Game on, first date all set - now what?

[Paris1968]

Gonna have fun tonight, but wanted some DJ input.

Made a lot of changes, hit the gym, spend a lot on clothes, been about 3 weeks of my "new attitude", and let me say, EVERYONE is noticing. Love it.

Went out w/ the best wingman ever last Friday. Decided I wanted to find a hot woman and see if I could close. Surprise! I did. We played pool for a bit and I got her number when she had to leave. (She was with a group of friends) Whole time, MAJOR kino, she was hitting me with the sweater kittens on my arm all night, big bear hug when she won her pool game, the works. Great stuff. I picked the one I wanted, took action, kept the sarge on, and closed. HUGE step for me in my new DJ life. And it was so easy. They won't always be.

She's a law student at the university where I work. 13 years my junior. Rockin' curvy body. Major hotness. Letters major as an undergrad. Funny. So she says she plays trivia at a nearby bar every Wed.

I gave her a couple of days and called Monday, left a witty and confident message about a trivia date, were we still into that? The afternoon goes, I'm working round the house, finally hit the hay, I get a text at 9:30pm, says: "Yes! Trivia at DMcG's on Wednesday night."

So I text her back: "Rockin' good news" and left it. Tonight at 7pm.

So here's where the advice comes in. Any tips from experienced DJ's? I'm just lookin' to have some beers and play trivia. We're both prolly good, and both competitive. I may be passing a "friend test" tonight. Don't want a girlfriend really, just a hot chick to chill with, have some fun maybe, ya know? Also she may not realize how much older I am. I don't look it. At all. Which can be both a good and bad thing, depending on the sitch, ya know?

But if it goes well, how to approach the 2nd date suggestion, good/bad conversation topics? I'm not a rookie, but advice is always helpful and some of you fools have so much game it's ridiculous ;-)

 

[Paris1968]

I expect it is a group outing. My sense tells me the same folks she was with last Friday night. So yeah - IF it goes well and IF we like each other - maybe set up the isolation date near the end of the evening.

And yes, not too many Foster's, and I gotta hit the gym at 6:30am tomorrow. Unless she crawls into my lap and begs me to stay for karaoke. Then we have something we can negotiate on.

 

[Iceberg]

Nice work, but I have a question. Will it be a group outing? It sounds like something she does with friends. That won't necessarily hurt you. But you should aim to get her on an isolation date at some point. As for tonight: Don't get too drunk, and don't stay too late.

I agree with samspade.

The group outing isn't a game-killer, but it's also not putting you in the best position to win.

To answer your other questions: There's no need to discuss a 2nd date at this point. Wait a day or two after your first encounter, and ask her to join you for a happy hour or something.

RE: conversation topics

Eh, don't worry about that. You're sitting down with another adult for drinks and conversation. You do this all the time. This just happens to be a girl you like. Don't go in there with pre-planned conversation. Just handle it the same way you would with a friend.

Summary - just have some fun and keep it relaxed. A group outing for Bar Trivia isn't going to be the best date for a make-out session and a quick bang in the back seat of your car. So just have fun, throw some KINO, and try to get her isolated for the next time. I despise group dates.

 

[Paris1968]

Good tips, thanks. As usual, I'm in here again just checking to see if the DJ advice matches my gut instinct. To my credit I guess, it generally does.

In this case, group bar trivia is a good chance to see if I even like her and go from there. My gut says yes, or I wouldn't have got her number last week. I sorta feel like my first post here is a bit AFC-ish - but it was a big step for me to even go out hunting last Friday - much less get her number and then follow up again. Kinda tickled with myself. Getting ****y around the office, winking at the (college) students, dressing like an underdog early mornin' stoned pimp. Hitting the gym regularly. Feel great. Putting my whole attitude out there and taking all comers, it really is a trip, as any recent ex-AFC will tell you.

So imma get the KINO on and kick her ass at trivia. She's very competitive, I already know that. And who knows? She may have hot friends from the law school - and I need to find a woman who can maintain me in the manner to which I've become accustomed...