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[Ganondorf]

Hey wat's up all

I just wanted to ask if anyone of you guys have ever had the pleasure of attracting male attention with all of Manly attractiveness? and if so, how to do you deal with it?

I kind of find it funny because my girl gets hit on by lesbians, and it kind of freaks her out and i teas her about it, but she always makes fun of me when i get hit on by gay men.

There's this gay guy at work who obviously has a thing for me. He tried flirting with me when i asked him to help me change the battery in my phone.


It kind of creeped me out, but i was cool about it. I take is as a compliment. i must be pretty good looking if a gay dudes wants me haha

share some of your experiences here

 

[Son of anarchy]

I think as you do,it's pointless to get angry at a gay for trying to get you.
As long as its done in a polite way its fine for me,and most of all they have no other way except going to gay clubs,to find a boyfriend.

 

[speakeasy]

I think if a gay person knows you're straight and he's still hitting with you, that's fvcked up and constitutes harassment. How you want to deal with that harassment is up to you. All I know is if he already knows that I don't get down like that and he tries to touch me or something, I'm laying his ass out.

If somehow he didn't know, I'll just tell him I'm not like that and to go find a gay dude to hit on. If he insists on harassing anyway, he deserves to get his ass kicked.

Since 97% of men are straight, if I was gay, I wouldn't bother hitting on ANY guy outside of a gay club or if it was obviously gay by the way he acts and dresses, because I'd know that more likely than not, I'm hitting on a straight guy. So why bother? If he's just going to do it anyway, then that's straight up harassment.

 

[Guoy Darko]

I don't think there will be a lot of gay guys hitting on straight guys. If there's one group who knows you cannot force people to change their sexual identity it's gays.

And 97%? Where do you get these numbers?

 

[Drum&Bass]

happens to me quite a bit, but I get the the touchy feely ones and people who go out of there way and do crazy stuff to talk to me or ask for my number.

Its disturbing and very uncomfortable for me...

luckily...I also do very well with women and they also like to grope me and cop free feels.

 

[Taviii]

Kick their asses. Fagots!

 

[Berlex]

you needed help changing the battery in your phone? hope you didn't break a nail...

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Yeah, I've had a couple gay guys flirt with me and use kino on me. :crazy: I just keep my cool and continue with the small talk then, go about my business. If they go to far I let em know I dont play on that team.

 

[Da Realist]

There were a couple times I got hit on, but none involved any touchy feely guys. The first was what I basically consider a gay stalker because the guy found my email address somehow and started sending me messages about how he saw me go to class. Course that gave me an idea of where he lived and I found out later how he could have got my address. I even met the guy face to face since he was actually following me around one night. He didn't admit it, but I could tell by the way he looked when I noticed I was being watched. Could have easily beat the guy to a pulp, but I wasn't really annoyed and I guess you could say I could relate because I remember how I used to have a crush on girls growing up. So I basically told him I was completely straight and it wasn't going go to happen ever. Had no more creepy emails after that.

The second time was pretty funny and I usually get a good laugh out of it. I was driving around one night and came up to a red light and a red car pulled up next to me on right with a woman driving. This guy started walking across the crosswalk from the right side of the street with his bike and out of the blue he said, "Hey, my name is Jim. How you doing tonight?" Of course I'm sitting back thinking I'm observing a guy trying to pick up the lady next to me. Then I realize as he was getting closer he wasn't looking at the car next to me, but mine. Then I realized I was the only person with the windows down. My only thought was "wtf?" When he got in front of my car, the light turned green and he started hurrying across the intersection still staring at me. When he got across, he said "That's ok. I'll see you later." I drove off without saying anything at first because I was still in shock from how bold the guy was. Then about the third light I busted out laughing. Later on I picked up my girlfriend at the time, told her the story, and ended it with by saying she better take notice because I look so good she's going to have to be fighting guys off as well as other women.

 

[Captain Harlock]

I've had gay guys give me pretty obvious IoIs. Fine by me. Guys who feel uncomfortable when being looked at by guys must really have some insecurities about their sexuality.

 

[speakeasy]

I've had gay guys give me pretty obvious IoIs. Fine by me. Guys who feel uncomfortable when being looked at by guys must really have some insecurities about their sexuality.

What does it have to do with insecurity of my own sexuality? I'm a straight man. I don't want to be the object of another man's sexual desire. Why does this make me insecure?

 

[Rogue]

Guys who feel uncomfortable when being looked at by guys must really have some insecurities about their sexuality.

I remember hearing about a scientific study which showed heterosexual men pictures of gay couples. These pictures were completely neutral and non-sexual, pictures you would never think twice about. Despite the neutrality, functional MRIs revealed a certain area of the heterosexual brain responds the gay men are a threat. It's not "insecurity of one's sexuality", it's revulsion, disgust. I don't care if gays get married but they are revolting.

 

[Captain Harlock]

The very emotion of 'threat' is trigged by insecurity ie when the object responsible for the triggering is seen as a danger by you in some way. You don't feel threatened when you're confident someone else doesn't pose a danger to you.

Disgust has nothing to do with it. Do you feel threatened when you accidently click on a scat porn clip? Or when you see someone puking right in front of you? Obviously not.

 

[Rogue]

The very emotion of 'threat' is trigged by insecurity ie when the object responsible for the triggering is seen as a danger by you in some way. You don't feel threatened when you're confident someone else doesn't pose a danger to you.

If someone held up bag of feces and smeared your face in feces, against your will, though not injurious to you, your sense of revulsion doesn't mean you secretly liked feces. That is the problem with "insecurity of your sexuality", the reverse psychology implication that straight men have any doubts about attraction to women and not men.

 

[Captain Harlock]

If someone held up bag of feces and smeared your face in feces, against your will, though not injurious to you, your sense of revulsion doesn't mean you secretly liked feces. That is the problem with "insecurity of your sexuality", the reverse psychology implication that straight men have any doubts about attraction to women and not men.

nice comparison. did a gay man ever try to ram one up your ass?

 

[snackwitch]

nice comparison. did a gay man ever try to ram one up your ass?

hmmm... you are trying to bait the guy to accept your point of view. I agree with others on this forum, you don't have to "accept" romantic or sexual attention from other males as ok. That does not make you insecure. Not knowing what you truly feel about sexuality and not defining your own boundaries makes you insecure.

Plus your "joke" is rather offensive... What if someone is locked up in prison or some similar situation, I think it would be a legitimate concern to be worried about unwanted sexual advances from males.