Gave my # to 2 guys & they both know - should I assume neither will call?

[Sexy_Malibu]

Ok, first off, I don't want to hear anything about attention wh*res, or sl*ts or what-not. This isn't an issue of ME really, just a stupid situation I got myself in...

To make a long story short... I was at a party, semi-made out with a guy, gave him my #, got ready to go... while I'm waiting by the door for my friends to leave too, I start chatting with the guy whose party it was. He asks me for my #, I reach in my bag to get my card I know, how lame, I have a card, that's not the point, ha ha

just then out of nowhere the 1st guy appears again. I didn't know what to do. I gave the card to the other guy, trying to sound like I was giving it to him for "professional" reasons, instead of so he'd have my #... but he blows up my spot and says "so this is your # here, so I can call you here..." the other guy is looking at me weird and I was so drunk that I just froze, I didn't know how to handle it. So I said, "yeah and you 2 can fight over who gets to call me first, Bye!" and ran (literally) out of the house and into the car. funny this is, the last thing I heard them say as I ran out the door was one guy said "well it's my house" ha ha ha... he was only joking I'm sure, but it made me laugh my drunk ass off in the car later.

Now that I'm home and sober (and still slightly hungover) I feel like a total tool. And I'm sure I looked like a sl*t too which isn't really such a big deal, because I'm sure they weren't asking for my # for how smart & interesting I seemed anyway. But I still feel SO stupid. Is it safe to assume that neither guy is going to call me? If either one of them was even going to actually call in the first place, which there's no knowing for sure

What would you do if you were one of the guys? And I don't mean what would a "DJ" do, what would a normal guy do? I don't really care if they call or not to be honest, but I'm curious because I definitely didn't handle it smoothly, but I can't think of any other way to have handled it. Any thoughts?

 

[prosemont]

Depends on their relationship.

If they're friends, they will DEFINITELY determine who should have first dibs on you with each probably giving you up to the other until finally one of them reluctantly agrees that he should be the one to call you. Guy friends are usually really loyal about this type of thing ... "nah, I don't want her, you take her" type of stuff. I actually ended up dating a girl for awhile who I couldn't get my friend to take since we were both interested.

If they're not friends, then both will probably call and heckle you and it'll be for you to decide.

 

[Almighty_womanizer]

Ok, first off, Im going to acknowledge that your not an attention ***** for posting this post or for what you did. Atleast the women who post on this site have something intelligent to say instead of the rediculous DJ bible beleifs that are so common in people's posts on here.

I think its the most rediculous thing, a girl being called an attention ***** for posting on this site.

As for your situation, You may get a call, it all depends on how much the guy likes you. The fact that the two guys both know they are incompetetion reduces the probability that either one of the guys will call you. But You will get a call from one if that one likes you enough to where he feels it is worth the effort. If he really is into you, he will put forth effort.

The best thing I can tell you is to call the one you like most back. (Im assuming you got his number), then take it from there. Aint nothing wrong with a woman calling a guy.

And no, what you did did not make you look like a slut, nor does that kind of behavior make a woman a slut. Apparently, most women dont know what a slut is, alot of women are afraid to wear short skirts (give me a break). And its irritating how women are so "slutphobic". Theres nothing wrong with a girl who is sexual. Theres nothing wrong with a girl wearing sexy revealing clothes. Sexy is not sluty. Slutty is when your sleeping around so frequently to the point where its safe to say you have an STD. So you should probably loosen up a little about the slut thing, and give which ever guy you like better a call, that is, if you want something to happen between you and him...If not, then dont worry, this post was pointless then.

-Elite womanizer

 

[JustDoItAlways]

Sorry, you're both a slut and an attention wh0re. LMAO.

Okay, the simple answer is none or one or both of these guys is going to label you as untrustworthy and will not call you.

Or none or one or both will still call you.

I myself would put you in the untrustworthy category and would move on to the next chick in line. I would assume that you are handing out cards left, right and centre and that's not the kind of thing I'm looking for in a chick.

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

Yeah, I'm not sure if they're friends or not. There were a lot of people at that party from a lot of different places. I didn't know anyone there, it was the party of a friend of a friend of a friend, etc... so it's possible they don't know each other at all, but I basically let the cat out of the bag in front of them both while they were standing there next to each other, so I'm sure they sort of know each other now, ha ha ha...

I'm not sure who was more "into me"... pretty sure neither was hoping to make me their new girlfriend (ha ha)... The first one definitely put in more effort I guess, I saw him checking me out from across the room, then we chatted for a while (had a lot in common surprisingly!) and kissed a little. And then he saw me give my # to someone else. The 2nd guy I really only chatted with him on my way out, not even sure what possessed me to say "sure I'll give you my #"... either the alcohol or the fact that it was his house, no idea... not that he was ugly or uninteresting or anything, but it wasn't exactly like he had put in any time, ha ha. So while I'd say the 1st one probably liked me more, he might actually be "hurt" (not hurt, like I meant a lot to him, but just that I wouldn't be worth calling) by seeing me give my # to someone else. I think the reason he came over to me was to say goodbye/kiss me goodbye & I'm there giving my card out.

I'm not really worried about them thinking I was slutty, I mean I don't think giving my # to 2 guys is slutty, but I wouldn't necessarily say I'm not slutty in general either, ha ha ha

Oh and as for calling them, I was totally smashed... don't even know one of their names, let alone either of their #s... All I had to do was hand them my card, didn't even have to say my # ha ha ... didn't even occur to me to get their #s to be honest, although I've gotten guys' #s and called guys in the past.

Something like this happened to me in the past too, but the 2 guys then WERE friends - best friends. They didn't realize they both hit on me... and I was drunk then too (of course) and didn't really know either of them, so I felt weird turning one down for the other without knowing either. The first one gave me his # and planted a kiss on me, totally surprising me. Then later on, when he was outside on the phone, his friend was talking me up and kissed me and gave me his # (not knowing his friend had already done the same). I ended up calling them both and leaving messages for them that said "you two work it out and get back to me" ha ha. They decided that I would go out with the 1st guy and we had a few good dates, including one very strange (for me at least) double date with the 2nd guy & his girlfriend, ha ha.

But that situation was different because if they hadn't been friends, I could easily have dated both of them without either knowing (not that I would have been two-timing or anything, just nothing exclusive). I kind of feel like the 2 guys at this party last night didn't really know each other (at least not well enough where it'd be an issue for them to both call me). But the real problem was that I got "caught" giving my # out to both of them.

How could I have handled that in a more "graceful" manner than my deer-in-headlights and then running-away move??

 

[Almighty_womanizer]

Sexy malibu wrote in her signature:

" "*Sexy_Malibu*

Attention Wh*re/Wing-Woman/DonnaJuana

"Men are like candy... unwrap 'em, taste 'em, then spit 'em out 'cause you know they're bad for you." "



So you're don juana, its funny how the idiots on this board thought I was you under a different screen name "elite womanizer" or vice versa, You were me under a different screen name.

Man thats irritating how stupid people can be. UMmmmm do your homework and look at the facts and evidence before you claim I am "don juana"

just wanted to point that out


also, This is also reminiscent of Player_supreme beleiving that I am this so called "chucki" character of his. LOL, man he's stupid too for concluding that. And if he wants to challenge me on that dispute, I invite him to bring forth all his evidence that says Im am chucki. But it will be fun to see him be unable to do so, since Im not chucki, therefore, there will not be any evidence

and that's when player_supreme will be standing there looking like an idiot (which wouldnt suprise me, its a routinely occuring event)

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

Originally posted by Almighty_womanizer
Sexy malibu wrote in her signature:

" "*Sexy_Malibu*

Attention Wh*re/Wing-Woman/DonnaJuana

"Men are like candy... unwrap 'em, taste 'em, then spit 'em out 'cause you know they're bad for you." "

So you're don juana, its funny how the idiots on this board thought I was you under a different screen name "elite womanizer" or vice versa, You were me under a different screen name.

Man thats irritating how stupid people can be. UMmmmm do your homework and look at the facts and evidence before you claim I am "don juana"

just wanted to point that out


also, This is also reminiscent of Player_supreme beleiving that I am this so called "chucki" character of his. LOL, man he's stupid too for concluding that. And if he wants to challenge me on that dispute, I invite him to bring forth all his evidence that says Im am chucki. But it will be fun to see him be unable to do so, since Im not chucki, therefore, there will not be any evidence

and that's when player_supreme will be standing there looking like an idiot (which wouldnt suprise me, its a routinely occuring event)

OK I am so confused by this post.

1. Who thought we were the same person?? That's hysterical. No one said anything to me about it, but I haven't been on sosuave so much lately (been out in the real world a bit, ha ha).

2. As for the "Donna Juana" thing in my signature, it's just a joke... because I'm a female on the DJ boards... I get called Don Juanita or Donna Juan or whatever all the time, it cracks me up. I don't profess to be an actual female DJ... just like many (not all, but a lot) of the "DJs" on this site aren't DJs at all. I don't claim to be a full-fledged female DJ... but I do have some game at times. I don't claim to be an actual Attention Wh*re either, even though I'll admit I do have some AW tendencies (as do many of the people on this site and in the world, male/female). All I can wholeheartedly say I am, in all seriousness, is a Wing-Woman. Didn't expect you to take me so literally. Just a joke. Relax.

3. What did Player Supreme claim? Who is "Chucki"?

4. What does any of this have to do with my dumb-*ss move I pulled at the party? Why are you hijacking my thread man? ha ha

5. Does anyone else out there want to comment on a more graceful way I could have handled my little dilemma, for future reference?

 

[princelydeeds]

If it were me and my friends, we would think you were just a typical b!tch. I probably wouldn't say anything to you about it. We would both still wanna fkuck so we would just make a contest of it. The first person to fcuck you would get to brag.

 

[drixsa]

i think depending on the guy they will probably call but put you on the defensive

whats really boggling me is if i were a guy in that sit. what would i do?

there is no proper answer for what the guys "will" do

 

[iqqi]

honestly, malibu, who gives a shiat what those guys think, might do, whatever. not you, right?
great. got that out the way!

now, in awkward situations like that, i am almost always ok because i am
charming and funny! those two put together can build a bridge over ANYTHING!!!

and it seems to me from your posts that those two things are something you are capable of. i wasn't there, but it sounds to me like something of that nature took place anyways. but i think it was the guy who said "well its my house." that was funny, and i bet he was charming. so he solved HIS awkward moment, see?

 

[Almighty_womanizer]

Well sexy malibu, I doubt you would remember. But, over a year ago, people on this board accused me of having an alternate screen name of "don juana", and there was a poster by that name during that time. People for some reason thought I was trying to start **** and confusion on this board with the "don juana" screen name.

I dont know if you were the don juana that was postin back then, but this issue relates to your sginature, not your post.

And "chucki" is some person Player_supreme thinks I am, he got into an argument about some **** on some other message board with "chucki". And he thins Im chucki. He truly beleives it...Im just pointing out how stupid people are when they accuse someone else of secretly being another screen name.

its irritating

-and Im hijacking your thread becuase I like messing with you

 

[Tkman]

Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
What would you do if you were one of the guys?

I wouldn't give a **** because I never look for GF. I would HIT IT and ROLL IT to my friends (if they want it). I wouldn't be upset or mad.

Question: Was the first guy looking for a "gf" material or the same intentions as me (HIT IT then ROLL IT) ? If he is a "goody goody" boy lookin for a "gf" he would not call. This also applies to the second guy, what was he looking for.

Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
I don't really care if they call or not to be honest, but I'm curious because I definitely didn't handle it smoothly, but I can't think of any other way to have handled it. Any thoughts?

You should have farted to take all the attention away and escaped.

 

[Ice Cold]

ROFL

Attention hoes are usually smarter LOL

Don't assume anything. They'll proably call.

And don't worry about looking like a slut. It's just social proof.

Good laugh though

 

[PEACEDJ]

I think you could've only handled it smoothly if the two guys were AFC's... because personally if it was me or few others here we wouldn't really call you because of the line you said, "You guys figure it out fight over who calls me first." I don't know about every guy on this board.. but I wouldn't be too anxious to give a call maybe keep it as a sideline number. Not to be rude or anything.

 

[ShortyBrown]

The Golden Rule here girl is:

Choose carefully.

Next time pick only one of them to hand the digits to. You got greedy.

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

Hey everyone thanks for the responses... but I'm getting more advice on whether or not they'll call ... rather than what I could have done instead? Any thoughts?? I'm ashamed at my lack of imagination. ha ha.

iqqi: You're right... Like I said, I don't really care if they call me. I guess if I actually really liked one of the guys, really liked, then I wouldn't be giving my # to anyone else anyway... so it doesn't really matter if neither call me. There will be plenty of other people for me to give my # out to next time I'm that drunk. I'm more concerned with my lack of charm/wit... my inability to do more than just stare in shock. I just froze. That rarely happens to me. I guess it was the alcohol, but even now that I'm sober I can't think of a better way to have handled it. What would you have done?

shortybrown: ha ha! good point but they asked me... the 2nd one I wouldn't have approached like "hey do you want my #" but it was his party & we were chatting, I felt evil not saying yes. Plus, I didn't really know/like either of them so much yet... just met them both... so how could I choose one over the other? ha ha

Almighty-womanizer: I don't know the whole deal with you and player-supreme and I don't remember DonJuana... but I wasn't trying to reference that, I was just giving myself an official title, ha ha

tkman: Yeah I doubt either of them was looking for a girlfriend, I sure as hell wasn't looking for a boyfriend. ha ha ha... I wonder what they would have done if I had farted... lol... I'm sure they'd really be fighting over me then!

peacedj: I wasn't expecting to be more than a side-line # anyway, ha ha... I know how it is at parties... guys get #s just to get #s... doesn't mean they're going to call even if I hadn't gotten caught the way I did. But you said you wouldn't call because of the line I said... what kind of line wouldn't have made you choose to not call? Or was the situation enough to do that, regardless of what I said?

icecold: I doubt they'll call. Didn't really expect them to call in the first place, even if they hadn't witnessed my little situation. Like the other guys said, if they are just interested in ****ing me, then maybe they'll call... which is fine... ha ha... not that I'll definitely **** them or anything, but not like I was expecting to be wined & dined & romanced Yes, AWs should be smarter than that. I'm embarrassed.

drixsa: what WOULD you do??

princelydeeds:

 

[Big Pappy]

Sexy_Malibu,

Okay, remember, you had been drinking. You can blame all manner of social blunders on booze.

Now, here's the thing. None of these guys proposed to you. They just wanted to spend some one on one time with you. If you feel like it, say yes. If you don't, say no.

What to do different? Give the second guy a test. He was the host, maybe busy entertaining some of his guests, so he couldn't ask you sooner. Ask him for his. If he gives it to you, you know to toss it.

Now, if you really were digging this second guy, then do exactly what you did. Only don't apologize about giving out your number. Don't suggest they fight it out in jest. Just don't mention it at all. The only thing you did wrong was run away.


And, just my 2 cents, they'll both be calling you, good friends or not.

 

[drixsa]

i would call the girl in the situation becuase just like i am going out to pick up numbers she is going out to give numbers

i dont think thats its a bad thing to give out your number to more than just one person or to get numbers from more than just one person

if it were me and my friends (which is different from most people) then one of us would give the girl up or we both would just lose your number

if it was just a casual aquaintence of mine that i didnt care that much about, sure id call the girl.

 

[squirrels]

I'd call anyway...I know that you only gave the number to the other guy in case I'm too busy with other girls to call.

Gotta have a backup plan.

 

[THA REALNESS]

I don't give a flying sh1t about other people . I do as i please.


I would probably call you regardless.



BTW ,a guy is a puzzy if he backed off you cuz you are playing the feild .He's not your Father!! HE DOESN'T OWN YOU GIRL!!