Ok guys so I need your help with this. This has happened to me twice already. The first time was some time ago overseas with a girl I had been texting and calling for months. We went out when I was visiting her country and ended up going to a motel. She seemed fine with it. We started making out. She was a little resistant. I think it was shyness and also the fact that although comfort was built from months of talking there had not been enough time to really build physical desire and attraction to its highest levels. So we had sex and she just seemed kind of out of it and like she was feeling weird. It was the weirdest thing. I was in a long term relationship/marriage and sex during my marriage with my ex was really good. She even joked sometimes that sex was the only thing keeping us together. So I consider myself to be above average in bed. I later found that that girl had a bf or had just broken up with him and was feeling guilty about it and also conscious of not being seen as a hooker.
Then this past Friday night I went out with this girl and a similar thing happened but this time it was more pleasurable and the experience was much better. So I took this girl out (first time out with her) and we ended up going to a hotel. I think this kind of set the bad mood. My place or her place was not an option so I wanted the lay and decided **** it I'll take the hit and find us a room. She said she felt like a hooker going to a hotel. But she went anyways. She was so anxious about people seeing her and all that stuff. We get there. Start making out and everything is going good. Clothes come off. She then starts asking if I had a condom. I said yes. She wanted nothing to happen not even making out if I didn't have it on. She was so paranoid of my d1ck touching her or going in with no condom. This felt a little weird. Like I get the whole safety thing and I also wanted to wear protection for my safety but it seemed a little overboard. Then she wasn't very receptive. Felt like she wanted me to do all the work. Have you guys been with girls like these? So I was doing my thing getting her all wet and stuff. We did it. She came real fast. She looked surprised when I told her I had not come. She didn't really offer to keep doing it so I could come (weird). Anyways, doggy style is my favorite position and so I start kissing her and grabbing her ass and slowly start turning her around. She seems resistant.
Could it be she wanted a more romantic position? We did it doggystyle and she said I was hurting her. As crazy as it sounds and maybe I've read too much about game I thought maybe this was a **** test and she wanted to see if I could ravage her or be a passive boy in bed. I went hard and asked if she wanted me to stop she said no. from there on the night went great but the start wasn't smooth at all. Then when we were done she said she wanted to leave. I was tired as fvck. And the hotel was a good drive from our homes. I said let's sleep a bit and wake up early. She agreed but wanted no part of cuddling or anything. I said the complimentary phrases about how good it was and stuff. But she just seemed so freaking distant. I don't know what to make of it.
Could it be that I'm not escalating kinoing enough or smoothly enough?
Maybe some girls are just like that.
I had none of these issues with my ex-wife. Even at the start. My guess is this girl is has a low sex drive.
She told me she wasn't very vocal during sex but after she got vocal and came again so I felt like I did my job.
And also it just seems to me like a hotel messes up the mood because is not a natural thing like if you go your house and find yourself ****1ng its easier for them to rationalize it as it just happened rather than going to a hotel to fvck.
I need to find plates and more girls because I can sense myself already caring about what this girl thinks and thinking about her more then I would like to. This after only being with her once. If I had other girls this wouldn't be happening.
What do you guys make of this?
Thanks.
Then this past Friday night I went out with this girl and a similar thing happened but this time it was more pleasurable and the experience was much better. So I took this girl out (first time out with her) and we ended up going to a hotel. I think this kind of set the bad mood. My place or her place was not an option so I wanted the lay and decided **** it I'll take the hit and find us a room. She said she felt like a hooker going to a hotel. But she went anyways. She was so anxious about people seeing her and all that stuff. We get there. Start making out and everything is going good. Clothes come off. She then starts asking if I had a condom. I said yes. She wanted nothing to happen not even making out if I didn't have it on. She was so paranoid of my d1ck touching her or going in with no condom. This felt a little weird. Like I get the whole safety thing and I also wanted to wear protection for my safety but it seemed a little overboard. Then she wasn't very receptive. Felt like she wanted me to do all the work. Have you guys been with girls like these? So I was doing my thing getting her all wet and stuff. We did it. She came real fast. She looked surprised when I told her I had not come. She didn't really offer to keep doing it so I could come (weird). Anyways, doggy style is my favorite position and so I start kissing her and grabbing her ass and slowly start turning her around. She seems resistant.
Could it be she wanted a more romantic position? We did it doggystyle and she said I was hurting her. As crazy as it sounds and maybe I've read too much about game I thought maybe this was a **** test and she wanted to see if I could ravage her or be a passive boy in bed. I went hard and asked if she wanted me to stop she said no. from there on the night went great but the start wasn't smooth at all. Then when we were done she said she wanted to leave. I was tired as fvck. And the hotel was a good drive from our homes. I said let's sleep a bit and wake up early. She agreed but wanted no part of cuddling or anything. I said the complimentary phrases about how good it was and stuff. But she just seemed so freaking distant. I don't know what to make of it.
Could it be that I'm not escalating kinoing enough or smoothly enough?
Maybe some girls are just like that.
I had none of these issues with my ex-wife. Even at the start. My guess is this girl is has a low sex drive.
She told me she wasn't very vocal during sex but after she got vocal and came again so I felt like I did my job.
And also it just seems to me like a hotel messes up the mood because is not a natural thing like if you go your house and find yourself ****1ng its easier for them to rationalize it as it just happened rather than going to a hotel to fvck.
I need to find plates and more girls because I can sense myself already caring about what this girl thinks and thinking about her more then I would like to. This after only being with her once. If I had other girls this wouldn't be happening.
What do you guys make of this?
Thanks.
