Shoe On The Other Foot
Victory Unlimited said:
Yo POWERLIFTER,
Vague date requests from guys breeds vague date acceptances from women who have vague motivations for agreeing to the date in the first place.
Couple of weeks ago, this girl (mid 20's) that I work with (that I don't particularly care for) asked if I wanted to get together for drinks. She also mentioned a couple other girls (mid twenties) would be there as well. None of them are anything to write home about.
I smiled and said "sure!" even thought that was the last fukking thing I wanted to do. She left it vague without making any specific plans.
Later in the day, she sort of settled on a night (the following week) and asked for my contact info. I gave them to her, and didn't ask for hers. I stood there while she searched for a pen, and watched her write down my info on a piece of paper. No overt assistance on my part. the whole time I was thinking that I hope she lost my number.
Luckily, the time came and went and no call, no email, and no drinks with these ladies. I won't see any of them for another couple weeks, so hopefully they'll forget it ever happened.
Had an outside observer seen a videotape of the occurrence, they night have concluded there was genuine interest on my part.
There wasn't.
During the morning of the day were "supposed" to get together, I was really praying that she didn't call.
For business purposes, I couldn't have blown them off if they called, it was one of those things that blur between the work/social world that you kind of have to go along with.
The moral of the story is that even if on the surface it appears congenial and that she may be interested, it may just be her reflex to say yes to any vague request for dates, to keep her options open, so to speak.
The trick is to find out her true feelings with as little time/money as possible.
Vague requests for vague dates aren't very effective along those lines.
