G-Theory's Boot Camp Journal

[G-Theory]

I’ve been off and on SoSuave for a couple of years now and have definitely seen improvement in my game. Problem is, I meet a girl and slide back into old AFC patterns then recognize this, drop the chick, and slide downhill. This time around I am focusing on me. I have gotten back into the gym and am lifting heavy (my body is friggin’ fried. Go hard of go home.) and after only a week I have already seen improvements (what is different this time around is I developed a meal plan and am keeping track of everything that is going into my body to make sure I am giving my body everything that it needs).

Now, on becoming a Master DJ.

Like a typical AFC, I usually start something and then when the going gets tough I quit. Well, recently I’ve had some sort of epiphany (maybe because my birthday is coming up and I’m tired of wasting precious life) and have made a commitment to the activities that I start. If I start, I finish. Period. The only failure is quitting.

With that in mind…

I am starting the DJ boot camp this week (today in fact) and will be frequently posting accounts of my experiences in this thread. I have determined a few of my goals that I would like to achieve by the end of the 8-week period and will reassess and update as necessary.

• Become confident in approaching any woman, anywhere, in any situation. This includes closing.

• Actively follow up and weed out mediocre (poor attitude?) HB’s who do not fit my standards.

• Have fun and focus on what I am trying to accomplish in my life. I don’t want my life to revolve around women; I have better things to do. But, when I see that HB9 that catches my eye, it’s time to approach, close, date, then f-close that sh!t.

• I want to be comfortable in any social situation whether I am meeting potential business contacts, or a potential fun bag

All right, this is it, my inner AFC is saying, “NOOO don’t commit, I’m a pvssy and I’m scared.” This just helps bring out the Alpha that wants to crush that sorry son of a btich :trouble: ; so I’m all in!

I’ll keep y’all posted.

 

[G-Theory]

Week 1 Day 1

Ahh yeah, great day. I'm definitely feeling my game coming back (and my AFC trying to come out, but that sorry sob get's pushed aside).

I've been living on my savings for about a month now and it was time to pound the pavement in search of a new job. Because I livein central downtown Denver I decided to walk the city. This provided me with plenty of opportunities for eye contact and greeting the fellow inhabitants of this fine city.

As I began, there were mostly dudes, bums, and grannies, and I found out real quick that men are more likely to engage in eye contact that women. Men are more likely to also hold eye contact until they pass by. This provided me excellent smile and greeting practice as this quickly eases extra tension. This also worked with women that I passed by on my way.

I ended up engaging in a few conversations and struck up a chat with a gal that was buying "48 Laws of Power" at Barnes and Noble. I made a C+F remark about this and got a giggle in return.

Walking along a couple who were talking about the pitfalls of living in Washington D.C. I was quick to point out that yeah, I would imagine D.C. would be a horrible place to live with all those blood sucking politicians around. A slight chuckle and the dude proceded to tell me a story about how everyone is in the government out there. "In fact, I dated this girl who's fathers side of the family was in the CIA. Yeah, after a year they sat me down and told me they'd have to kill me if I did anything stupid. And oh yeah, I found a box of all their disguises...mustaches, sunglasses, you know." Yeah, I knew this guy was full of it. LMAO. His chick pal tried to buy it for a second.

I had a couple more conversations but nothing really spectacular except a confidence boost. There really is no substitute for getting my lazy a$$ off the sofa and getting into the field. But one thing is certain, day time streets is a helluva lot different than nightime bar (duh!).

25/50 hiyas

Positives:

• Maintain eye contact most of the time until the broads looked away. Reminded me that when on the streets, if a HB is looking at you and you "catch" her with eye contact, it seems to increase attraction more than if a girl catches you and makes eye contact.

• I was feeling pretty good today and seemed to have a fairly easy time laughing at the AFC that wanted to emerge. This got easier and easier especially after some good results.

Needs Improvement:

• Sometimes I was loud and clear, sometimes I wasn't. I need to be more consistent.

• See if I can enter into more conversations in the passing.

Note:

• I want to see what happens when I say whats up to people who aren't engaged in eye contact.

• I also want to see what happens if I am staring at an HB's chest and she catches me in the passing.

 

[G-Theory]

Week 1 Day 2

Alright!

Having a great time with this. I'm starting to open up more and I can definitely see a boost in my confidence. Part of it is the weight work and the rest...I'll just chalk that up to being a Man.

Day started off pretty aid back, just chilled and doing siht around the crib. Left to go hit up the gym when right off the bat a HB porlly 18 or 19 (I'll call her HBDeskTeen) was working behind the desk. Now, I already chatted this girl up a couple days ago and had some decent EC but didn't really attribut this to anything:

GT: Hey, whad up?
HBDT: OH Heyyy! How are you! *beeming*
GT: You get my new pass in yet?
HBDT: Not yet.
*fluff*
HBDT: Yeah, I'm sick and not feeling too well.
GT: Eww gross, I knew I spotted something disgusting about you when I walked in. Lol
HBDT: *Laughs* Yeah blah blah blah *twirling hair, bashful, EC*
GT: Alright later

Yeah, I'm feeling great right about now. Go in, bust a workout, met a dude (a weird fella) and generally had more confidence than when I went in their the last time the place was packed.

So add another 5 for on the hiyas and I'm up to 30. I'm going to let the HBDT develop but the more I'm thinking about it the more I suspect she might be under 18, but its only practice anyway.

Hiyas: 5
Total: 30

Positives: Getting good confidence and chatting random people up.

Needs improvement: I could've come up with something better than"disgusting" (I could've followed up and maybe said, 'yeah I figured when I saw the booger hanging out your nose' (hah, next time I see her, 'hey, I see you don't have any boogers hangin' out your nose today...*look* oh wait yeah right there *mirror hand motion*)) but its what popped into my head. It did the trick.

 

[G-Theory]

Week 1 Day 3

Started my exercise off with going to the gym Got in a couple of hi’s and some EC. Nothing notable. I ended up going back to the gym later and there was a sexy black haired dark skinned HB8 working behind the desk. It was hard not to be caught up right then and there. I didn’t bring my pass so I rocked up and told her I aked her to let me in. Blah blah blah she was tking a long time,

GT: You’re a slow typer
HB8Desk: *got a ‘I can’t believe this guy just told me I’m slow’ look on her face*

Work out, said whad up to a plum HB6 (she got a deer in the headlights look), change. On my way out there’s a tall HB6 standing by the stairs. I automatically lock eyes and walk up to her (she didn’t even flinch, must be the testosterone pumping through her veins), she almost looked excited, whatever. Walking up the stairs and HBDesk is walking down

HBDesk: Have a great night! *Beaming, EC*
GT: Thanks. Get better at that typing *wink*

If can smell my own AFC-ness I know this brawd can. Oh well, its just practice anyway. Plus I’m feeling like I want to rip someone’s face off so I’m prolly not putting off a very good vibe. I love the boost from squats.

At this point I’m not really feeling it but I kinda want to get out and throw some mack around. I’m only gonna get rid of these AFC tendencies by changing my habbits, and the only way to get rid of bad habbits is to put good ones in place and the only way to do that…well whatever.

So I decide to hit up a local dive bar that is usually rockin on Friday nights, plus it’s two for 1, I like that!

I walk down to the bar, taking in the fresh air and night sounds all the way, and decide I’m going to hit up the grocery store (which is across the street) first. I’m standing in line to check out when I take a look in the gal’s buggy (who’s standing in front of my)

GT: Damn that’s a lot of broccoli!
HB6.5: Yeah I love broccoli. I blah *cut her off*
GT: You eat all that you’re gonna turn green!
HB6.5: *pissed look* (Must be all that soy milk she drinks)

I rock over to the bar and find an open stool at the bar. I’m leaning back, enjoying my beer, watching the bulls/sixers game, when I start smelling something delicious! I turn around and theres a HB7 (skinny brawd with dark hair) and her plump lesbian friend (HB6) when I say:

GT: Damn, I knew something was smelling good. *looks at HB7Skinny* Yeah, I know what you’re thinking, but I’m talking about the food!
HB7S: Lols

At this point I turn back around to my drink when this loud AFC dude comes over and starts oozing negativity. He tells me his perspective blah blah. At this point I have to take a psis. When I come back dude is hovering over the two chicks I was just talking too and I can tell they are not really getting on with the AFC. I just think, ‘great, another good in point.’

I sit down and start chatting up HB6 and notice her t-shirt says something.

GT: What’s your shirt say? *reaches over and grabs arm, some light kino* (something about her being easy.
HB6: Yeah I’m a lesbian so…
GT: Oh yeah *laughs* that’s great (she’s just there to ckocblock for her cute friend) What’s your name? *reach out and shake hand*
HB6: I’m blah blah blah. Me and my friend are roommates
GT: *turns to HB7S* What’s your name? *extend hand*
HB7S: I’m blah blah
GT: DNAM you shake hands like a man. What’s that all about.
HB7S: blah blah blah

At this point a dude walks over that I’ve befriended before. Turn and talk to him for a minute turn around and the girls had left. Something how they couldn’t see the game. Well, good practice disarming the cawkblock. They were too butch for me anyway.

Later on this chick came in (who I banged a few times a little while ago – what was I thinking…oh yeah I wasn’t…damn AFC) and came up to me. Blah blah blah. To make a long story short I ended up leaving the bar a while back with her (HB6 –cause of her face) and her cute blond friend (HB7 – nice body). I was rubbing the blond friends leg and she looked happy about it – HB6Face didn’t. Any way, another night, I bumped into both of them and ended making out with HB7NB (kissin, grabbin, playin with her through her pants) and HB6Face was pissed! Yelling and screaming, total psycho whroe. I ended up goin on a date with HB7NB but nothing really came of it, she was worried what her HB6Face friend would think.

So anyway, I go over and talk to HB7NB and she is really putting off some high IL. Turns out she’s moving states in about a month. I need to follow up on this.
I talk to some more brawds but at this point I’m getting a little intoxicated. This dude introduced me to a chick a little earlier (I mentioned something how her dress looked like it was made in the middle east) so I walk up:

GT: Hey Amy!
Amy: How’s you know my name?
GT: Blah blah whatever *don’t tell her*

She does something and says something and let’s slip that her name is actually ANNIE. LMAO, whatever. I didn’t even flinch. I fawked up because I started calling her Annie but prolly should’ve still called her Amy. I’m really in an a$$hole mood tonight. I love it!

Talked to a couple other brawds, thinking about windin the night up when HB6Face walks back up slurring:

HB6F: We have great sex! Why don’t you ever call me any more blah blah blah
GT: Is that all you think of me? *after I said it I realized how AFC this was, but that’s why I’m getting this practice in anyway*
HB6F: Blah blah blah *leaves*

I end up staying for last call, stumble home and pass out.

Positives:

• Overall I had a great day, got in plenty of hi’s and good EC.

• I’m learning how to establish my Alphaness in the presence of others

• had a great workout (two of ‘em actually)

• am learning more about my deep seeded AFC habits.

Needs Improvement:

• I really need to work on getting better at conveying my Manliness in the opening of a convo.

• My AFC tendencies need a lot of work.

I’m gonna say I got 10 more hi’s because saying whad up to peeps at a bar is a piece of cake. Prolly because there’s some much context.

35/50 Hiyas

 

[G-Theory]

Week 1 Day 4

Pretty lame day. I was draggin a$$ all day long thanks to a funktastic hangover. I managed to get out to the bookstore and managed some EC and a hi here and there but it was lame.

 

[G-Theory]

Week 1 Days 5 & 6

It’s been a little slow going the last couple of days but I’ve stayed steady and finished out my greeting strangers. Last night I went ahead and strolled down to the bar for twofers to get in on some human interaction and ended up actually having some good conversations. I’m going to count one of them because I was sitting next to a dude at the bar and opened him up half way into my beer.

There’s this cute HB8 bartender who is a poli-sci major at the local university and a few weeks ago I ended up with her number. See said something about how I’m peculiar blah blah but I think it’s because all the dudes that go in there stare at her whatnots and I just simply watch the game. Add to that a couple of innuendos and some teasing and I’ve raised her interest. Too bad I’d never date my bartender because she might actually be fun to go out with.

GT: HEY! Bring that glass back here, you didn’t lemme finish! (less than a swig in the glass)
HBB: There’s nothing in th…oh…well you know I’m blind
GT: I know you’re rude!
HBB: O
GT: Talk about a party foul.
HBB: LOLS!

I’m pretty sure she had some high interest in me because I went into the bar a few days after she gave me her number and she was like, “why haven’t you called me!” But like I said, that’s my chill bar so I can’t really date the bartender but it is great social proof when I go in there.

 

[Heyjose25points]

This thread should get more replies as the bootcamp is not only about 100% success...its more of a process of what u went through to get that success. I'm very impressed by how it's going so far and how ur masculine energy is flowing. I like ur sense of humor, its pretty good. More like my style ;-)
Just remember in the future, u don't have to follow to the bootcamp to the T(Just don't get 100% lazy)....as u can make into ur very own bootcamp.

I await ur progress.

 

[G-Theory]

Week 2 Day 1

I’ve taken the past couple days off due to some nasty lung cheese thing goin’ on, but I managed to feel up enough to do some errands and kick it with a close friend. Earlier in the day we stopped in a store and when we were checking out the lady was whining how she didn’t feel so good. Of course I pipe in and said she didn’t look so good either (with a wink and smile) and she immediately started giving off IOI’s. Her friend chimed in, “that was rude!!!” all while I was lmao.

Later on we ended up walking through the mall and I stopped in a beauty supply store and approached a HB7 while she was working. I don’t have any hair so the conversation went like this.

GT: Hey, can you recommend a solid hair product for me?
HB7: You don’t have any hair! *Lols – Deer in the headlights look*
GT: Well, what do you use on your hair, it looks so…shiny!
HB7: Its not THAT shiny…
GT: Blah blah blah
HB7: Blah blah

At this point the convo was stallin’ and I lost interest quick so decided to leave.

Later on we ended up at a bar close to my buddy’s casa. The bartender was looking cute and there was a game on the tube that was looking interesting.

HBBT: Why are you drinking Bud Lt when your shirt says 1554?
GT: Why are you looking at my chest? You women think you can treat us guys like a piece of meat!
HBBT: Blah blah *blushes*

We talk a little bit and my buddy starts talking to her about investing and how we are investment analysts. Turns out she went to school for that yada yada. She was fun but no real interest on either one of our parts.

HBBT: *cleaning*
GT: You do that REALLY well…must be in your genes.
HBBT: Shud up *lol*

Some time during the night I talked to a waitress saying she looked bored blah blah and she opened up. In fact she wouldn’t shud up. We talk all night and she cleaned the same spot of bar about 20 times just so she could look busy while talking to me. Turns out she use to work across the street from me a few years back. I forgot her name by the end of the night.

GT: *leaving* Julie right…
HBW: huh nooo, that was a girl who I used to work with though (she mentioned something about this) blah blah I’m Bonnie. (At this point she tried to poke fun at me)
GT: *Laughs* okay, see ya later Julie *lolz*

All in all, good day, good night. I need to transition a woman into feeling comfortable and get out of building attraction. I’ll work on this. I do like how I am making approaches and starting conversations. Definitely positive.

Convos: 3/10

 

[The_Wolf]

Interesting to read.

Keep up the good work, and continue updating.

 

[G-Theory]

Week 2 Day 2

After much contemplation and a day of lounging I finally worked up the energy to kick at the local pub. I wasn’t really feeling it but then I asked myself, “what would a Master DJ do if he wasn’t feeling it? Well, he’d put himself in a position to feel it.”

I walked into a mass of people pushing towards the bar. Fortunately for me I found a lone barstool tempting me to rest my cheeks on its sleek wooden surface. As luck would have it a single brawd was hovering close but before she could sit down I beat her to it.

GT: Hey, what’s goin on?
HB: Hey what’s up.

At this point I proceeded to call her a lush and ask her where she was from, the typical conversation material, throwing in some C+F and making sure I have good eye contact and kino. The conversation was moving at a good pace:

HB: Yeah I moved from Miami
GT: Lot’s of fine women down there huh. You moved to CO because you were intimidated?
HB:*O* ACTUALLY I fcuked most of them!
GT: *O*

I almost stalled on the convo but I had enough sense to 1) contain my excitement and 2) act like it was no big deal. Turns out she is in a 2 year relationship with a woman who has never been with a man. They have a closed relationship so I knew I wasn’t interested in anything physical with this woman, at least this night. Anyway, I kept the kino up and halfway through the conversation I turned around and talked to a HB 8 brunette sitting behind me, she had medium interest in me, which was more than the dude she was with. I opened her up, chatted a bit, then talked to the dude for a brief, disarming second, shook his had, shook her hand with some good kino and continued to make eyes with her.

I turn back around and HBL started rubbing my leg. I knew this was probably just her personality because she had a high amount of kino with the bouncers and bartenders. She ends up leaving.

I hot blonde (HB8) ends up sitting down next to me. I started talking to her and had some great interest building. I tried to start a chat with both of them but at first they were having none of it. I waited for a little while and ended up talking to her again. I asked her some **** about who had the better style, Clay Aiken or Justin Timberlake?

HBB: OMG Justin Timberlake for sure. (She ended going off on a tangent)

Her BF ended up coming in but I kept at it and ended up raising her IL even further. As the bar was closing down she squeezed in behind my chair and I over exaggerated:

GT: Jeez, time for you to hit that treadmill huh?
HBB: *OMG I can’t believe he just said that* Well, I do use the treadmill..
GT: You should spend a little more time on that thing

From this point she hounds me about why I think she needs to use the treadmill blah blah blah, basic validation ****. LMAO That was fun.

One other notable mention: I approached a 2 Set. Opened a little bit but I didn’t really stick with it long enough to build rapport or anything like that.

All-in-all I am doing better and getting more comfortable approaching and talking to women. It is a blast talking **** to them but there is a point where it becomes rude. I almost hit that point with the whole treadmill gig, but I think I pulled it off because of 1) the booze and 2) this brawd had been having fun with me all night.

So I ended the evening going home with no numbers but at least 3 conversations closer to my goal. I talked to a few dudes but I’m not going to count those because of my progress.

As far as improvement goes, I need to remember my conversations. Well, either that or get a damn recorder. I am also doing a little better transitioning into a comfort zone (opening up, telling a fun story about myself, etc) but need to learn to get a woman’s IL even higher. There’s probably more but the fog of a hangover is looming in front of my eyes (I am also doing better by not drinking as much, this definitely helps).

Convos: 6/10

 

[Heyjose25points]

Yea, it can be pretty fun as hell when ur on a roll, raggin on her...but then it can get quite a bit too far.lol. Wow, ur week 2 is going pretty splendid dude....almost got the 10 convos down. Liking the C & F. Likin the reads.

 

[G-Theory]

End Of Week 2

So after taking a few days off due to illness I am back on my feet and in full swing. I went to my local pub Tuesday and last night to finish off my exercise. I ended up having some serious approach anxiety and could only attribute this to being ill during which time I did absolutely nothing; I couldn’t even go to the gym (I ended up going once and almost passed out, lol).

But anyway, I ended up at a local pizza joint and got a phone number. I don’t remember much of the interaction but from what I do recall I was simply in an ‘up’ state of mind and just had fun with the girl. Also from what I remember she had a high IL and when I handed her my phone to record her number she entered her name as “Jessica Silly”. I assume she wanted me to remember who she was. Lol.

Last night I had a few conversations and kept toying with the bartender. I know she wants me to call her but I the jury is still out on that one. I didn’t have much time to interact because I was playing in a foosball tournament and had to stay focused. I ended up winning the whole thing and taking home some money, talk about a boost! I’m still pumped up about it and I am going to try and use that feeling to attract women.

I finished off my conversations and today marks the beginning of week 3. I might make some modifications to the exercises (like focus on getting rejected) but I have yet to make up my mind.

Keep on keepin’ on.

 

[G-Theory]

Week 3 Day 1

I haven’t read this week’s chapter in the DJ Bootcamp but I decided to head out and hit the night scene anyway. It was a fun night and I am definitely seeing myself come out of my shell. I am beginning to be able to see my fear of the approach, tell myself that I recognize the fear, and then agree to deal with that fear later. It seems to work…at least tonight.

I started out at one of my favorite lounges called The Mynt. Mynt Mojitos are their specialty. I order up a favorite and hit the Men’s room. One look in the mirror...still looking my best ... adjust the fedora...I'm on my way.

2 set at the bar…ok G, take a breath and sit down…glance in the mirror, spot the HB sittin with her back turned checkin me out…once…twice…”Hey, how’s your night goin?” blah blah, start chatting with her friend, small talk nothing special. Quick... finish the drink, feeling…confident. Sorry ladies but you’re no fun, time for me to move on.

After I finished my drink I head across the street to a blue collar joint. Sure I’m a bit overdressed, but I order up a bud light and catch up with Sports Center…definitely a Man’s Man type of place. Cute little brawd sittin’ to my right, nothing really special, she’s got a bit of an attitude. “Damn girl, that shirt is…Red” She says something about Michael Jackson but there’s something funky about her…moving on. Two dudes to my left, “Hey, how’s your night goin?” “Good blah blah”…. I go back to my beer. I wait a few minutes, back to my left, “You guys up on sports?” We end up talking for over an hour about sports this and that then it comes around to what I do. “I’m an investment analyst.” Turns out these guys are working for some up-and-coming media company that will provide some sort of media service for cellphones. They want me to do a podcast. I wouldn’t invest in the company but they got me thinking. Plus, the dudes play foosball and decided, “Theory’s cool!”

I needed a pen to write something down so I approach a 2 set and ask if one of them was the waitress and had a pen…LMAO…I get a push and a “are you serious?”…this is what I live for. So I go back to dudes and they were like…”That was awesome, he needs to come to our party…Dude, there’s gonna be A LOT of hot women there” twist my arm!?!

So we’re sitting there and one of the waitress girls comes and pushes herself into the bar right where I’m sitting. I rag on here and give her non-stop hassle. One of the dudes was an AFC and was like, “no no she’s ok, this is okay.” I said, “uhhh no dude that’s rude.”

I finish my brew (thanks to the fellas) and walk across the street to another lounge called Monarch. I stroll in, hit the Men’s room to get a feel for the place, smiling and saying, "what’s up," like I own the place. I roll back and see a cute brawd standin at the bar…good place to get a drink. Hit her up, order, she had somethin’ funny goin on. I roll down to the end of the bar, open a 2 set. I was doing well with this cut little piece that was at least an 8 but I didn’t set myself a time restraint. I had good repoire, her IL was up, but then I was thinking, “when is this going to end.” She was thinking the same thing. “Maybe I’ll see you around.” She was boring anyway.

I roll over to a big girl that looked like she was having fun, she introduces herself, “Hey, I’m …. This is my friend.” HELLO friend!!! I see she is wearing a cheap necklace and I see my opportunity for kino. I grab it, compliment her on it and her friend tells me to look at her back. “Damn, that’s like the sun, it's almost too much to look at!” Big girl grabs me and spins me around, pushes her friend in front of me and they start to grind away…”WHOA,” I push them away, “now you two are goin a little to far in turning the Man on.” LOLz.

Well, I get the cute friends number (she’s a latina girl and somehow or another we start talking about her ethnicity and I mention, “yeah, white American women seem to want to be a Man…they dream of having a penis.” She tells me, “Well, I just want a REAL man, us latina girls no how to be REAL women!!”). I get her number…”Do you remember my name…?” Yeah, it’s HB8” LOLz.

They leave, I go to the restroom, end up bumping into them again, they can’t keep their hands off me and keep grabbing my ass, I get introduced to another cute friend, she takes my hat. Well now it’s keep away, and I find myself grabbin her. Ms. Latina gets feisty and starts grabbin me and grindin, I finally get my hat back. Then I say I’m gonna bounce and sure as **** my hat disappears!! WTF!

I get it back and I put it on Ms. Latina’s head and I say, “I’ll get this later.” The look on her face was priceless. And I bounce. It was a $15 hat …I said it was custom made in Chile…sure I like the hat and hopefully I get it back…but if not, oh well…I'm pretty sure I’ll get it back.

All in all, good night, talked to quite a few women, got a number from a girl who has high IL. In fact, my IL is probably up as well. She was fun, her friends were fun, and most of all, I had fun.

As far as game improvement, right now my most glaring mistake is that I need to add a time limit. The fun girls were chill in that respect and if I would have put a time restraint on Missy Prissy I’m sure I would have left with her number as well.

Keep 'em comin'!!

 

[shrewd]

good job. What do you tell yourself when you start feeling the fear of the approach? do you use the 3 second rule?

 

[G-Theory]

What do you tell yourself when you start feeling the fear of the approach?

What I've noticed is that emotions aren't necessarily a reaction to what's happening in present reality. If I'm not mistaken this is what NLP refers to as a Time Stamp. Basically, during a previous event (whether in your life time or your predecessors) an emotion is associated with an event.

When you experience an emotion like fear you are associating your present circumstances to past circumstances that possibly had a negative outcome (this outcome could be imagined and the fear is associated with an imagined outcome).

Anyway, what I've also noticed is that when I am nervous and experience anxiety or stress I usually have conflicting emotions. For example,
when trying to decide what I want for dinner, I want a greasy hamburger but I know I should eat healthy this can cause stress. Instead of denying one or the other I accept that I want a hamburger and then go eat healthy.

Another example, I see a woman and my emotions say, "run for your life," but I know that I need to approach her and talk to her if I want to get laid. So, I admit that I am afraid to approach her (I don't WANT to be afraid, but I am, so instead of denying my fear I just say, "okay, I'm afraid, but I'll be afraid AFTER I talk to her") which for some reason decreases the effect of the fear to almost nothing.

It seems to me that emotions are a type of warning system, if you acknowledge the warning then the system did it's job and no longer needs to warn you.

do you use the 3 second rule?

I just sat down and worked through the fear (approaching that first woman ALWAYS helps me squeeze the last little bit of fear out of my mind) and it became a sub-conscious action; I didn't have to say in my head "1-2-3 GO" I just saw a woman, and approached her.