Generation Lost: How Role Models Shape Confidence, Game, and Masculinity

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Every man remembers the first time he realized he was on his own. Just stumbling through life and figuring things out the hard way. For some of us, that realization hits hardest when it comes to dating and masculinity.

No guide. No mentor. Just trial and error—mostly error.
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The truth is, we’re not meant to go at it alone. Studies show that strong male role models are crucial for personal development. They shape how we see ourselves, how we build confidence, and how we navigate relationships. Without them, men are more likely to struggle with self-doubt, low self-esteem, and poor decision-making in key areas of life—especially with women.

The absence of role models leaves us vulnerable to bad habits and beliefs that sabotage our success. It’s why so many guys waste years spinning their wheels, stuck in the same patterns, hoping for a different outcome. Without someone to emulate, we’re flying blind.

On the flip side, having a role model changes everything. Research has shown that when we see someone like us succeed—someone who’s been where we are and overcome the same challenges—it rewires our brain. We start to believe, “If he can do it, so can I.” Confidence grows. Motivation increases. And success in every area of life, including dating, becomes attainable.

That’s why I created this video: "Generation Lost: Why Role Models Are Important for Men." This isn’t just another pep talk. It’s a breakdown of why role models matter, how their absence impacts us, and how we can step up to fill the void—not just for ourselves, but for others.

Without strong examples to follow, men often flounder in relationships, unable to express their value or communicate effectively. But when you see someone navigate these challenges and thrive, it’s like flipping a switch. You don’t just learn techniques; you adopt a new mindset. That’s how real transformation happens.

It’s time to take ownership of our growth and stop waiting for someone else to lead the way. Watch the video, and start building the life and relationships you want. If no one’s going to be your role model, then become the role model. The choice is yours.
 

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To search for great role models, ya gotta know where there at. You’re probably only a Church, firefighter volunteer or martial arts dojo away from finding one. Join an mma brazilian jujitsu group for Men or something like that, usually there somewhere in there lurking around.

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If you don't have any role models in your personal life, you can always choose them from history, literature, film, or even online if they're not in follower-cultivation mode (Andrew Tate types, etc). In some ways this may be preferable as many potential real-life candidates may be blue-pill or otherwise willfully ignorant in some way about society or existence.
 

If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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