basically i was going to "ante up" with her like Rollo had said, but the conversation sort of stayed light and so I went with it. At a high point in the conversation, I asked her if she wanted to get some ice cream Thursday (very important that you get specifics right, so you're not calling her over and over). After we went out she brought up the issues so we worked them out.
The theory that a girl with high IL makes it easy for you is true. this was an easy process. At this point my advice would be to move on and believe that you have moved on. Me and her both agreed that us moving on taught us some things. I wouldn't suggest dwelling on an ex, and i doubt any of these other guys would either. What you have to do is show her an improved version of the guy you were when you first met. And man, I got MAJOR afc on her at the end, so if i can recover, anyone can....
I'd try her back once a month until i got a positive response or you find something better. It's funny how some of these things hinge on one phone conversation sometimes.......