Getting laid at college isn't as easy as I thought it would be...

[MisterD]

college is an ideal place to get laid

No it isn't. Maybe if the conditions are ideal.

Maybe if you dorm or if it's a big party school with a huge campus and thousands of freshman maybe it's like it is in the movies, but realistically that is not college for most people.

There's extreme competition because it seems like every dude is single yet every high quality hot girl has a boyfriend. Either at that school or another. So it's you and a bunch of other horny dudes competing for the same average chicks.

College is not a place where porn star looking girls bang any and every guy they meet. It's not an american pie movie. Sadly, most people find that out when they get there, and have their expectations crushed.

 

[BPH]

Read between the lines. Now read what Zerro said again. Listen to this too, nothing in life is etched in stone.

You've gotta keep on truckin'! Have you read my sticky threads with those common cases?

Check 'Em out!

Yeah I've read all your cases, I found them both interesting and informative. My issue is that I have confidence, looks, and I approach...so I figured that would put me in the top percentile of these guys that hit on these college girls.

But it doesn't seem that way yet. I want to be the minority that f***s the majority.

 

[Igetit!]

You make it sound like I have to sweep a girl off her feet to get a nut off...

And you make it sound like the mere fact you enrolled in college AUTOMATICALLY guarantees you sex.


Pimp-sicle gave you EXCELLENT advice,in fact,he gave you the ANSWER,but it seems like you just want to sit back and let you being enrolled do all the work.



Being in college doesn't guanatee you sex,it just give you more opportunity for it cause of all the girls on campus around you. If simply being in college meant sex,EVERY GUY would go to college.

Instead of guys going to hookers to lose their virginity,they'd enroll in higher education,lol.


You have to use "game" in college like out in the real world. Difference is in the real world,you have to go out to find girls,whereas in college,the girls are already there around you.


If you're a dude who can't get girls out in the world and you go to college,the odds of you having sex WILL go up,but that's cause of all the whole "numbers" thing. It's cause you have a higher number of women around you,not because "college" suddenly made you attractive to women.

I mean this sounds solid, but this sounds like a lot of effort for the OPPORTUNITY to f*** a girl.

Well you got to do something,can't just say to a girl,"Hi,I'm in college",then expect her to turn around and lift up her skirt. College ain't magic.

 

[Gro0ver]

If you're not already, time to start working on yourself.

- Hit the gym regularly
- Study and do well in your subjects (no brainer + it gives you access to brainy chicks)
- Do something to differentiate yourself (e.g. dancing, DJing, sports captain, art, debating, etc etc - aim to be the best in your college at something)

Also, widen your social circle as much as possible, don't just hang with the same people all the time. You will get invited to more parties, social events and get access to more chicks xD

If you're doing these things and are generally happy and outgoing, girls will be attracted to you naturally. You won't need to cold approach, and the benefit is that the girls who talk to you will be the ones that already dig you, rather then you going up to them and just hoping that attraction and circumstances are on your side, with the odds against you.

At the end of the day, college is a competitive environment. There's plenty of jocks and other alpha or wannabe-alpha types around that are after the girls too. Time to step your game up.

You're only 2 weeks in. Take a longer term view of your college life and your momentum will build until your bustin a nut all over chicks on a daily basis.

 

[kindasuave]

College is not that hard to get girls, but it depends what you want.

First off, if you just want to **** a girl the night you meet her.
DO NOT stay at the party longer than you need to. Once you have enough interest with her, ask her to get some food, say you're really hungry. Then when you get food, take it back to your dorm after and then its game over.

Its really easy to game a girl too much and to spend TOO much time with her at a party. The key is to leave alone with her once she is interested enough or else her friends could take her or she could start dancing with another guy or something you can't control

What IS hard about college is getting a GF. Unlike the real world where women have to work and don't live in a place where there are parties every night, in college girls are always meeting new guys and it makes it hard for one guy to get their attention so much that they go out with him.
This is what is hard for me and I can't seem to figure it out... but getting laid is not too hard

 

[Boilermaker]

Yeah I've read all your cases, I found them both interesting and informative. My issue is that I have confidence, looks, and I approach...so I figured that would put me in the top percentile of these guys that hit on these college girls.

But it doesn't seem that way yet. I want to be the minority that f***s the majority.

First of all, you are 18. I mean I am in that pool shopping for girls you are interested, too and compare you and me.

You are 18, you don't have money, I doubt you have a car, you more than likely have a room-mate, and you probably look boyish and inexperienced.

No matter how much of a player you are, there will be bottom-line facts that will limit your potential at this stage in life. And women can easily see the bottom-lines.

My advice is this. Step back, focus on your degree, have a little edge in your career path, because you already have that edge in your game skills. Pushing it and sarging every Friday to get that one more pvssy will lag you in your more important path right now.

Because when that nerd you are mocking now graduates with top grades and lands that job, he may eventually be more "attractive" than you.

Your prime hasn't come yet. Don't be obsessed with girls or pvssy. They are dumb and they slow you down anyway.

Good luck,

 

[foreverAFC]

Yeah I've read all your cases, I found them both interesting and informative. My issue is that I have confidence, looks, and I approach...so I figured that would put me in the top percentile of these guys that hit on these college girls.

But it doesn't seem that way yet. I want to be the minority that f***s the majority.

sounds like you might be being a bit too straight forward. women usually dont respond that well to strange guys coming up to them and shaking their hand and introducing themselves, if they can tell you are interested as you are walking up they might feel put on the spot. you need to engage them in a more subtle way that makes it seem like the interaction just happened randomly. like you are walking by, and say to a girl, hey were can i find a good place to eat around here or whatever. once the you have the conversation flowing a bit then you can ask her for her name and introduce yourself. but walking right up to them and asking their name and shaking their hands seems way too much, they immediately know you want them. dont try so hard.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

I had a friend with benefits back home, but here I can barely get a makeout. I don't really get it.

I have very good cold approach skills, a cool group of close friends who always find out about the fun parties and make even the most boring nights fun, and I would consider myself very physically attractive and confident.

But when I number close these girls and offer them to come hang out, I either get a flake or an apology for not texting me back the next day. And it just doesn't make sense...virgins lose their virginity in college and I've only made out with one girl in the 2 weeks since I got here.

Maybe I'm being too aggressive and skipping rapport but I have a floormate that is a very attractive guy, although not nearly as outgoing and only has a small social circle...yeah well he f***ed this really hot girl the first time she came to hang out with him and his friends.

Somebody let me know what I'm doing wrong. Aggressive and confident doesn't seem to be working at the moment.

You are at college. Not the playboy mansion. If you're freaking out over not getting much action in 2 weeks, you probably are too aggressive.

Relax. Have fun. Whatever you're doing is not working because you're putting too much emphasis on the end result and forcing things by the sounds of it.

 

[ArcBound]

Freshman year alcohol plays an enormously huge role in lays...

Focus on schoolwork but especially first semester focus on making friends, connections, getting to know a lot of people, party connections (people that know when a party is going on). Find a good pre-grame group that you vibe with, dress well when you go out to parties and bring your A-game.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Wow, a LOT of good advice on here.

I don't want to reiterate what anyone already said, so I'll just add on here. First off, full disclosure: I was a virgin all the way until I graduate from college (like, literally, I got laid for the first time a week after I knew I'd be graduating). At the time, I was (a) an AFC, and (b) trying to wait until marriage to have sex (thinking women would find it more respectable, i.e. see (a) again.)

You would think telling girls you were a virgin would be a deterrent (lord knows I did). Turns out, it just made girls want to try harder to de-virginize me. Were I not such an AFC at the time I would've probably banged at least 4 or 5 chicks in my first college year.

Anyway... here are a few tips courtesy of me, that I found to be effective in girls showing interest in wanting to bone me:

1. When you first meet them, DON'T GET THEIR NUMBER. Dude, they're on campus, so you're going to run into them again. Plus, EVERY GUY on campus has the same plan - meet lots of girls, get numbers - and they're hip to it. If you talk to them, make them laugh, smile, etc. and then DON'T ask for their info, they'll be DYING to give it to you the next time they see you.

2. Like someone said earlier, no handshakes and no "hi, how are you, my name's so and so's". In fact, you want to WAIT for them to ask you YOUR name. Ask their name if you must, then say, "oh, nice to meet you, Susie. So, where are you from." If they ask your name, it means they want to know more about you; if they don't, you just saved yourself some time. (Some people on here may balk at this, but I've dated more girls who asked me my name than those that initially didn't. Just going based on my experience.)

3. Get really good at a subject, then ask any of the girls if they need a study partner. Then, during your study sessions, in between all that book knowledge when you're having a conversation with her, tell her about the aspects of your life that are interesting: wild trips you've gone on, parties you've thrown, hobbies that she may have never heard of... these things will get her mind thinking about what an interesting person you are. Then, she'll start wondering how she could be privy to some of these wonderful adventures (which, in her mind, she could only do... if she's DATING you!)

If you go this route, it's very important not to actually INVITE her to do anything. Once you've seen her a few study sessions, you should notice her starting to ask if you two can hang out after the session is over. I had a girl dang near trying to come up to my room by herself just wanting to "hang out 'cause she happened to be near my dorm." (And I was out of town - dang it!)

4. Go to all school dances and show off your moves. Be the life of the party on the floor - you want every girl there wanting to wonder how you move so well, and when they can move along with you. I rarely ever asked girls to dance with me in college, but my dance moves were so good they would come up to me and freak the shiznit out of me!

5. Don't be in a rush. Most of the girls you're meeting now will be there for the next 4 year (or, at the very least, this semester, lol). The patience game is in your favor here.

6. Lastly, a quick note about the girls that say "I have a boyfriend back home." For the most part, this fact will be true in August; by homecoming, though, they will not have seen him regularly for 2 months, and will be wanting closer male affection. During those two months, do NOT try to go after these girls. Befriend them if you must, but have very little contact with them. Make sure they see you around campus in a good mood, having a good time, or enjoying life in general. Trust they'll notice it, and when they break up with their back-home-boo by homecoming, wait for her to tell you the boo-hoo-break up story before making a move. If they offer up the story to you, there's a good chance it means they're interested in what you have to offer. Don't fear being the rebound guy - even if you are, rebound guys get laid. And if it's been 2 months of no sex for her, you'll get laid GOOD :rockon:

Hope this helps!

 

[Hustlaz Ambition]

8 girls have already approached me and it's only the first week. A HB9 snowbunny approached me today after my communications class and is already wanting to "study together in our dorms" after labor day weekend.

Jesus Christ this is SOOO much better than High School. Gonna be a fun semester.

 

[BPH]

See this is what I don't understand...

I just got back from a party, it was kinda dry out because rush week is coming up and a lot of people went home for labor day.

However...my best friend, a virgin Christian who wanted to wait until marriage to have sex just texted me saying that he lost his virginity tonight in a closet...

AlexLefty and I are both having this same problem. I feel like we are better-equipped that most of the other guys here, but I just don't understand why that's not translating to sex. I'm probably being too aggressive but I'm afraid of being too passive and missing out on opportunities.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

See this is what I don't understand...

I just got back from a party, it was kinda dry out because rush week is coming up and a lot of people went home for labor day.

However...my best friend, a virgin Christian who wanted to wait until marriage to have sex just texted me saying that he lost his virginity tonight in a closet...

AlexLefty and I are both having this same problem. I feel like we are better-equipped that most of the other guys here, but I just don't understand why that's not translating to sex. I'm probably being too aggressive but I'm afraid of being too passive and missing out on opportunities.

Maybe the girls are just sensing that you don't really care to get to know them and are just after one thing.

That's what I mean by focusing too much on the end result. Don't fall into this robotic mode of applying certain techniques and then forcing yourself to number close.

 

[omega05]

Why? It's the first step of kino I thought.

you cant listen to everything you read on here.

 

[MrNiceGuy23]

I currently have a girlfriend but am in no shortage of women who have said they find me attractive, would date me, or would **** me.

So here is my advice.

Don't be the douche, honestly it doesn't work. It may work a few guys but they're most likely banging some girl who's looser than a bucket of water (nobody wants to **** the neighborhood slut). Do you like meeting women who are complete snobs and *****es? Girls who only talk about their looks and how attractive they are? Probably not, so why would a girl be interested in a guy who acts the same way unless she is a total slut (which nobody should feel good about ****ing because it's not hard to do).

I think you will have much better success if you act as a nice, confident person. Don't be overly nice or you'll just get seen as a friend, and don't try to act like a player who is only interested in getting in the girl's pants.

Act like you would to women if you already had a girlfriend. Be nice to the girl, treat her with respect, play down some of her advances like you're not super interested but don't completely reject them either (this makes the girl interested that you're flirting back and stuff, but even more curious as to why you're not completely welcoming).

Talk to them about something meaningful, an empty conversation isn't going to leave them wanting to **** you unless the woman is easy. You want to leave the girl feeling like she just had a great conversation, you flirted with her but didn't seem desperate so you seem experienced and not just some desperate AFC, and she'd like to meet you again.

Worst case scenario, you have a good image about yourself and word may spread to other girls about how great you are (if you do get friendzoned by some of the girls, they'll be sure to tell their other girl friends about what a great guy you are which can set you up for more opportunities). You may also just end up with some attractive girl friends who (if you don't get too close with) may end up just ****ing you down the road, or will look good if you show up to a party with them at your sides and other girls will think you have game to show up with some HBs on your arms.

Best case scenario, you leave the party with one (or more) girls interested in you because you gave them a great conversation, some kino to make them think about you more, and you end up meeting up later that night or in the future and you score.

It's really not hard, don't be an *******, but don't be a sap. Most girls aren't going to **** you after a 5 minute conversation unless they're blackout drunk, big time *****s, or you're George Clooney.

 

[Trump]

Worst case scenario, you have a good image about yourself and word may spread to other girls about how great you are (if you do get friendzoned by some of the girls, they'll be sure to tell their other girl friends about what a great guy you are which can set you up for more opportunities).

Heard this a lot lately and don't agree.

If a girl thinks you are great and has a boyfriend, she'll use it to her advantage and feed her ego. But there is no way in hell shell introduce you to one of her hot friends so the friend can have sex with you instead of her.

And the word spreading of how great of guy you are but don't have a gf or can't get action, girls will immediately think something is wrong with you.

 

[Blurry]

I don't know if its your school or something but its pretty easy. It goes something like this for me.

Talk to girl for 2 minutes, ask to dance, makeout while dancing, go outside to smoke and talk to her some more, go dance more, take her back to my place.

You probably just have no confidence or a bad reputation.

 

[nismo-4]

Heard this a lot lately and don't agree.

If a girl thinks you are great and has a boyfriend, she'll use it to her advantage and feed her ego. But there is no way in hell shell introduce you to one of her hot friends so the friend can have sex with you instead of her.

And the word spreading of how great of guy you are but don't have a gf or can't get action, girls will immediately think something is wrong with you.

I agree with this though!

Women are much better at banding together to raise the price of love, relationships, sex, and companionship than men are at lowering said price. The game is (and always has) been rigged in the women's favor, and the growing number of desperate males doesn't help.

Mr Nice guy 23, you have no shortage of women after you because you have been chosen by a woman, so you are shown to be a desirable male!

One of the best ways I know to get a girl, is to get a girl! I've gone to clubs out here in Atlanta and I've seen guys bring their sisters, cousins, and even their mothers as social proof.

 

[Fly By Night]

AlexLefty and I are both having this same problem. I feel like we are better-equipped that most of the other guys here, but I just don't understand why that's not translating to sex. I'm probably being too aggressive but I'm afraid of being too passive and missing out on opportunities.

Better put me in there too. In these first two weeks, I have been going aggressive, but still failing to convert numbers into dates. I THINK I am having a good convo with her, but I am not even getting responses to the texts I'm sending out. But I am running more or less common game like handshaking and number closing on the first meet. I find it EXTREMELY hard to believe that I can cold approach and get a girl SO interested that she will ask for my name and number when she knows me for only 2 minutes.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

I think you should stop expecting things and worrying about it.
http://cokeandleatherjackets.tumblr.com/post/30689299915/college