general question about Interest Level

[thegamedontwait]

I dont fully understand this whole IL-issue. Can you say a girl whos just a friend and nothing else has a low IL. A girl who you mess around with or sex with has a higher IL and a girlfriend has a really high IL, or do you have to consider other things too?

 

[Cremasta]

Just a friend = IL of 1
Fbuddy = IL of 5
GF = IL of 10

If it makes life easy for you, you can just go along with that. But we know it doesn't work that way, there are exceptions to every rule.

Your GF actually wants to break up with you...
Your friend has had a crush on you for the last 3 years...
Your fbuddy can't actually stand you, but is too horny and has no other options right now for a shag... and a million other scenarios we have all seen will show a different IL

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Per Doc Love; Interest Level (IL) is a measure of a woman's romantic feelings for you. It's a percentage of love. What you you want from a woman is an IL that is as close to 100% as possible.

If you first meet a woman and her IL is less than 50%, you might as well keep walking. There is no easy way to raise such a low IL.

If her IL was high but drops below 50% because of AFC type actions from you (lack of confidence, control and/or challenge), give it up, you've lost her.

In a nutshell, you have to use your DJ skills to keep her IL from dropping below 50% and keep it as high as possible.

 

[drixsa]

Originally posted by Cremasta
Just a friend = IL of 1
Fbuddy = IL of 5
GF = IL of 10

this is a really bad scale

becuase some friends, are only your friends becuase they cant be your g-f

most of my f-buddies ended up with a IL of 11 becuase they grew so attached

and some G-Fs are cheatin on you and just using you.

this "friend" may have a high IL, but you have to look for it

 

[Deep Dish]

Can you say a girl whos just a friend and nothing else has a low IL.

No, not necessarily. I don't know how many times I've been friends with a woman whom secretly or evidently really liked me; meeting a woman when she has a boyfriend is a good example. It all depends on if she wants nothing else, which can be deceiving, and other times clear cut. Bear in mind that when you meet a woman, you're not meeting her you're meeting everything else in her life; dating does not happen in a vacuum free of outside influences.

A girl who you mess around with or sex with has a higher IL and a girlfriend has a really high IL.

Human relations are all about roles. There is the wallet role, the dildo role, the court jester role, etc. Whenever you meet a woman she knows what roles are up for vacancy in her life, and she also knows what role you want to fill. If the role you want is occupied or if she doesn't want to give you that role, she may offer you another role. This is human nature. So the woman who gives you the dildo role may never allow you to have another role, and the same fundamental thing can be said of girlfriends. In my past there were times I was even denied any role because the woman knew if she gave me a role, I'd want more, like times they'd deny me a wallet role because they knew I also wanted a dildo role.

In other words, "interest" is not singular.

 

[Cremasta]

Originally posted by drixsa
this is a really bad scale

Very true, that was fairly deliberate.

What I was trying to get across further down the post was, that you can simplify it if you want, but in reality its almost impossible to correlate a girls interest level in you according to her relationship with you, there are just too many variables.

No worries, I just need to work on my sarcasm a bit.

 

[thegamedontwait]

Actually I totally agree with u. I was just wonderin whether yall thought it was possible to simplify a girls IL like that, cause almost everybody on here seems to do that....when a girls IL is "below 50%" you're in the friendzone...blablbla..

 

[myfriendblu]

Francisco explanation is good. Basically, its how much a girl likes you. The word love doesn't mean anything. Its a made up word that really isn't applicable in the dating world today. People throw that word around, as well as other words. So words don't mean much, its ACTIONS that count. How the girl acts around you is a gauge of her IL. Reading IL and knowing how IL works is THE MOST IMPORTANT tool a DJ can have. THE MOST important. Everything else, all the tactics, tools, lines, kino, etc. etc. etc. is USELESS without a strong grasp and knowledge of how IL works. I suggest you do a search here on IL and study it like a science. Once you have it mastered, your DJ capabilities will be unstoppable and unbreakable. At the very least, you will be ahead of 99 percent of the rest of the men out there.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

49%=she doesn't want you or only sees you as a friend.
51%=girl likes you enough to go out with you( professional daters are the exception to this rule.
75%=girl likes you enough to have sex with you.
90%=Girl is in love with you. 90% is when the girl asks you for exclusiveness.

 

[drixsa]

Originally posted by Dust 2 Dust
49%=she doesn't want you or only sees you as a friend.
51%=girl likes you enough to go out with you( professional daters are the exception to this rule.
75%=girl likes you enough to have sex with you.
90%=Girl is in love with you. 90% is when the girl asks you for exclusiveness.

this is nice and all but it is usually very difficult to figure out a percentage unless it is at 90%

if you want to see if she is interested ask her for her number.

if that is succesful ask her out on a date.

if she says yes, you should have just about all the interest level you need.