FWB is over, I need all the advice on what to do next.

[thadder]

These guys are right on the money OP. Take their advice and move on. She enjoyed you, now she’s gone. You enjoyed it too and now its over. Go out and enjoy someone else but before you do that, reconsider what it is you want from the next girl you sleep with. If it’s just sex that’s totally fine, but guard your feelings and don’t except more. Then, if more happens and you like her, bonus. If not, no skin off your back .

I'm actually pretty content with FWB due to my work/lifestyle (wedding photographer) so I'm either working or traveling somewhere.

 

[AttackFormation]

I've screen capped last night's conversation, if any of you want to take a look at it;
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Wow.... I can't believe how low men can sink themselves. But I guess you showed it to me for my own eyes and I can't deny it when the proof is right there. It's no wonder women don't respect "men", and mock us for fun with each other. You come across as a sniveling, emasculated worm.

Reading this is unbelievable, and you can be sure that the women you interact with think the same. You need to reevaluate the way you think about and talk to women.

She could have just professed her undying love over and over while still stringing you along like my insecure exes...you lucked out

Lmao... hahahaha. Oh man.

 

[MrJack]

Previous post might have been a bit over the top, but that's my flare for drama I guess.

Any who, wasn't even a feelings thing because the last time we hooked up it just felt really off for the both of us.

For me, I was just under the impression that things were kosher and would hook up as an ebb & flow, like, no real issues you know. At the very best I can play an actor who pretends to be a pretty passionate guy (like really makes someone feel affectionate, adored, loved, etc) -- she did tell me multiple times not to catch feelings and then that eventually stopped.

Basically, if it was a good thing, why stop it? That was my thought process.

FWB never lasts forever. Either it fizzles out or you both catch feelings and enter into an LTR.

In this case you caught feelings she didn’t so it fizzled out.

No big deal bro, go get a different FWB.

As far as what to do with this girl? Just go NC and get her off your mind as best you can.

The great thing about FWB is that it can come back with time. I had one for a couple months and it fizzled out and then a month or 2 later she hit me up again and we hooked up for another good month before it fizzled out again.

For me, the reason was she wanted a LTR but I told her I like things the way they are and she eventually couldn’t accept that.

Women come and go. This one has gone but could resurface. So for now focus on the ones that are coming.

 

[HankHill]

Wow.... I can't believe how low men can sink themselves. But I guess you showed it to me for my own eyes and I can't deny it when the proof is right there. It's no wonder women don't respect "men", and mock us for fun with each other. You come across as a sniveling, emasculated worm.

Reading this is unbelievable, and you can be sure that the women you interact with think the same. You need to reevaluate the way you think about and talk to women.

Come on man...kicking a man who's down is not very manly either. I thought he handled it ok in the moment...sure in hindsight there're always things you coulda woulda shoulda done differently but fvk it, who cares? you live and learn from each experience. The good thing is he got the clarity that he was looking for, he just needs to move on now.

 

[AttackFormation]

Come on man...kicking a man who's down is not very manly either. I thought he handled it ok in the moment...sure in hindsight there're always things you coulda woulda shoulda done differently but fvk it, who cares? you live and learn from each experience. The good thing is he got the clarity that he was looking for, he just needs to move on now.

I expressed what I felt when I read what he wrote.

 

[thadder]

Let’s make one thing clear I never wanted her to be a GF or anything like that.

She was never told she was beautiful or adored or even complimented on her body by her ex, and I did all those things.

I was just hoping that the sex would keep continuing on and off, she told me that she’d never date me and I was perfectly fine with that

 

[HankHill]

She was never told she was beautiful or adored or even complimented on her body by her ex, and I did all those things.

OK so this is where you went wrong my friend. This tells me she likely went back to her ex. Women chase validation, since you validated her she lost the need to chase you, you were no longer her challenge her mountain to climb/conquer. However, he never did so she probably went back to him to get that or found a new challenge. You of course have to give them compliments sometimes but they should stop short of validating them.

 

[Soflobro#3]

You didn’t do anything wrong but if you set it up that it’s just going to be sex and nothing more, you can’t be surprised if she acts accordingly. Women can enjoy sex and not fall for the guy, or even want him as a boyfriend. It’s not as common as guys who can do that but it’s certainly not rare. Like LAraider said, actions not words.

Only filthy whovres that are emotionally damaged from having to many past partners can have s3x and not get attached. Not that there is anything wrong with that but women like that don't ever deserve a serious relationship because they'll have to lie and lead a guy on to get one.

 

[thadder]

FWB never lasts forever. Either it fizzles out or you both catch feelings and enter into an LTR.

In this case you caught feelings she didn’t so it fizzled out.

No big deal bro, go get a different FWB.

I would say that I did not catch feelings, but feel she was starting to, and kept convincing herself not to.

Example, one time she said that me not much of a reader, "this is why we wouldn't work out"
Another example she said after sex "We could never date, we have nothing in common but we have sex in common"

She said over and over "I don't want to do drinks or meet your friends" and I said "Yeah I'm fine with that"
She would also say "Don't catch feelings" and I was like "Yeah, I know"

So yes, I knew it was all out there.

She'd start sharing songs with me about love, or broken hearts, etc -- so I kind of wondered if she wanted me to make a move or progress this -- because an FWB at the heart of it is about casualness and hooking up -- if you look back to my original text I said "I thought this was kosher and casual" and then she said "Until it wasn't" -- meaning SOMETHING changed at that point (but doesn't have the audacity to tell me)

I think what happened here is she's saying "I like you but I need to see my other options" -- and I'm fine with that. At the very least, I know that I made her feel good about herself (never any arguments, or drama)

 

[Soflobro#3]

I would say that I did not catch feelings, but feel she was starting to, and kept convincing herself not to.

Example, one time she said that me not much of a reader, "this is why we wouldn't work out"
Another example she said after sex "We could never date, we have nothing in common but we have sex in common"

She said over and over "I don't want to do drinks or meet your friends" and I said "Yeah I'm fine with that"
She would also say "Don't catch feelings" and I was like "Yeah, I know"

So yes, I knew it was all out there.

She'd start sharing songs with me about love, or broken hearts, etc -- so I kind of wondered if she wanted me to make a move or progress this -- because an FWB at the heart of it is about casualness and hooking up -- if you look back to my original text I said "I thought this was kosher and casual" and then she said "Until it wasn't" -- meaning SOMETHING changed at that point (but doesn't have the audacity to tell me)

I think what happened here is she's saying "I like you but I need to see my other options" -- and I'm fine with that. At the very least, I know that I made her feel good about herself (never any arguments, or drama)

Man to be honest you're making it sound like you have feelings for her because you're thinking about this. You could be projecting in this post. She very well could have had feelings for you, but it doesn't matter. You should just stop thinking about it and talking about it and just move on, it's the best way.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

2 months of hooking up, never any staying over.

Hanging out with one another before sex, tons of cuddling afterwards, things like sharing music with one another.

Last Thursday, saw her the last time, she hugs, kisses me and I tell her a few things that lead to her crying, kissed her one last time.

Found out that there was someone else and she didn't want to sleep with two people but didn't specify why.

Haven't blocked her all on social media but deleted Snapchat, deleted the music playlists I made for her.

She's told me she's manipulative, an *******, and I just had to heard it concrete that it was indeed over.

How do I go about being calm and collect but also NC? I don't want her to get the vibe that I'm upset (I'm not)

There was a RMG segment where Carl read out a woman's text msg. Basically, the same thing you got but, the aftermath being that, she was already ****ing you both and picked him. When it ends, hit me up should be your frame. Said ***** is dead to you. You embed seed of doubt, you play to female hypergamy, that she has familiarity, and option. You are then out pursuing baeees. Note pleural.

Said girl has better game. She spins plates. You were fallback and your lack of getting girls burned you down. Step up.

 

[thadder]

Said girl has better game. She spins plates. You were fallback and your lack of getting girls burned you down. Step up.

I was just in it for the sex, my work life keeps me plenty busy (almost to the point of no social life, like almost interfering) so I have no regrets.

Wasn't no two pump chump nor a dead fish (sure I could have been more vocal but it was still new to me) -- anywho, I've been NC last 2 days and don't feel the slightest bothered. This was my 2nd FWB in the course of a year.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

I was just in it for the sex, my work life keeps me plenty busy (almost to the point of no social life, like almost interfering) so I have no regrets.

You're missing the point.

Getting ***** doesn't mean time for stretchy pants and being a dad bod.

Wasn't no two pump chump nor a dead fish (sure I could have been more vocal but it was still new to me) -- anywho, I've been NC last 2 days and don't feel the slightest bothered. This was my 2nd FWB in the course of a year.

Go get baeeeees.

Get girls. Smash then go get more.

My wing and I ran a train on some young slut on the early side of twenty. We smashed it rotten. At 12am we pulled the chute.

Out to the club to go get more girls.

We left with another brod. When asked if she's been to Paris? If she's ever been to the Eiffel Tower? Wasn't dtf. We kicked her out and went for food to go get more girls.



99% of men dip a toe in pickup and DJ lifestyle. They aren't being forged in the fire.


Cannon ball in. Step it up. Not saying you need to pig roast skanks. I am saying, what guys think is too far isn't far enough.

A fwb is gang bang material. Not wife.

 

[thadder]

You're missing the point.

Getting ***** doesn't mean time for stretchy pants and being a dad bod.



Go get baeeeees.

Get girls. Smash then go get more.

My wing and I ran a train on some young slut on the early side of twenty. We smashed it rotten. At 12am we pulled the chute.

Out to the club to go get more girls.

We left with another brod. When asked if she's been to Paris? If she's ever been to the Eiffel Tower? Wasn't dtf. We kicked her out and went for food to go get more girls.



99% of men dip a toe in pickup and DJ lifestyle. They aren't being forged in the fire.


Cannon ball in. Step it up. Not saying you need to pig roast skanks. I am saying, what guys think is too far isn't far enough.

A fwb is gang bang material. Not wife.

Actually I’ve been having some incredible workouts the last 3 days, the bit of anger and test from the recent sex last Thursday has me feeling pretty alpha lately

 

[thadder]

Just a random thought popped into my head.

I had borrowed some books from her, and then asked if she'd like them back. About 2 weeks she asked if I could return them sometime, around 10:30pm, I respectively declined her offer told her I was out for drinks. Then just last week I said "I could give you back your books" -- knowing very well the 'trade' that would happen. She got them back and I was able to get one last sexual session out of her -- and if she's seeing someone, or starting to... well, good luck explaining that to him that you slept with someone, I'm sure he'll react.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Actually I’ve been having some incredible workouts the last 3 days, the bit of anger and test from the recent sex last Thursday has me feeling pretty alpha lately

Wtf is the point of the thread? Trolling or e fantasy.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Just a random thought popped into my head.

I had borrowed some books from her, and then asked if she'd like them back. About 2 weeks she asked if I could return them sometime, around 10:30pm, I respectively declined her offer told her I was out for drinks. Then just last week I said "I could give you back your books" -- knowing very well the 'trade' that would happen. She got them back and I was able to get one last sexual session out of her -- and if she's seeing someone, or starting to... well, good luck explaining that to him that you slept with someone, I'm sure he'll react.

Stick in a box. Leave it at your door step. Go nc. No excuses.

 

[TBG]

Just a random thought popped into my head.

I had borrowed some books from her, and then asked if she'd like them back. About 2 weeks she asked if I could return them sometime, around 10:30pm, I respectively declined her offer told her I was out for drinks. Then just last week I said "I could give you back your books" -- knowing very well the 'trade' that would happen. She got them back and I was able to get one last sexual session out of her -- and if she's seeing someone, or starting to... well, good luck explaining that to him that you slept with someone, I'm sure he'll react.

Yet in your other thread about the chick you're not upset about you claimed you hadn't seen or slept with her in 6 weeks until Friday night when she ended it.

Why would you care if he reacts anyways? You claim you were only in it for the sex yet everything you say contradicts that.