Get a girl off your mind

[Caferacer]

I'm having a little issue here.

I connected with a girl at a party, got her number, did some good things and ended up making out with this girl in between talking to her for about 3 hours. I'm used to some kind of friction in the some girls don't have similar interests, but this girl has the exact same interests. We went from talking about sports, to playing in marching band (hey, it works sometimes), to video games, to guns, to motorcycles. Having the kind of eclectic interests in a girl rarely happens.

I dropped her off at her place, and after making out a bit, she said "You should take me on a date when we're both sober"

Being I learned we had like interests, when I said shooting range and lunch next week she said hell yes.

I called her today (the day before) and she said she spaced on a doctors appointment she needs to go home for. No big deal, when I met her we were both a little tipsy. I told her I would give her a call next week and she said she would try to call me as well.

My problem isn't if she does or doesn't call, the outright rejection I have no problem with. She is in a sorority I have a good standing with, and made friends that night with her best friend in the sorority (She ended up almost hooking up with a friend I brought along) so I know the odds are good I will get the date and her friends will go to bat for me.

1) How to keep the time between now and the next call from eating away at me.
2) How to contact her, if at all, between this time and now.

She is relatively unresponsive to texting (I'm getting away from that anyways) but I'm looking for ways to stay in her head between now and then, and her to stay out of mine.

tl:dr, need advice getting a girl out of my head and when to contact her for a date when I said I would call her next monday.

Slainte

 

[sharkbeat]

This is why we should love ourselves first before we love girls. During these times, men should focus on things that are important to himself. Play video games, work out, work on your projects, or something.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

I'm having a little issue here.

I connected with a girl at a party, got her number, did some good things and ended up making out with this girl in between talking to her for about 3 hours. I'm used to some kind of friction in the some girls don't have similar interests, but this girl has the exact same interests. We went from talking about sports, to playing in marching band (hey, it works sometimes), to video games, to guns, to motorcycles. Having the kind of eclectic interests in a girl rarely happens.

Hope there are atleast some differences to keep things fresh and not me "too" :yes: I kid i kid. lol.

I dropped her off at her place, and after making out a bit, she said "You should take me on a date when we're both sober"

oh man, this girl actually might've wanted it right then and there. lol.

Being I learned we had like interests, when I said shooting range and lunch next week she said hell yes.

Sorority girls are pretty frontish girls, seem excited about meeting up but then play games. Be weary of them. Just from experience

I called her today (the day before) and she said she spaced on a doctors appointment she needs to go home for. No big deal, when I met her we were both a little tipsy. I told her I would give her a call next week and she said she would try to call me as well.

Remember, in most cases, don't expect a girl to call even if they say they will. They just aren't conditioned to. Hence when they're like "How about you give me your number" don't do it! lol.

My problem isn't if she does or doesn't call, the outright rejection I have no problem with. She is in a sorority I have a good standing with, and made friends that night with her best friend in the sorority (She ended up almost hooking up with a friend I brought along) so I know the odds are good I will get the date and her friends will go to bat for me.

Glad your playing it smart. I too would rather a girl flat out reject me than to lead me on getting my hopes up.

1) How to keep the time between now and the next call from eating away at me.
2) How to contact her, if at all, between this time and now.

I'd concentrate on other girls in the mean time. Meet many more of them. That way, you don't care if she texts or not that much.

She is relatively unresponsive to texting (I'm getting away from that anyways) but I'm looking for ways to stay in her head between now and then, and her to stay out of mine.

I think there's only so much you can with being in her head. Its up to her. For her to get out of your head. The only thing you can do is focus on other goals. You can focus on other activites, but u'll still be thinking about her. Thats the only other solution i can think of.

tl:dr, need advice getting a girl out of my head and when to contact her for a date when I said I would call her next monday.

Slainte

Just hit her up once and then don't even text back i'd say. Always take the mindset that she may not text back and focus on others.


This is a lesson i had to learn recently, patience is a virtue. Hope that helped

 

[Hakuna]

If you want a girl to be thinking about you, then leave a memento. Leave a scarf on her that smells like your cologne or something and pretend to forget about it. Or be creative with it, use inexpensive objects.

DON'T text or call her. Usually a guy will KNOW that he shouldn't call or text at some point, but he'll do it anyways. You'll say something to yourself like, "What if she's not thinking about me? I'll text her once just to get her to think about me" If you do text her constantly, she'll be thinking about you..and how your an AFC. Be disciplined, don't let your impulses control your actions. Girls do this all the time because they are inferior and lack the greater will power of men.

To get her off your mind, Get something to consume you. Like a sport, a competitive activity like chess, your career, anything you can pursue and set goals for. When you set goals for yourself especially short term ones, you can keep other things off your mind and keep your focus. Your mind is a powerful tool, use it constructively don't waste it by thinking about some random girl

 

[Caferacer]

Hope there are atleast some differences to keep things fresh and not me "too" :yes: I kid i kid. lol.

It wasn't, thats why it was refreshing Going from having a conversation on phasing to how to double tap a pistol was a fun conversation. Partway though she said she wanted to marry me (something about us both hating Harleys but loving Ninjas). Her sorority sisters put on a fake wedding deal and I'm in her phone as 'husband'. Sounds creepy when posted on a message board but it was cute since I knew most of them. I guess you're going to have to trust me on this; this is why I think some of the sisters will go to bat for me.

oh man, this girl actually might've wanted it right then and there. lol.

Nope, I tried heh. Offered to keep her company and she said "Well, I like to hog the bed". I didn't push farther; I didn't feel the need to go for an end run so early.

Sorority girls are pretty frontish girls, seem excited about meeting up but then play games. Be weary of them. Just from experience

This I know sadly... still right on point though.

Remember, in most cases, don't expect a girl to call even if they say they will. They just aren't conditioned to. Hence when they're like "How about you give me your number" don't do it! lol.

I know, I got her number early on. I went and wandered off after some talking and came back and still got good indicators. Went with it and we spent the rest of the party together.

Glad your playing it smart. I too would rather a girl flat out reject me than to lead me on getting my hopes up.

I try. It's easy having the flat out rejection because there is no what if. It's just a no.

I'm an engineer. I get paid to analyze things. Sometimes I creeps into my social life a little too much. I try not to have too much to think

I'd concentrate on other girls in the mean time. Meet many more of them. That way, you don't care if she texts or not that much.


I think there's only so much you can with being in her head. Its up to her. For her to get out of your head. The only thing you can do is focus on other goals. You can focus on other activites, but u'll still be thinking about her. Thats the only other solution i can think of.

Thanks. The only thing I can hope is that I am in hers as much as she is mine. The next morning she facebook friended me and posted a few things on my wall. Silly, I know, but still good indicators of SOME kind of interest in my book. When I talked to her I and she told me she had to go home instead of coming out to shoot I told her she still owed me a date. She laughed and said "Yea, I know I do".

Just hit her up once and then don't even text back i'd say. Always take the mindset that she may not text back and focus on others.


This is a lesson i had to learn recently, patience is a virtue. Hope that helped

Fair enough I always assume they won't anyways. It's better to be surprised than disappointed.

Usually I can smell bull**** though. This means either there might be a few grains of truth or she is better than I am used to dealing with. Ha, gotta wait and see eh?

tl;dr Thanks, advice is on point.
Help much appreciated. I owe you a beer.

Slainte

 

[Websters dic]

Let me tell you something, DO NOT get your hopes up or have your head up in the clouds, at arms length is the best way to keep women until they are truly worth your time and energy.

 

[f283000]

A man that gets oneitis is a man that has no other options. It is your fault that you can't stop thinking about this girl. If you were talking to other girls, flirting with other girls and just plain had other women in your life you wouldn't get this disease.

It happens to all of us when trying to become djs. We get involved with a girl and all of a sudden we feel like we are in heaven and can't stop thinking about her. Women do that to us if we let them. We let them by not being involved with other women period.

Next time you go out why not say hi to the girl sitting by herself on the bench, or the girl walking around in the mall? Find a random girl, say hi, start a conversation. Don't even think about asking for her # so you don't scare yourself away from doing this but rather go out there with the intention of talking to a random girl you never met before. You will feel good about yourself. Now repeat that a couple times and you will start feeling like a million bucks due to having the confidence to talk to random women. Now start going out there with the intention to get numbers.

That is how you stop yourself from thinking about just 1 girl. You need to start approaching.