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Getting hit on by all the wrong women

ozzfest

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Lately I must be sending out the wrong vibes. I never get a hot woman to look my way and yet all the ugly ones flock to me. I can't get rid of these ladies. Always bugging me to talk. Hinting I'm cute. and "oh _______ said you looked good yesterday". Well _____ is fugly too. How the hell did I get into this and what can I do to change the tide. Really getting on my nerves.

PS these ugly ones aren't even fun to be around. Total bores.
 

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Having trouble accepting a compliment? :nono:
Be classy, thank these girls, and know that you might have made their day a little brighter.
 

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trust me....be thankful that ur getting complimented. Maybe some of the hot girls check u out when u aren't aware of it...that does tend to happen...some are more shy than we think.
 

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I have this same dilemma as well.

The thing is, its actually a GOOD thing, from my perspective.

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The bottom line is that the fugs are more desperate and will be a lot more open with their IOI/SOIs. That doesn't mean that the HBs arent attracted, they are just more subtle because they aren't desperate.

Accept the compliments, and game the HBs.
 

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ozzfest said:
Lately I must be sending out the wrong vibes. I never get a hot woman to look my way and yet all the ugly ones flock to me...
Stop wearing tunafish behind your ears.

Seriously though, this tends to happen when these women see you as a nice guy who is in their league. What's worse is that hotties will see this and they may judge you because of it. Yes, there are women who will feel that it is endearing that a guy would pull the attention of "regular" women. Unfortunately, these women are looking for supplicating nice guys.

Best bet is to reestablish your marketing structure. In other words, raise your prices. Establish a value that is beyond that of regular women. For me it's well known that I won't have any interest in a woman who isn't fit, preferably she regularly plays on a sports team so she regularly works out.

When regular women begin getting "chummy" I take it in but then I go through my marketing of having to finish my work so I can get to the health club early or that I was going to go on a 30 mile bike ride after work. Basically, my interest in health is greater than my interest in them. It's a cruel game but hey, they could play too if they had the right equipment.
 

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ozzfest said:
Lately I must be sending out the wrong vibes. I never get a hot woman to look my way and yet all the ugly ones flock to me. I can't get rid of these ladies. Always bugging me to talk. Hinting I'm cute. and "oh _______ said you looked good yesterday". Well _____ is fugly too. How the hell did I get into this and what can I do to change the tide. Really getting on my nerves.

PS these ugly ones aren't even fun to be around. Total bores.

quite simple. you're treating the ugly girls like you don't want them, and that intrigues them.

reverse the tables and you'll find your answer. learn to treat the hot women like you treat the ugly women. That beautiful girl over there? Not fun to be around, total bores...they get on your nerves.
 

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have to second Fd'A on this: if rough looking girls compliment you it's because they know you're not getting the hot ones so they think there's something wrong with you and they have a chance. if you're hot, any girl short of a 7 won't approach you period, unfortunately, unless you demonstrate something that brings you down to their 'league'.

you're probably just a decent looking guy who hasn't had much success lately, which to them is the hottest thing they can hope to pull. to be brutally honest, the best thing you can do is start fukking a few of them without any HBs hearing about it, as it'll make your game much smoother with the HBs. sounds bizarre but it worked for me when i was a young fella
 

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randomusername said:
quite simple. you're treating the ugly girls like you don't want them, and that intrigues them.

reverse the tables and you'll find your answer. learn to treat the hot women like you treat the ugly women. That beautiful girl over there? Not fun to be around, total bores...they get on your nerves.
or you could try this. it won't work at all, but you'll learn something and experience is more than most people here seem to have. or you might attract a girl with low self esteem who cuts herself maybe.
maybe he meant don't let them work out whether you want them or not. damn keyboard jockeys.
 

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its not even that unfortunate...this might be a different way of thinking...but maybe we could use the fact that females don't approach to our advantage. Just a thought.
 

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reply to a couple of the postings here:

They do not have any good looking friends. I could never F%#$ one of them. Thats not an option. Too gross.

Lastly, I think someone came up with a good point. I am a decent guy, fairly handsome and if you even give them the time of day they start envisioning "he likes me"...or "gee he's nice, most guys snub me completely..I can talk to him"

I've got these women who want me to go out for drinks with them...go on vacations. I'm thinking not a chance...of course I say it to them much nicer. Oh and fyi..not only are they not good looking but they are boooooooring. I just don't care about the topics they want to talk about. Let's face it if they were boring and hot, maybe. At leats I have something to look at while I'm being bored. But boring and ugly? Not a good combo
 

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ozzfest said:
...I am a decent guy, fairly handsome and if you even give them the time of day they start envisioning "he likes me"...or "gee he's nice, most guys snub me completely..I can talk to him"...
:nono: Be careful, "Nice Guy Syndrome."
 

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ozzfest said:
They do not have any good looking friends. I could never F%#$ one of them. Thats not an option. Too gross.
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Dude, just use them to your advantage. Other girls like girls chosen by other girls= social proof. :rock:

Two steps:
1) talk to those girls make them laugh.
2) excuse yourself, walk over to a hot girl tell her to save you from that girl over there. "No don't look. omg. you're giving me away" and game hot chick from there. :rockon:
 

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haha. well. this is like the average guys approaching the hBs 8+.

then they're like.. why dont the good looking guys approach me? am i sending off the wrong vibes?
 

ozzfest

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thanks to all for advice. just frustrating that the hotties can't be as forward as the HB5's. Why is the world so backwards?! Later
 
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