GETTING GIRLS TO CHASE YOU (the better looking the chick, the better this works)

[mrRuckus]

I never buy this bullsh1t that women can read you like a book and know when and if you want her just by looking at you any better than you do.

Go read any relationship msgboard and the women are CLUELESS. Does he like me? Will he call me? Why did he do this... why did he do that?

They have no more idea what's going on than any other AFC.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

Yep, more keyboard jockey mental masturbation straight from the pages of seduction manuals. If you follow these tips then what's going to seperate you from the million other AFC's she passes by everyday, but do the exact same thing you're doing out of fear of rejection?

The best thing you can do is make your interest known without looking like a b1tch and ditching her if she doesn't reciprocate. Stop expecting women to chase you.

 

[MisterMcGee]

Agreed with Dust 2 Dust

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

Remember the mysterious thing?

Keep your answers brief and as short as possible and then turn the conversation back on her by asking your own questions based on little "seeds" of information she gives you.


You have to let the mystery of you unfold SLOWLY (then again, even if you dated her for 10 years you should still be hard to read and figure out).

This sounds like a direct quote from a Doc Love (whom I believe gives horrible advice when it comes to talking to women) article. From personal experience I can tell you being mysterious and revealing little info. about yourself will only break rapport in a conversation or the woman will think you're a tool. There's no sense in trying to hide information. It's pure KBJ theory. Instead of mystery you should be focused on becoming a good story teller.

 

[2.0]

This is great advice but I'm not sure how to execute it. How do you reject a girl? Wouldn't she have to approach you first? It seems like any time you approach a girl that's not rejecting her. Also how do you not answer her questions?

Like, she asks, "What's your name?" or "Where do you live?" What should you respond?

 

[martinM.]

Actually, there is some truth to this. I've been labeled mysterious. (I usually have to work at not being so distant.) It works to some degree, but it puts you in a really awkward spot. As soon as the novelty of mystery fades or she gets tired of the aloofness, you're done.

See her as she is, don't let her attractiveness influence how you treat or see her. Looks only take someone so far.

 

[MillerCharm]

im sorry i dont believe this crap. goodlooking guy's ignore hb's on the street and dont get chased in that way. how much more an average joe?. average joe's should sarge till they drop, cos at the end the average joe's that sarge end up getting more girls than the goodlooking guy who ignore's all girls.

Good point.

The OP is right in some respects but doesn't cover the most important parts.

It's not just about ignoring the girl. After all, plenty of people ignore her every day. It's about what response she expects to get from you.

If the girl is a 10 and the guys who approach her are always 7, 8, and 9's, then if you ignore her, she might notice. But since ugly/average guys don't show her attention, then ignoring her would do nothing if you're a 1-6. So, if you aren't anywhere near the girls level, you would BE MUCH better off if you approached her.

I mean looks matter. It's all a matter of degree. It doesn't matter who you are or how much money you have, looks do matter to a degree. So if you are so below this girl's level that you would never have a chance then nothing will work.

IMHO, ignoring a girl will only work if you're in an environment where she expects to be approached AND you happen to be someone who she expects will approach her. She has to think "Oh god, here comes another guy to hit on me." And as you walk up to her making eye contact, you just turn to the bar tender and ask for a beer, and completely ignore the girl. Then she'll notice. But if you're dressed so bad or have so much body fat that no guy like you has ever approached her, she won't even notice you. So, go for it and say something. Make her notice you.

The OP has some good points but overall it's just a magic pill. And as we all know, magic pills don't exist. The OP has some correct information, but there's a lot more to it. Don't think you can just ignore a pretty girl and get her... For all you know, she might not think she's pretty! I dated a girl for a long time who is gorgeous but has extremely low self-esteem and thinks shes fat.... Many girls are like this. They just come across as very intimidating and confident, but it's usually a show.

Think about the guys who look the most tough and bad-ass....they usually only look like that because they want people to think they're bad-ass and tough. We're all just people. We all have mommies and daddies and cried when we were babies. The women, especially the beautiful ones, try desperately to convince themselves and the world that they're prettier than they think they are.

 

[MillerCharm]

Yep, more keyboard jockey mental masturbation straight from the pages of seduction manuals. If you follow these tips then what's going to seperate you from the million other AFC's she passes by everyday, but do the exact same thing you're doing out of fear of rejection?

The best thing you can do is make your interest known without looking like a b1tch and ditching her if she doesn't reciprocate. Stop expecting women to chase you.

Spot on.

There's really not much that's different between a guy who is nervous and too scared to approach or converse and a guy who is ignoring the girl.... Unless of course the girl can tell that you normally hook up or date girls who are as, or more, attractive as she is. You gotta show her your personality.

Haha, so many of the stuff I read on here cracks me up! The sad part is that so many people buy into it. I guess the good thing is that it only helps those of us who actually realize how BS a lot of it is.

 

[oscarkool]

Lol 8 years later and this thread is still getting attention. The truth is that this thread goes way over the head of most people, I would say about 1 in 10 really understand. This isn't about a technique. This isn't about pretending to be aloof so the girl chases you. The moment you do ANYTHING to get a girl's attention is the moment that you're playing a game. I'm not saying that it's wrong to play, but this post is simply about understanding that hot women are people too, they have their flaws, they aren't any better than you and I. It's all about knocking them off the pedestal that every guy puts them on. Once youre able to actually do that (most guys don't), you can actually have normal conversations with them that separate yourself from the pack. That's what this post is about. Has nothing to do with ignoring. You are still an AFC if that's what you got out of it and you really have a lot to learn.

 

[MM92]

Wow, after reading this through there were more retards on here then with no hope of ever losing their virginity than there are now. If anyone has never pulled a girl with this tactic then they're clueless. I guess it's hard for people to understand if they don't have the right mindset though