getting by without social worth?

Mintyfresh

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Yeah quick and simple,

All throughout highschool blahblah I had no balls, complete AFC, and let my social anxiety disorder ruin my f-ucking life.

Now that I've decided to change this and have been out hitting on girls getting dates, I just really see how small the world really is and how interconnected social circles really are. Here i am, somebody that never had a whole lot of friends and i know it's important to be perceived to be hot s-hit in this area by women .... but right now thats just not who i am.

My question is this, When I'm out with a girl do i embelish and make it seem like I've been the ****ing life of the party forever and basicly lie or do i avoid the subject basicly and not reveal a damn thing unless it gets semi-serious..... or I guess the third option would be that if it comes up and a chick actually asks why it doesn't seem like i have a very active social life I just come clean with her and tell her i used to be a really shy person.

I know i probably shouldn't give two s-hits about this, but its bothering me and affecting my inner game.
 

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Now that I've decided to change this and have been out hitting on girls getting dates, I just really see how small the world really is and how interconnected social circles really are. Here i am, somebody that never had a whole lot of friends and i know it's important to be perceived to be hot s-hit in this area by women .... but right now thats just not who i am.
You become what you see yourself as. If you see yourself as being super mack daddy pimp - then YOU ARE super mack daddy pimp - and everyone around you will think so too. The trick is to learn to actually believe it. Once you hit a few high spots in the game, for example - if you ever laid a totally gorgeous girl - I can garuntee the next day afterwards you felt like a ****ing PIMP. This is also the best time to sarge because your aura is just spewing out genuine confidence that attracts people around you like a magnet. Use it to your advantage.


My question is this, When I'm out with a girl do i embelish and make it seem like I've been the ****ing life of the party forever and basicly lie or do i avoid the subject basicly and not reveal a damn thing unless it gets semi-serious..... or I guess the third option would be that if it comes up and a chick actually asks why it doesn't seem like i have a very active social life I just come clean with her and tell her i used to be a really shy person.
You just gotta be yourself and be who you want to be. You don't have to tell her who you are - the way you act and communicate with her tells her EVERYTHING. All that **** in your past she doesn't know about. If a girl meets you and you're all energetic and happy - then thats how she'll describe you. Doesn't necessarily mean thats how you are - but first impressions are powerful. Maybe start hanging out with some other guys that are the way you want to be, and it'll just rub off on you. Just remember - you are the prize and if anyone is doing the qualifying - it should be her qualifying herself to you. Just have a good time and don't worry about being anything but yourself and the way you truely see yourself as being ( THE DON JUAN )

I know i probably shouldn't give two s-hits about this, but its bothering me and affecting my inner game.
" IT " is not affecting you're inner game. YOU are affecting your inner game. Quit making excuses. Be a man. Take charge. Become the DJ you know you really are
 
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