Anger is masculine, getting angry is a vice of men. It is adrenaline fuelled reaction that is required for our survival, to get ready for physical and verbal confrontation when we need to put our foot down. Aggression is a testosterone effect.
In the dj bible of confusion which you guys like to read, it says ‘nice guys never get angry, show her you can get angry’.
This is all true. Nice guys don’t get angry for the same reason they don’t make a loud entrance when entering a room full of people. Because they are too shy, and passive. These meek passive guys lack the testosterone aggression.
And we aren’t just talking about throwing your playstation controller at the wall when you lose. We are talking about when a guy bunks in front of you in a queue. When you are late for your plans because you missed the train. Whatever it is in the world that annoys you, that last one is just something I hate. Don’t mistake this for just ‘standing up for yourself’. That is the king of aggression situations, however the point is this is an all-round aspect. It is a part of us to be angry, let it loose, missing the train just makes me ****ing angry, then I have to rearrange the whole plan.
This is required to some degree in all areas of life. A meek passive guy is a guy that will not get angry and a guy that you can do anything to, it does not command any respect. The wise guy knows not to let his anger make him do something he will regret, but every powerful manly character has a dark side. Women love it because it is a show of masculinity, like flexing your muscles or flashing your money, it is a part of attracting girls for us. It is not something you will see on every ‘top 10 things girls love’, but girls secretly love it a little. One of those things they say they don’t like, but secretly do a bit.
In that bible it also says, ‘Show that nothing affects you. Never get mad at her, just smile’. There is good wisdom here, but this is a different angle. This should really be changed to, ‘Show that she doesn’t affect and manipulate you, never show too much emotion, just smile’. This is essential because when your girl knows how to get you angry or sad, it gives her a weapon for the future. Girls are built in with talent for manipulation, and once you show a weakness, she will hit you where it hurts every time things don’t go her way.
When to get angry, when not to, how to control it and how to do it is something that comes with experience and watching role models. In life, and with women. Even though we say show her nothing affects you, when she cheats on you with her ex is the time you put your foot down and get angry with her. She is doing something you don’t like: You tell her twice, and she tries it again for the 3rd time, she is seeing how far she can push you- you need to put your foot down and get angry. Similar situation with males, but in that case the aggression is to with dominance and establishing who is boss, with women you are the boss 99% of the time.
All with experience, cest la vie. I wrote this in response to a thread, but ive been wanting to discuss it for a while. We all want to hear wisdom of our colleagues so tell us about your experiences.
In the dj bible of confusion which you guys like to read, it says ‘nice guys never get angry, show her you can get angry’.
This is all true. Nice guys don’t get angry for the same reason they don’t make a loud entrance when entering a room full of people. Because they are too shy, and passive. These meek passive guys lack the testosterone aggression.
And we aren’t just talking about throwing your playstation controller at the wall when you lose. We are talking about when a guy bunks in front of you in a queue. When you are late for your plans because you missed the train. Whatever it is in the world that annoys you, that last one is just something I hate. Don’t mistake this for just ‘standing up for yourself’. That is the king of aggression situations, however the point is this is an all-round aspect. It is a part of us to be angry, let it loose, missing the train just makes me ****ing angry, then I have to rearrange the whole plan.
This is required to some degree in all areas of life. A meek passive guy is a guy that will not get angry and a guy that you can do anything to, it does not command any respect. The wise guy knows not to let his anger make him do something he will regret, but every powerful manly character has a dark side. Women love it because it is a show of masculinity, like flexing your muscles or flashing your money, it is a part of attracting girls for us. It is not something you will see on every ‘top 10 things girls love’, but girls secretly love it a little. One of those things they say they don’t like, but secretly do a bit.
In that bible it also says, ‘Show that nothing affects you. Never get mad at her, just smile’. There is good wisdom here, but this is a different angle. This should really be changed to, ‘Show that she doesn’t affect and manipulate you, never show too much emotion, just smile’. This is essential because when your girl knows how to get you angry or sad, it gives her a weapon for the future. Girls are built in with talent for manipulation, and once you show a weakness, she will hit you where it hurts every time things don’t go her way.
When to get angry, when not to, how to control it and how to do it is something that comes with experience and watching role models. In life, and with women. Even though we say show her nothing affects you, when she cheats on you with her ex is the time you put your foot down and get angry with her. She is doing something you don’t like: You tell her twice, and she tries it again for the 3rd time, she is seeing how far she can push you- you need to put your foot down and get angry. Similar situation with males, but in that case the aggression is to with dominance and establishing who is boss, with women you are the boss 99% of the time.
All with experience, cest la vie. I wrote this in response to a thread, but ive been wanting to discuss it for a while. We all want to hear wisdom of our colleagues so tell us about your experiences.
