Get Enlightened

[Roly]

Hey guys, lately I've been sufferring from the ego syndrome lately. But I'm glad I snapped out of it. Ever had one of those? It's sort of one of those mentality where you think you " know it all". You know its just one of those things where you just read the whole freakin DJ Bible, read a couple of books about psychology and self improvement, have a few success with chicks here and there, get laid and " oooh look at me! I'm the freakin master!..."

I know I have, and yeah it feels great from the start because your thinking you are the man and the sh**. But I notice as time went by, I got more and more critical, a bit more arrogant, more competitive to the " game" and I always had to be " right". and You know man, it just wasn't fun anymore, it just didn't feel as natural anymore. I just got more and more critical to this stuff, my philosophies about life, about women, about cheesecake, I always had to be " right". And you know it would just irritate the crap out of me when people went against my views. You know when you have this ignorant mentality, you are going to push a lot of people away from your life.

Suddenly, I just woke up from it and just realize that I'm young, naive and still know very, very little about life. I still know very little about life, women, money, cars, trees, the sky, how to cook pasta, how to make meatloaf, I don't know Jack sh**, I'm as ignorant as they come. But I would like to learn, and with this mentality I finally found a sense of peace. I'm ignorant, I'm stupid when it comes to a lot of things, I'm a plain ole ignoramus and I'm living life to get enlightened.

Along this, here are several words of wisdom which I found that personally works for me. Hope it works for you.

- Cut yourself some slack.
You're not perfect, there will be many times when you get pissed off and uptight about things.

- Get comfortable not knowing
The truth is we dont know what's going on or what's going to happen, we just think we do and often we make a big deal out of something that's totally nothing.

- Be happy where you are
Many of us postpone our happiness? why? Live in the present moment and enjoy life.

- Wherever you go, there you are

We tend to belief that if we were somewhere else, on a vacation, with a hot chick, in a different situation or career, somehow we would be more happy and content. Nope, not going to happen buddy, wherever you go, there you are, you'll only take your unhappy tendencies with you.

-Quiet the mind, meditate

This is the difference between a pick up artist and a natural. The pick up artist is thinking x's and o's while the natural is just living in the moment, letting it flow and could really careless. If you want to achieve this sort of mentality, learn to quiet your mind. Meditating will help.

 

[Marlimus]

you have spoken beyond your years. I respect your post.

 

[Roly]

My thoughts for today. " Your ass might as well be a girl."

If you're dressing up to look cool, to fit in and impress your guy friends, Your ass might as well be a girl.

If you like to whine and complain about how crappy the weather is - Your ass might as well be a girl.

If your crying over something thats completely nothing- your ass might as well be a girl.

If your pouring your emotions over your girl problems to one of your girl - friend, - your ass might as well be a girl.

 

[diceman]

"The only thing I know, is that i know nothing"
- Socrates

 

[Jariel]

Good post, and as Diceman has already pointed out, a very Socratic way of looking at things.

I'll also add that this kind of mindset is the perfect basis for self improvent.

 

[sol2k]

bump

 

[kiz]

fantastic post.

can we have some more input from other people???

 

[Roly]

First, let me say first and foremost. I'm not here for forum fame and not here to boost my freakin ego through your praises and compliments.I can give a rats ass about that. I'm simply here to help, because I feel that I'm finally getting a sense of innerpeace in my life and just want to share a couple of my views and beliefs that had help me become a more content person.

To be honest, I feel that I have just got out of the "matrix", to all the enlightened, wiser and older members in this forum, I'm sure you can relate. I'm not perfect, yes, the old tendencies back in my ignorant days would comeback to haunt me from time to time but then I would quickly snap out of it because I now know a couple of the truth. There's more to be learned but like always, the truth shall set you free.

My views for today: Important questions that needs to be discussed that I feel everybody in here can relate to. These answers are base on the books I read, my own life experience and the people I've dealed with and my observations of life in general.

Q1: Why are people shy, insecure and so self conscious?

My personal answer: I believe this has to do with the need to get people's validation and the need to make other people like you. It's that or you are dependent on something or someone, it probably has to do with how you were raise as a child. That's why I believe it's very important that once you no longer rely on your parents financial support, that your ass dont get married, you travel the world( Well okay, not the world, just the places you're interested to see. , explore and make many friends and be self reliant on yourself. Spend sometime for yourself and do some soul searching.

Q:2 What is the main cause of depression and anxiety? Why are sooo many people so unhappy and depress in this society?

My personal answer: It all has to do with concentrating way too much on the external factors of life instead of focusing on their innerpeace and personal well being, people are too jacked up on boosting their own egos. These external factors are: Status, the need for validation and approval, obssessive and sexual addictions, obssessed with money, the crap that popular culture tells you- what you need to be , what you have to be in order to feel self esteemed, the over obsessive use of external substances such as drugs and alcohol and of course, negative parental and religious upbringings.

Q:3 What do we need to do to be happy?

My personal answer: It's really simple, we as human beings are just that- simple creatures and not complicated ones. We as humans were programmed just to have enough for survival and what we need, but these days, we have MORE THAN ENOUGH of what we need.
It's not about feeling happy. Happiness, joy and excitement is a feeling that comes and goes, that's why many people rely on external substances such as drugs and alcohol and other false stimulations to relive their "happiness".
It's all about finding peace within you and being happy and grateful for what you have. Learning to love yourself as a person and considering yourself worthy as a human being and doing the things that you enjoy without having the need to prove yourself as a person and a humanbeing. Because in reality you've got nothing to prove man, because people can really give a rats ass about you because they're more concerned about themselves.

And oh yeah, never depend or rely on anything or anyone for your happiness and motivation. You Rely ON YOURSELF, first and foremost, yourself to give you the motivation and inspiration that you need and deserve.

Last, let me say that I could careless how many women I've banged, what's my freakin popularity rating, I'm not obssesse with money, I just want to live the comfortable lifestyle that I want. ( Two storage house near the beach, with me lying down on my hammock looking at the sky and not worrying about a damn thing.) Which is what it's all about guys, living the life you want and not letting your dreams fade because your father, your uncle or mom said you " no" or try to manipulate you to go into another direction. What I really care about is my sense of innerpeace and personal well being.
I feel that there's still more to learn about the topic of innerpeace and innerfreedom, I'll write more about this as I continue to discover what is out there.

 

[Pfeile]

Great posts Roly. Sounds exactly like my current situation. I'm pretty much past that stage where I think I know everything and I've realised that in fact, I don't know all that much! I've thought a lot about happiness, and just about life in general.

I've been becoming much more 'enlightened' as you talk about. I've changed my view on life. And it is definitely the most rewarding thing I've ever done.

I’ve come to accept myself, and I’ve figured out who I want to be. I know now that I can be whoever I want.

I came to this site because I wanted to find out how to get some girl to love me. But instead I found out how to love myself.

And I have done so because firstly I have come to accept who I am and secondly, I realise that I can change the things I don’t like about myself.

I haven’t completely become who I want to be, but I just know that I will someday.

 

[Inquire]

great personal answers, i just went through some enlightenment by a revelation. and tat's it, i dont need to be rich, jsut be happy and my health. great posts man.

also do u mean storage or story?

 

[diceman]

Just out of curiosity Roly, what books have you read that have helped with your journey into 'inner-peace'?

I've read the 'Tao Te Ching' by Lao Tzu which is a very good foundation for living a 'enlightened' & happy existence.

I'm guessing you've explored some eastern philosophy, maybe even flirted with Buddhism, but as your posts are reflecting my own personal journey I'd be interested to find out what has helped you.

 

[Roly]

First of all, when I talk about having innerpeace, it doesn't mean I'm a freakin monk. As a matter of fact, I still consider myself very much into the "game", I plan on going on a " pick up spree" next Friday. I'm going to make a post about that experience..hehehe You see, I Love and adore women, but DONT NEED women in my life to be happy. That's what makes the " game" sooo much fun, know what I mean.

Can you picture yourself in this situation? You, alone on a Friday night, you- content and enjoying the peace and tranquility on a quiet evening instead of your desperate self crying over your some girl that dump or rejected you, or why your so and so and why your not so and so. Can you sit still for a good five munites and not be so tense? If you can't then you need to work more on yourself instead of relying the need for affection and love from others.

When I talk about having innerpeace, it means being being content and loving yourself for who you are, recognizing that you are a worthy humanbeing without the need of anybody else's praises and approval. I know some of you guys have been brainwashed all your life especially with all the societal dogmas being around, but if you achieve this mentality, you will achieve true inner freedom, trust me.

You see, I've noticed a karma. What goes around, comes around, ever notice that when you feel crappy, people are crappy around you? Well that's what its like when you are at peace with yourself, you are more open about everything in life. You see the more you accept yourself, the more your able to accept everybody else around you. It doesn't mean you can't strive for self improvement but having innerpeace will indeed improve the quality of your life. Yes, I admit, I am not perfect, like I said my old tendencies would come back and haunt me sometimes. But at the end of the day, I can lie on my bed and be at peace with myself and not worry about a damn thing.

Some of the books I read - Pulling your own Strings by Dr. Dwayne Dyer - A great foundation for doing things on your own terms, living the life you choose and never having guilt for doing so. Another great compliment- would be Dr. Anthony's Ultimate Secret to Total Confidence. Also read the book- Don't Sweat the Small stuff it's also great.

I also give props for this site for getting me started and giving me a sense of idea on what the hell I was doing wrong with women. But my true success with women didn't start until I realize that I didn't need women in order to be content with my life. Combine this mentality w/ Carlos Xuma's secret to Alpha Man and Read Michael W's ( Dating Wizard) Book and your on your way.

And ofcourse, I practice meditation, yoga and tai chi and this one is very crucial guys- Practice SELF DISCIPLINE. I practice self discipline by sometimes fasting my self from the " game" and practicing celebacy. I know, I know you guys can laugh your ass off but it works for me. You see there's times I would discipline myself not to "approach" or " sarge" or go " dating" for like say - three months and just work on myself, my goals and enjoy my life. And when those three months are up, the game itself feels more refreshing and new and my freakin horomones are off the hook, know what I mean? I use to love playing my guitar a lot but decided to only play it 2 or one times a week, and everytime I play it, I would it appreciate it more. I use to eat ice- cream everyday for lunch, but now eats it only on Sundays and it taste way more delicious then before. Instead of going out every Friday night and clubbing, I would sometimes rather stay at home and meditate and you know what? I'm happy and I'm fine by myself.

But hey you guys do what works for you, and to all the DJ's out here, I simply want the best for you guys. We need more DJs in this world and less miserable "AFCs". Hey, this stuff works for me, like I said, I consider myself very ignorant and really don't like labeling things " right" or " wrong". There is only YOUR WAY man, YOUR WAY to your fullfillment in life. There is no " right" way, there is no " wrong", There IS ONLY YOUR WAY.