Gaining Control

[camel7000]

alright guys, so ive had my girl for 6 months now, and need some help with gaining back control in the relationship, and making her want me more.

Now, im kind of a mix between a "nice guy" and a DJ, im caring and loving, and (ashamed to say this) probably compliment her too much, but im also at the same time confident with myself and situation, and for the most part stay with the attractive, playful attitude.

But! I need some though, because i have slipped, and she thinks she has me under her command. What can i do to get her to show me the respect that i deserve? and heighten her interest by being for the most part in charge?

 

[Don Wha]

1. Withdrawal some attention from her. If she wants to hang out, tell her your hanging out with friends or doing something else.

2. When you do hang out with her. Make the plans. Tell her what you two are going to be doing or where you're going to be eating.

3. Decline sex every once in a while.

4. I'm not sure if you two are in a monogamous relationship or not, but if you aren't, spin more plates.

 

[I'm in the Mood]

im kind of a mix between a "nice guy" and a DJ

This is practically the textbook definition of an AFC.

Camel, from what you've written, it seems like she's losing interest in you. Six months is a pretty long time, and unless you plan to get engaged and marry this girl, consider the fact that it's perfectly alright if a relationship doesn't work out between the two of you. You will be free to meet, date and fvck any girl you want to; that's the freedom of being single.

Now you need to have this mindset so you don't get too attached to your girlfriend. Clingyness and neediness are very unattractive to women. Note that I did not say INTIMACY. During an intimate encounter, you're completely free to show your love and affection to a much higher degree.

So you want control and power? You want her to like you?

Here's some Boundaries 101: Learn how to say NO to a woman.

When she tries to manipulate you in any way, maybe by asking for favors, gifts, your time, your energy, anything that you have to put effort into, just say, "No."

"No, I wont do that."

She probably will try to get that power back. She might get emotional, get angry at you or try and pull other sh!t, but DON'T be phased by it! Develop your boundaries and don't let anyone unwanted inside. It might mean that you have to stop doing some of the things that you've been doing for her, and if she tries to argue, mark your territory as yours.

im kind of a mix between a "nice guy" and a DJ

READ the DJ Bible, and LEARN how to separate your DJ-self from your "nice guy" self, and kick that wussy out!

 

[Chromeo]

This needs to be in the bible, very simplified version of what you need to do to keep your power. I used to think saying no was going to hurt me, like telling a girl or girlfriend no I don't want to hang out tonight, would mean she's gonna go find some other guy to hang out with, same thing with deny sex. My ex was a little horn dog, I like having sex much more in the morning than at night, she would try and refuse me in the morning "get off me" "I'm crabby In the morning" bull**** like that, but it was just a **** test she really just wanted me to take what I wanted.

Another girl one time said to me "can we get this over with already?" I was beatin around the bush, literally, for too long, she just wanted me to bang her already, I was waiting for some green light.

Be your own stop light guys, turn red(say no) turn green (say go, take want you want)

like Rihanna says, she's wants a rude boy