yeah you do nothing, women are attracted to mystery not conifrmation
if she never speaks to you again its her loss
Fuxked it up with the 'one'
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if she never speaks to you again its her loss
@daproest1 since u r back, its time for payback, we gave you lots of advice back then.
This fella is in a similar boat as you back then.
Time for you to advice or at least share ur experiences.
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I'll PM you.
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If she was the one, why keep those others in orbit....maybe she wasn’t.
Thanks, I read your story, persistence pays off it seems. Hope therapy helps and it works out between you guys.Oh man. I'm in similar, if not worse, situation to you now. I just created a thread on it.
I think your situation can be salvaged. Check out my approach (I don't recommend it by the way).
4 months into the breakup, I managed to re-establish contact with my ex and got her to agree to sit in a "therapy" session with me
*Caveat - this is a long post about stalking and repeated attempts to get my ex back. I ask for no judgements because what I have done here may be extremely ill-advised from a legal standpoint. I initially joined SoSuave because of a breakup with the hottest girl I've ever been with. This is...
Here's one thing to keep in mind - She may never unblock you and No Contact may not work (if that's your strategy). You might have to be pro-active about getting in touch with her and re-attracting her. This does take balls though because she's likely to reject you....but what have you got to lose at this point?
If your strategy is just to wait for her to unblock you, then I am of the belief that No Contact just helps the woman to move on. Women are able to move on extremely quickly from relationships if they were the ones who decided to end it. They are basically evolved to do this (check out "War Brides" theory).
If you ex was only "testing" you by blocking you then this will only last a few days. Women are extremely impulsive and have no Game when it comes to this type of thing. If she's blocked you and you haven't heard from her in a week (max) then you need to be proactive if you want her back. It's sexier if a man takes the lead anyway.
The key here is you need to be communicating with her. Non-needy, don't overly apologise, just make her feel attracted to you and let her vent if she needs to. The most important thing is that you need to be in communication. Once communication is severed then all bets are off.
Your position is also potentially good in that your ex may not have had time to arrange a replacement guy yet. This may cause her to try again with you if she deems the thought of finding someone "better" than you too overwhelming.
I don't want to stalk her, but she is texting again as of last night and today. Although now she says she wants space etc for a month, but doesn't see it working out.
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You just posted a few minutes ago in the "Unicorn" thread that your current girl is a unicorn, as if you are still with her.
Doesn't seem congruent with this thread.
I don't understand this logic. Why go through all the hassle of getting her back if you just wanted her to be a plate? Seems counter intuitive...
I did put a * next to my, but didn't clarify it, as ex
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Interesting. I got the same impression.
Here’s my 2 cents from the women’s lockers...
Would you have been cool with her texting exes? What about her texting exes and deceiving you about it? No? Not cool?
Then it’s not cool for you to do either. You already know that, but you did it anyway. Doesn’t matter why. You wanted attention, validation, etc. The need for attention and validation comes from a place of lack. A place of want. Insecurity on your part for some reason. Getting laid can be very easy for a charming attractive man. Getting a quality relationship is inversely more difficult however because a desirable man has abundance and therefore may not value real quality...until it’s gone.
Real character comes from honoring your word, from transparency and truth. Deception has no place there. A high self esteem woman who is hot and with total package qualities CHOSE you over other men. But you did not reciprocate and reinforce her choice. She sees by observing your actions that you disrespect her. So she breaks up in order to respect herself and in order to open herself to men who do respect her...and if she only dates alphas as you said then she knows what masculine leadership is and she expects to be treated as an alpha’s worthy partner. And she will.
You are now at a disadvantage because of your disrespect. You know that. All you can do is have a conversation, lay it out on the table, own your BS and be vulnerable. If she gives you a shot after that? You are going to have to respect her, and rebuilding trust is going to take time.
That’s how it is. You start over. More later...
”Spinning plates” is to ensure a woman does not hold any leverage over the man through any form of commitment.
If a man is texting am ex, it should be to meet up and sleep with her. not to ask how her day is. And definitely don’t do it in front of another plate.
Come on men.
Of course you are right. I know I fvcked up, need to, as is a common theme, think about what I was doing. To be fair I did text the ex the day before and she replied early morning, hence my last ex seeing the notification (dumbly left it on). Should have owned it as others pointed out rather than lying.
As for wanting to meet them, maybe? I put my last ex on a pedestal subconsciously and wanted to balance that power perhaps
As for wanting to meet them, maybe? I put my last ex on a pedestal subconsciously and wanted to balance that power perhaps
I've had more than my fair share of great girls, and I know from experience you are right, this one will play on my mind for a long time to come
this might be the best respose to this I've ever heard. Bravo!
@Happy2020 you cannot get her back. Do not try. Do not contact her. Not only will she punish u for it, be repulsed by it, and see it as weakness, But MORE IMPORTANTLY, you’ll destroy yourself psychologically in the process. It’ll bleed into every other area of your life. You’ll hate yourself. And something that could’ve taken you a few months to get over, Will now take you YEARS.
Accept 2 things.
1. this is not our grandparents generation. Feminism has ruined most western women. There is no control for them. It is no longer shameful for a woman to divorce her husband or dump her long term partner and sleep around. It’s actually encouraged. They are not the same as grandma. We’re just now (as men) catching up.
2. she left because she thinks she can do better. Maybe she can, maybe she can’t. But at the end of the day, you’re better than her. Always remember that. You are better than she is. You’ll age much better than she will. You’ll learn MUCH more than she will (since men, generally speaking, can do A lot of self reflection in comparison to women who just blame us for everything and take zero accountability for their mistakes).
prove her wrong, from afar. Become the best Man U can possibly become. Learn martial arts. Improve Venusian arts. Lift weights if you don’t already, and NEVER STOP. Bodybuilding has always been there for me. Make a sh*t ton of money. Just think of yourself and your life as a video game. Acquire all the tools, weapons, and skills that you possibly can. And then you’ll see why you’re so much better than her, and any other woman.
she was never yours. It was just your turn. Again, men are the more romantic gender... women cannot care about you The way u think. U must care about yourself. They absolutely HATE the obligation of feeling my any Sympathy towards you. Their seemingly compassionate nature would have u think otherwise, but it’s an illusion. What women say, and what they ACTUALLY respond to, are worlds apart. What do they respond to? STRENGTH. Competence. Always feeling like they’re lucky to have you (not the other way around).
I know it sounds horrible but I didn’t make the rules. And I didn’t make them. I was born, and women were already here being the creatures they are. You can always trust a creature to be what it is. You can always trust a snake to bite. A lion to pounce on prey. A spider to make a web. And a woman to be a woman. Once you dive deep into what they are and how they operate (even they don’t understand themselves, they just FEEL their way through life), you’ll suddenly see how predictable they are.
My heart goes out to you. I’m sorry for your loss. Leave her alone. Grieve on your own. Then get better. Then get better women. Or don’t. They’re rarely worth the hassle.
if she reaches out, remember, she has to earn YOU back. How can she make it up to you? Would she? Has she worked on herself? Is she even worth it any more? Is she the same person? Basically go back to qualifying her like u just met her. You’re a company. She’s an employee that quit. What value can she add to your company by coming back? Does she feel entitled to a raise? Is she ok with starting at the mailroom before working her way back up to a corner office? Either way she’ll always remember whatever weakness you showed her. Get stronger so it never happens again.
and again, I’m sorry. I know how much it sucks. The only hope u have is her coming back to you, and u giving her a POSITIVE experience. Never try and reason with a woman. Don’t talk about the past. Don’t argue (that’s feminine behavior). The song “girls just wanna have fun” is true af. That’s all they care about. Feeling good. Like children. Think about social proof and pre-selection. That’s EXACTLY how children behave. “Aw man robert has a lot of friends, I want to be his friend. Aw man, Robert is eating ice cream, why can’t I have ice cream?”
It’s the same exact type of thinking, it’s just subconscious. Pathetic right? Right. Focus on that.
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Spaz is absolutely right. I can confirm this from real life experience. I’ve done it. I’ve never done it while I’m actually in a Committed relationship though (Which has only happened once lol) since I don’t cheat. But when I’m playing the field, that’s exactly how it goes. I don’t deny it at all. I just kind of shrug it off. They stick around. I started experimenting with all this after my one iris left. Got nothing to lose anymore when it comes to women. It’s hard to care. Not caring works wonders.
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There is no ONE! You have oneitis. Cure it. Spin plates.
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Don't believe that women are as innocent or straightforward as they seem. She was probably also messing with other guys and left you the moment that she saw the opportunity to monkey branch, hence the no contact. Your texting was just a convenient excuse.
