Get More Women.. Easily.

[stuartSan]

You probably thought that this site would end all your women problems when you first arrived. You browsed through all the information, and said "Dammmnn no wonder she dumped me!" You learn some techniques, even speed seduction, and try it in real life. Unfortunately, after months or even years of effort in walking the 'path of a DJ', you still feel the same.

If there was one thing I learned from this site, it would be to learn from life itself, and take whatever I read here with a grain of salt. You'll never know the person behind a screen name, and there's no sure fire way to know if the 'tip' or 'technique' provided was from real life experience, or from a 52 year old single guy whose still depending on pocket money from his parents.

I had always been trying to find someone I could have a great relationship with, and I have to admit that using 'DJ techniques' had done me more harm than good. Sure, some of the stuff here were pretty good. The rest sounded like they could work too. Well surprise surprise, I have followed my friends' footsteps whom this board would term as 'AFCs'. Why? Because they have happy long term/long distance relationships. And I witness these with my own two eyes nearly everyday because I see my friends a lot.

Compare that to pure text points from a different cultural enviroment, and you get an obvious choice in which to believe in.

Okay that was a pretty long introduction, so whats my point? Life is the greatest teacher, and I've learned something from it recently.

THE FUN AND EASY (depends how you look at it) WAY TO GET GIRLS! (and everything else in life, which should be more important to you.)

It is the effort of improving yourself. Yes its that easy. Let me tell you why.

I realised I had little money compared to the rest of the people in my group of friends so I worked. I realised I looked shabby, so I got a new haircut and nicer clothes. I realised that I had no future, so I looked out for a skill to learn which would give me the opportunity of being someone successful in the future (which starts this Wednesday by the way), I realised that I wasn't happy with my current social situation, so I made more friends. There are a thousand more flaws I could find about myself, and each one that I worked on only made me feel better. THEN the girls came automatically. It was like a scientific law of some sort. At the end of 2003, I was going through pretty hard times (at that time I wasn't even putting enough effort on bettering myself), and sure enough.. much like the 'scientific law', everything good in my life went away. My happiness, my health, my girlfriend flirted around, treated me bad, and then left me for another guy!

I was so angry with what happened, which gave me such a huge burning desire, more than ever before.. to become someone looked up upon. Someone great. Well I did, and thats when I started realising all my flaws and worked on it. Strange as it may sound, good things started happening to me again once I started improving myself as fast as the bad things came when I started slacking off in life! The girl that dumped me realised how much she really liked me and came back, and now she treats me REALLY good, and I don't even have to use 'DJ skills'! I'm comfortably being myself, and I frequently do things this board might label as AFC (first thing being accepting her back) but hey, she's only been treating me better and better (not exaggerating here). Thats the interesting part.

You see, what you get in life depends on what you put in. It doesn't matter if you're an AFC or DJ or whatever. You could spend all your time learning all the techniques and theories of being a DJ, and it might get you the girls, but where does that leave you in life?

OR

You could spend all that energy on creating a better life for yourself resulting in.. well A BETTER LIFE, and you'd get girls for that too! Thats a two in one!

You make the choice.

Well this post didn't turn out exactly as organised or informative as planned.. but I hope you enjoyed reading it anyway.

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I'm doing all the things an AFC does but its strange how I don't feel like one.

 

[Dirtheart]

Interesting post, and to a certain extent I definitely agree.

I spent the last 6-7 years bettering myself in every way I can, and I've now exceeded many of my goals and feel very proud of who I have become. It's true, the attention from women has multiplied and even more so during the last year when I gave my whole image an overhaul.

However, while I've had no trouble getting initial attention from females, I have been having a lot of difficulty initiating the dating process and even more difficulty maintaining their interest and that's where the DJ knowledge comes in useful.

Sure, perhaps some of the users are 50+ year old men living with their parents, but they can offer the wisdom of their failures.

But the one thing I have learned and gained from this board is the importance of confidence and the portrayal of confidence. Until visiting this board I honestly believed that humility was an attractive trait.

So to me it doesn't matter if it's a super hot stud or a repulsive loser pointing out my mistakes, I just needed someone...anyone to tell me what they were.

 

[Caveman]

Totally agree...

A little while ago I spent a lot of time reading posts on this forum. I even tried some of the techniques explained here and everything. They made me just a little bolder but eventually, they got me nowhere.

Recently I have done some self improvement and even though I am still sort of a ***** when it comes to approaching.. I find that girls are naturally attracted to self-assured guys. Not that you have to be the macho-type, just be comfortable with yourself and don't take yourself so damn seriously. I mean.. If you do get rejected, try to see the funny part.. Be able to laugh at yourself. This helps in other parts of your life as well. Overall, you'll feel better and this is a sign you send out to everyone else.

Think about it: Even though it may sound a little Dr. Phillish.. Would you consider yourself fun to be with? If not.. think about how to improve on that. No one wants to hang out with someone who's depressed and complaining all the time about how unfair life is. Try and look for the most positive thing in every situation and you will really start to change.

 

[Sisko]

I learned from this site to have a positive outlook on life ,
and also to be funnier.

It all comes from practise in real life, the more interactions you have with people the better you will get, just like any other skill.

Very good post I totally agree.

 

[NewMan]

Something to think about:

I have followed my friends' footsteps whom this board would term as 'AFCs'. Why? Because they have happy long term/long distance relationships. And I witness these with my own two eyes nearly everyday because I see my friends a lot.

Perhaps the very reason it's lasted so long is BECAUSE it's long distance....

She only has to put up with his AFC bullsh#t once in a while - it surprising how fast things change when your seeing each other all of the time.

 

[DJ Alejandro]

ive got tired of just 'sleeping on' being a DJ so until quite recently, ive done a l0t more by meeting new people and actually g0ing out with new girl friends.

 

[stuartSan]

Regarding NewMan's post:

It was a plural entry for the word friends, so I wasn't only observing successful relationship maintenance from the one person who's having a long distance relationship. There are many more who have long term relationships over here itself. Hope that clears things up.

 

[RedKnight04]

I like this post a whole lot!

It is basically summed up in those paragraphs of Dj'ing atleast for me.

I realized that all I would do would sit around like a lazy ass about 2 years ago and just think how bad everything has gone for me...Then finally it snapped when I read a few books and talked to some new friends.

You don't know it but when your a little jit in the world you do that natural thing and EXPLORE! However, some of us lose that part of us and don't know how to explore possibilities without fear anymore.

I am now an aspiring actor and I am working very hard at trying to get so many good parts to my life that I can possible do so when a girl says bye I can really naturally laugh and say next.

GREAT POST!

 

[legolas]

I'm not so sure about these AFC guys and their long distance/long -term relationships. I mean they could be happy and all, but are the girls happy in it as well, or is she sleeping with another guy on the side.

That said, it all comes back to self-assurance and having goals in life and a drive to go and get them. People on these boards have to realize that not all guys are here to screw as many girls as possible. Some of us actually want a quality LTR to fulfill some of our needs while we pursue our goals in life.

Some guys just want to screw as many girls as they can and have no goals, so they usually end up being 50 and still riding the bar scene except now they are bitter and complain about missed chances.

You might say "Oh but I don't want a LTR, I just want some sex for now" Fine, I got nothing against that except that you shouldn't post in threads like this and knock down the posters point simply because of different goals in life.

 

[Sardaukar]

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=55794

Your girlfriend still looking so good now, mister?

It is sad that after YEARS on this board you still haven't shed your AFCness, in fact, BLASPHEMY, you choose to REAFFIRM IT like a born-again christian.

And that's the thing about AFCdom. AFCs don't recognise trouble until it hits them in the face, and then they go cry "Oh why me, it's so unfair, blah blah, blah blah".

You dare ask us what motivates us to **** a different woman everyday. Against the advice of all the wise people on this board, you took back the girl that dumped you when you sucked. For WHAT REASON????

What kind of ****ing lame behaviour is this? You remind me of one of those pathetic men who will do anything and supplicate to women just so that they grace your miserable life with their presence. Even when they leave you in bad times and act like a sh1t, even when they come back to you just to steal from you. If you took our advice and DUMPED that hoe you wouldn't have lost so much money, even if you can't lose your pride.

 

[HuangBei]

To Stuartsan, I quote my James Bond Profile post, when I quoted a song called Phoenix Ignition, by Thrice:

"Every day tear down these walls,
'til cornerstones remain,
coming ONE STELL CLOSER ALL THE TIME
and although, we'll never reach perfection
ALWAYS PERSIST TO TRY!"

Constant improvement, redefinition, refinement, death and rebirth, evolution, adaptation, a new fire each day; these are what make us real men. And its changing in and of itself that's so fun, because we get better each year, each month, each week, each day and eventually each minute. The path of learning and evolution is very fufilling, and staying the same is very boring. Some of my favorite animals are snakes, spiders, lizards, monkeys, and butterflies.

Monkeys are extremely unpredictable, and because they're so curious and such quick studies, they can totally surprise you and redifine themselves. Butterflies, in their caterpillar stage, when entering metamophosis completely change their entire DNA to become a butterfly. It's scientifically proven, is that not badass! Spiders, snakes, and lizards all shed their skin to emerge better than before. All these animals have a symbolic meaning that can teach us, and I'm a big nature guy, so what the hell.