Good to know.
I think its always healthy to examine our perceptions and choose the wisest path for our highest good.
Everyone is going to choose what is best for them, it is a little egocentrical to try to demand others to follow our own exact choices and have the same exact perceptions.
So thats why I never agree with a kind of mind control, propoganda like blanketing of one's beliefs forced onto people.
Just because someone's voice is the loudest , doesnt mean it is the wisest one to listen to.
I often refer to a maxim that basically says that there are those who seek to educate, and there are those who seek to indocrinate.
And unfortunately, sometimes the roles get mixed up.
The ones who seek to educate, seek to liberate their fellow man.
The ones who seek to indoctrinate, seek to enslave their fellow man.
I think this should really settle in our minds....
I do agree that it is important that we have a place to share our views.
I would totally hate SS to turn into some sort of Loveshack abomination.
While I personally dont mind contribution from qualified women on SS, I still believe and always will believe that SS is a MEN'S Forum.
And this should be a 'safe' place to be ourselves.
Dissenting opinions will always manifest. But how we deal with it can be compassionate and understanding, or close minded and dismissive.
But for me personally, while I do share and engage in these topics and issues, Im personally drawn to trying to help my fellow man live in a higher standard and better quality of life as much as possible.
Truthfully, I think Im pretty wired to be honor bound and find it my duty to help my fellow man avoid pitfalls, and errors whenever I feel qualified to do so.
Some members here may think that this ay be a superiority complex manifesting itself in a hidden agenda driven, mind control enslavement disguised as 'advice'.
But the truth is not as devious or evil as some may want to believe it is.
My belief is that Men have the power, and ability within no matter WHAT external factors exist, to rise above these circumstances and choose a better reality than the one that seems to be handed out to us.
I for one, choose to reject another person's reality that disempowers me.
Since I have very strong sense of Self Trust, I am much more qualified to make informed decisions for myself than others are.
When I try to put my fellow man in a situation where he must hold himself and his beliefs accountable, and to reflect and examine if what he is truly choosing is coming from HIM, or is it somehow an unconscious reaction programmed by mind control oppressors is something I feel is extremely important to look at.
Having said that, I still state that it is completely within reality to see the negative side/half empty and still live in a reality of ONE'S Choosing.
If we here at SS espouse the creating of our dream life, and mastering our dominion and setting the frame and all that we hold to be true, and good for us, then how is it possible that the idea that 'reality' of someone else's creation is ALWAYS more Powerful than our OWN Desire??
I refuse to let someone else decide what is good for me. Or what I should be believing. Or letting someone else decide my worth and value, etc...
No one has that right. And no one but ourselves should.
So for me personally, while I understand the binary, either/or dynamic that you seem so convinced of, I disagree.
This doesnt and has never meant that I or others who may believe the same thing dont acknowledge or admit wrongdoing, poor behavior, lack of morality and ethics, etc among others.
I cant seem understand WHY it can only be one way.
Why cant one want to create a positive life, with things that make one happy and fulfilled, and still acknowledge that yes, a lot of women are total b*tches, gold diggers, and two timing tramps, etc etc....
But does that mean I , or you, or anyone else MUST deal with ONLY these females?
To me, if the answer is yes, then that means that I have given over my power, my choice, my RIGHT to make MY Decisions for ME....over to someone or something ELSE other than me.
This is why I have worked so much to be so Self Trusting and confident in MY ability to choose for ME.
What I often see is that many men do not have that same kind of self trust, and unfortunately then seem at the mercy of the 'femenist ' agenda , the fvcked up Matrix, all sorts of mind control, manipulation, and disempowering thought forms.
My position in wanting to focus on the good, is not to be BLIND to the Bad.
Which for some reason never gets understood here.
No matter what I,or others say, what comes across is that one is intentionally BLINDING oneself to the world, and its current reality.
And in my case, this is totally and completely incorrect.
Being positive, in my personal view, is to put the responsiblity of MY life in MY capable hands, DESPITE the negative aspects that I encounter.
So I never discredit or invalidate ANYONE'S negative experiences, nor mine of course, in order to live in a fantasy world.
In my opinion, there is no such thing as a fantasy world, only one in which I have MANEUVERED myself to only experience the BEST possible things that I desire to have in MY life. Because I KNOW how to handle the negative aspects, poor behavior and all those things.
You guys seem to always want to believe that someone like me, or others who believe along the same lines, as wanting to turn our head away from the 'dark side' or whatever in favor of some sort of fantasy or ILLUSION.
When that is, and NEVER WAS the case at all.
As if I, or others, want to promote a blindness, a disempowerment.
And that is most certainly not my ideal or intention at ALL.
So it confuses me when my message is not about being BLIND, its about being INFORMED and CAPABLE with essential life skills, it STILL rarely gets understood by you guys.
Those projections come across to ME,as me wanting to intentional not INFORM Men of the pitfalls of marriage, or infidelity, or gold diggers or whatever. And that is totally and never was the case...ever.
Nothing I have ever written here ever supported any notion,ideal, or intention to do such a thing.
I know that my only intent was/is to INFORM men of a wide spectrum of perception, notions, experiences,knowledge, scientific data, and teachings to EMPOWER men. Not to blind them to promote some stupid hidden agenda or propganda for womens interests or God knows what some of you guys are coming up with.
So I hope this addresses the weakness in IMO having a duality, binary thinking in terms of the half full/half empty premise. That the TRUTH is that one CAN see the half full/positive side and not be intentionally blinded to the negative realities.
One can still acknowledge and admit those things and still move courageously through that and any fear.
Ive said enough and hope that anyone who still plays that broken record to refer back to this post.