only 17. That is probably really different for her, and I understand that so it may take a while for her to accept that. Also, one of her really close friends was just diagnosed with MS about 3 weeks ago, so I imagine that lots of stuff is going through her head.
So my question is, does it seem at all like I have chance? I know I think I do, but I like to think that a lot. Like I said I did ask her once, and I will ask her once more probably wednesday for a friday/saturday date. She has kids so she needs to find someone to look after them and whatever else, so 3 days should be enough to make plans if she wants to. Also the age difference could really come into play on this, since it would limit the number of places we could go, although I don't think she goes to the bar that often.
Im not that lost I guess and writing this out puts into perspective, just looking for some guidance on anything I might have done wrong but I don't see anything too major. Time will tell I guess
