Breaking news: Not being afraid to approach and not being desperate is 90% of what "game" is anyways.
And it would surprise you just how many men who HAVE the whole LMS thing act desperate and are afraid to approach/are afraid of rejection. Their deficit? GAME, aka being comfortable interacting with women they find attractive.
This is what Urbanyst's advice boils down to. If "Be Yourself" worked, nobody would be here...SS would not exist. How's "Be Yourself" working for the technology geeks in their Teslas with all the LMS in the world and the social calibration of a 6th grader? It isn't. How's "Be Yourself" working for
@bigdave17 or
@RichardTheFrog or anybody else who has recognized that "Be Yourself" isn't enough to compete for the women men want? I mean Dave, by his own account, has LMS in spades. Richard has sufficient looks, and he's working on making money, and he's got his own business, so his LMS is improving. But you have to be able to talk to other people. You have to be able to relate. Both these dudes struggle with women but do not have trouble in business environments or other areas. So that means there is some degree of improvement they need to undertake (I'm not picking on y'all, but you are both very forthcoming with your struggles and your efforts to improve in a social sense, which comes back to a self-belief sense, which has nothing at all to do with the material in the videos). Kudos to both of you. You are each making progress. If LMS was all that mattered there wouldn't be lonely attractive rich guys all over Silicon Valley. I know a multimillionaire who lives on Billionaire's Beach in Malibu, CA. He's got LMS, but he's kinda nerdy and awkward with women. The dog dude I talked about in another thread has mad LMS. He *thinks* he's smooth with chicks...except he isn't. So he's single.
Women will pretty much go along with whatever if they consider you to be high SMV.
But newsflash...SMV isn't a fixed quantity. It expands and contracts as someone gets to know you. I've seen people who APPEAR to have high SMV crash by acting desperate, acting needy, getting all "in love" after a first meet or a first date, or if a girl didn't respond soon enough, etc. That is what many of the posts on SS are all about.
You don't have to do sh*t other than show interest.
Patently false. You can show too much interest, you can say the wrong thing, you can fail to read social cues, you can fail to escalate, you can escalate too agressively...and on and on ad nauseum. There are 1000 ways to screw it up EVEN IF THE WOMAN INITIALLY HAD HIGH INTEREST. This is where FRAME and GAME are important and closely related.
I don't date women. But I date men, and I am here to tell you, LMS is NOT the end all be all if you are creepy, socially inept, inappropriate or otherwise poorly calibrated. I've dated very good looking wealthy men who I liked at first who shot themselves out of the water with behavior that was a turn-off or a dealbreaker. Men who texted needy scroll down novellas, men who came right out and referred to me in public as their "future fiance'", men who got drunk and made racial slurs near a table full of people of the race they were slurring (I pulled that man aside privately and threatened to leave - then and there - if the behavior didn't cease immediately *it did*, and then I never went out with that man again.) The man who did that, by the way, was the retired pro hockey player who earns over 1M a month, and is funny, cool, and handsome (LMS out the wazoo)...but I dropped him after that incident. Cold.
You see women who are themselves high value are not going to tolerate idiot behavior, even from a man who has LMS or high SMV. She has plenty of other men to choose from who also have LMS and high SMV and so she isn't going to put up with dum b ass men who are embarassing.
A man's behavior can wreck his SMV irreversibly in a woman's eyes. GAME and FRAME help educate men to improve themselves not to make these sorts of mistakes when interacting with women.
Here's the absolute TRUTH:
LMS isn't going to do much for you if you're socializing in circles of people who have it as well, which is precisely what people who have LMS tend to do.
The playing field levels out.
Tell me, what do YOU do when you find yourself on a level playing field? Leave? Hang out with uglier people with no money so you can maintain the advantage?
Translation: In high value-land everyone has LMS. Let me say that again...
Among HIGH VALUE people, EVERYONE has LMS. So GAME, aka personality and social skills and FRAME, aka how you exercise your leadership, boundaries and self-respect is what separates the more sought after from the less sought after. Period, end of story, mic drop.