Getting Ignored By Women In Conversations?

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I don't usually overanalyze situations, but I am a little confused lately. I'm in school, so let me describe a typical scenario.

I get to class a few minutes early and some classmates are waiting outside. I ask a guy if we had anything due today or something along those lines. Then, the girl sitting nearby will start answering the guy, as if he was the one who asked.

I make eye contact with the girls in these types of 'conversations' and they look but don't talk to me directly, even if I look at them and ask a question. It seems they acknowledge my presence but do not talk to me.

Another example is when I try to initiate conversation with the girl by first asking her something. Yesterday, of the many times this happens, the girl stared my way and maintained eye contact, and so I asked if she knew class was cancelled or not. It was as if she is deaf and mute because she just stood there staring and did not say a peep. Is she trying to stare through me like superwoman?

They look directly at me, but treat me as if I am completely invisible.

I think this somewhat inhibits the opportunities to get to know girls in and around the classroom environment. Same thing happens in class too.

What's funny is that if I never showed up or said anything in these situations, no one would have started talking. I'm the one who got them to open up to each other, but they ignore me as if I don't exist.

I don't dwell on these things, but it would be helpful if I knew how to get around it. Anyone else get this type of reaction? Are these girls just shy, or just very rude - and if so, why do I seem like the only one being ignored?

Thanks for any insight.

 

[DJDoomage]

Ok, fvck 'em. Next time get closer to the girl and speak louder. Shed have no choice but to answer.

 

[Viking25]

Attration...I was in exact situation before and figured it out!..I am one of those quiet talkers. Half of the time girls weren't even sure what I was saying or whom I was saying it to.
Try speaking loudly and clear and direct your speach towards the person you want response from! Trust me...they can't ignore you then. It's not the girls fault,some people are just shy. Try this and report back.

 

[Mind_Body_Soul]

Yeah, either speak more forcefully or say something like "Hey, I'm talking to you!"

 

[vorbis]

wow, that stuff happens to me occasionally. I'm quite good at starting a new thread in a conversation and a lot of the time, the convo continues on without me. The problem I have is that sometimes I'm not aggressive enough in my voice tone. I also learned to be a bit ruder. You'll find the best group conversationalists often cut someone else completely off and say what they have to say. You either let them do it to you or you do it yourself.

 

[woods]

Be a man and call them on it. Perfect opportunity to neg hit them. It does sound like you need to speak up though. work on your voice

 

[Yapper]

This is interesting because I get the same exact reaction you described.

I am sometimes a quiet talker and I'm working to improve my voice but I don't think that's it. This doesn't happen with guys, it's only with girls. And it happens with so many girls, so often, that is has to be something about me. It pisses me off because I feel like I'm being treated as insignificant, so if it's a girl I know I'll just withdraw and not make the effort to talk to them anymore, then they can't seem to figure out what the heck they did wrong. But it's too passive behavior to call out. That'd just make everything weird and uncomfortable... I doubt they even know they're doing it.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Getting Ignored By Women In Conversations?

What? Did somebody say something? Hellllllllooooooo? Anyone here? I guess not...(LMS logs out).

 

[Don The Magic Juan]

Attration...I was in exact situation before and figured it out!..I am one of those quiet talkers. Half of the time girls weren't even sure what I was saying or whom I was saying it to.
Try speaking loudly and clear and direct your speach towards the person you want response from! Trust me...they can't ignore you then. It's not the girls fault,some people are just shy. Try this and report back.

Oh, yeah sometimes I talk to quietly and people don't hear me or turn around. That's why I never talk to anyone if I am to there back.