G/F Sexual partners

[masterpiece]

I recently found out that my g/f who is 19 has slept with 10 guys before me.
I have read previous threads which all say this is about avarage for girls theses days.
I try to accept this but am finiding it difficult to.
Am i right to be feeling this way about it, as its putting me off her a bit.

 

[Perfect10]

Next her!

(/sarcasm)

Seriously, why give a damn? It's just 10 random mens organs that has been inside of her? Just meat against meat. By the day she goes to the grave she's trippled the amount anyways.

 

[AmIAFC]

I'm sorry, but for a 19 year old, that seems a little high. The sex-crazed bipolar chic I was with a while back admitted to being with 15 and she was 23. Her rationale was that she loved "sampling" different types of men.

That fiend was accustomed to new ****, new **** being fed to her on a semi-regular basis, and a woman like her is unaccustomed to being limited to one ****.

My opinion is that you should make yourself #11 (if you haven't already been relegated to #13 by the end of this post) and then move on.

 

[masterpiece]

i am already number 11 as we have been going out now for 3 months and all is going well, but we got onto the subject last night and i was a bit shocked she had slept with so many.

Seriously, why give a damn? It's just 10 random mens organs that has been inside of her? Just meat against meat. By the day she goes to the grave she's trippled the amount anyways.

This is what im trying to do but it does bother me but she says that she was single so at the time there was no problem with it.

 

[foomee]

what's worse for you? hearing a girl had one boyfriend for 2 years but she got ****ed everyday.
or hearing a girl slept with 10 guys and only had sex maybe 30 times?

ignore the fact that she's been with others before you. she's with you now so just wear a condom. don't worry, you're young and years later you'll meet great girls that may have slept with more than 10 guys. who cares? just as long as its not part of her profession...!

 

[JonSirG]

if she says 10 its 30
so what
shes experienced

 

[DonJuanit0]

Once again! Why the f*ck do you people talk with your gfs about that kind of staff? Especially in this age!! My gf asked me once the no. of girls I've been with and I told her, 175.5, do believe that midgets should count as 1 person?!? (I don't want to offend anyone)( I think I've seen this answer on this very forum), and when she told me that she'll tell me her no if I tell her mine, I told her that I DON'T WANNA F*CKING KNOW!! She shouldn't know and you shouldn't know! You can make her understand that you've been with many woman by actions! Experience/say things like, I had this chic bla bla bla, but for Gods sake, don't talk with numbers!!

 

[Warrior74]

This is what you get for asking. There is an old adage. Never ask questions you wouldn't want to know the answers to.

And this question...you either will not like the anwser or assume she is lying. There is no satisfaction in this question unless she is a virgin. Even if it was 1 guy would you be completely satisfied? Really? I highly doubt it.

The question in itself comes from a place of weakness and fear. Imagine a caveman or the much valued Alpha male wondering if a woman was a hor or not. They are all hors in his book. So why even ask?

 

[Kailex]

She's lying. It's not 10.

Regardless of whether it's less or more, I believe you have learned your lesson. You never want to know how many they've been with nor do you want to tell how many you've been with... specifically for this reason.

It'll mess with you if you're an insecure person and if you can't grasp the notion that it was in her past and you are in her present. All of us at some point will be with one woman who has had more partners than you have. It's just going to happen, which is why you are better off WITHOUT that information.

I personally never want to know.

My question is: Did you ask her for this information?

And if you did ask her: Did it take her a while to give you a number or did she give you a number right away?

 

[(JJ)]

eh, this is tough donjuanit0. you can only postpone the eventual conversation, if you're actually gonna take the relationship seriously. i started out telling my girlfriend "well.. i was gonna get a t-shirt for number 500, but i guess 497 is worth a tshirt too..." lol but she kept pushing. she'd try, wait a week, try, wait 10 days, try, etc. finally, i said "listen, i don't want to know about all your sexual escapades dammit!" she was practically in tears, and said "you're number 2." so at that point i thought... alright, i actually see some potential in this girl, so i'll let her know, so i did.

anyway, to answer the op's question, 10 is a lot for a 19 year old. lets just LIBERALLY estimate she started having sex at 16. 3/year, 1 every 4 months.

enjoy getting her pvssy for 4 months. dont catch feelings. girls like this dont do it for me. you have an evolved desire to not want girls that have had a lot of d1cks inside em because that raises the chances that you're gonna be raising the PRODUCT of one of those encounters.

it comes down to what YOURE comfortable with. some guys on here are totally okay with it and can put it out of their minds. I know i cant. if i knew something like that about any girl that i was trying to game, i would immediately stop any attempts on her. if you dont like it, then you dont like it. not the end of the world, plenty of girls out there.

 

[DonJuanit0]

eh, this is tough donjuanit0. you can only postpone the eventual conversation, if you're actually gonna take the relationship seriously. i started out telling my girlfriend "well.. i was gonna get a t-shirt for number 500, but i guess 497 is worth a tshirt too..." lol but she kept pushing. she'd try, wait a week, try, wait 10 days, try, etc. finally, i said "listen, i don't want to know about all your sexual escapades dammit!" she was practically in tears, and said "you're number 2." so at that point i thought... alright, i actually see some potential in this girl, so i'll let her know, so i did..

I'll have to disagree with this...
Just don't tell her, even if she does! I also reffered to their age! Which is 19-20 so I don't think anything THAT serious can happen so that they have to exchange that kind of information!
I'm strongly against it...

 

[masterpiece]

eh, this is tough donjuanit0. you can only postpone the eventual conversation, if you're actually gonna take the relationship seriously. i started out telling my girlfriend "well.. i was gonna get a t-shirt for number 500, but i guess 497 is worth a tshirt too..." lol but she kept pushing. she'd try, wait a week, try, wait 10 days, try, etc. finally, i said "listen, i don't want to know about all your sexual escapades dammit!" she was practically in tears, and said "you're number 2." so at that point i thought... alright, i actually see some potential in this girl, so i'll let her know, so i did.

This is pretty much what happend she kept asking me about mine and i wouldnt reply, but after a while i just told her then she told me hers without me asking for it and i was surprised to say the least.

To answer kalix she gave it straight away without being hessitant, i dont belive she has done it with 30 as that would be extreme and i think if she would have lyed she would have said less than 10.

what's worse for you? hearing a girl had one boyfriend for 2 years but she got ****ed everyday.
or hearing a girl slept with 10 guys and only had sex maybe 30 times?

This is also a good point, and something i should think about.

I agree that the past shouldnt have been talked about but she want to be open with each other so i couldnt be bothered and just told her.

anyway, to answer the op's question, 10 is a lot for a 19 year old. lets just LIBERALLY estimate she started having sex at 16. 3/year, 1 every 4 months.

I thought this to and thats why im a bit sceptical now.everything else in the relationship is going fine but the thought she used to be "easy" puts me off a bit.

 

[DanelMadr]

If I was interested in her sexual life....which is better to not to know...I would be interested what types of guys she opened her legs for.
If they were some sleazy random guys with no value I would be very disappointed.

Bottom line is....if a girl is serious about you she won't pull a stunt like that telling you some shocking sexual bad news. And if she does that to test you, she is stupid bytch . Or she is very insecure trying to shoot herself in the leg.

It is best when they play the good girls. But if I find out they did it with some real douche bag I puke and eject.

I once saw a Girls Gone Wild video when teens go from flashing their boobs over flashing punani to licking each other out. I think we all know what I am talking about ;-) It is very entertaining and arousing I have to admit but also very disturbing for a future possible husband or brother.
But the most interesting thing that happened was this one very pretty girl who refused to even show her tyts, she got me really hard. I think girls should know that. But hey, they go crazy when they have chance to be on TV.

 

[brekke]

Where do you guys find these girls? Clubs? 10 is too high, and it is kind of gross. It shows that she does not value herself. Screw them if you want, but why would you want one of these sluts to be your girlfriend?

 

[masterpiece]

cheers for the advice guys, ill keep it in mind im still not 100% happy about it but i guess what she done when she was single isnt really any of my business.

 

[xHiGHPoTeniaL]

so what about when the girl asks you this question but lies with her answer? what does that mean and should u still not even answer.

a chick i've chilled with for awhile asked me and i was suprized as hell. I said I really don't know i'd hafta write it down to really figure it out an exact number. I kinda jokingly asked her back and she said 7 which, knowing her pretty well, is complete and total bullshyt. which is why i was really suprized why she even bothered asking.