Funny guy with no respect

[jiza101]

I have come to the conclusion my mates dont take me serious and see me as a joke. They always laugh at what i say and never take anything i say seriously. They make fun of me a bit, but it doesnt hurt cause im used to it and i have the i dont care what other people think attitude which also gets laughed at. Now this doesnt go well with chicks who my mates know cause they always end up bagging me in the conversations.. About how i cant get any girls and that i go for fat chicks and all this ****. Im bout to go to a spring break kinda thing for a week with some mates and i dont want to be seen as the joke, they were all making fun saying there gona get my d!ck wet with a fat chick if they have to and all this ****. How do you recon i deal with these guys or "friends", my close mate i can take bagging me and dont mind but others who im kinda friends with its bad. How do i make this week a good experience without these mates making fun of my past actions and ****.

 

[diplomatic_lie]

Are they laughing AT you, or WITH you? Important distinction.

 

[Wiesman44]

What I've come to believe is first impressions are everything. If you can become the dominant guy / leader in your circle of friends, the guys will laugh at anything that u attempt to be funny. Or if they think its not funny they will joke about it. You've obviously made the impression on your friends that you're the guy to push around and not respect.

I don't mean to sound like an *******, but its the truth. You are NOT going to get them to change that opinion of u. If you guys have been friends for a long time, its just some personality trait that they associate you with.

If you really want them to change that opinion of you, it will take months of establishing yourself as a confident guy with leadership capabilities.

One other thing I have to say is I've had friends / associations with people like this from my dorm a few years back. I got that same sh#t from them b/c I didnt establsih myself as dominant and confident. But most importantly, it showed me that these people weren't true friends. True friends do NOT bag you for your bad character traits. They dont make u feel like an *******. If they do make fun of you, you all will know its in good fun. If these people are making you feel like nothing, they're not your friends.

 

[jiza101]

i think they are laughing at me , this sucks, cause its effecting my chick status cause they bag me infront of them.

 

[dereklearnslow]

Ditch em.

 

[xhikari]

they ain't worth your time.
go out and socialize and u can find friends with similar interest and possibly better personalities
of course work on ur confidence level and etc as well while u r at it.

 

[blue17]

They are just trying to make fun of you to make themselves look better in front of the girls, cuz they are desperate teenagers.

 

[jiza101]

Yer i can see they are trying to look better at my expense, yet when i call them out they are like shutup, and laugh.. It pisses me off, all these people being cvnts is getting me really angry, i feel like smashing the **** threw someone, im never normally like this. And tommoro im away for 1 week with them, im sure they will bag me, i duno how to respond when mates bag me infront of chicks

 

[squirrels]

You can either accept their judgement or reject it. That's up to you.

 

[giartodil]

you wanna spend a good week ha?

I think it's time for defining the borders, claiming what you think.
basicly defining the relationship.

you wanna spend a good week ha?

if you don't like your 'I don't care what other people think'
I call it "cool candom protection" which is actualy causing more harm than saves from pain, cause it makese you sometimes be a little harsh.
and if you are making up your mind
to do something about it,ther is nothing else out there that will
keep you from improvement.

if the defining the relationship is taken not seriously
ther should be an end of relationship. as soon as possible.

But after all this **** just chill,you need a good week.

 

[Slash]

Leave or change

Used to have this problem...

Lets accept some facts... There are always some guys or guy who will try to put you down.. so he kinda shines... even though its not rats ass funny most of the time.. like we say You get AMOGd

Solution 1
Go into shock-change mode... JUst change one morning in front of them to the one you want to be... get serious... get some alpha traits...internalise.. cultivate .. dun care abt their opinions.... change from the inside.... slowly they with see you as different.. and side by side start making a bigger friend circle with your new mixed personna...yes it wil take time.. and your past will show its head from time to time...
By this time your older friends will either get wierd or accept you.. if they get wierd go to Solution 2

Solution 2

Get new friends.... period

Im dealing with kinda the same thing now there r some older friends who cant handle my alphaness.. they r used to the old shy skinny me they could pick on.. or laugh at.. Now I hang out with guys that ppl are scared to mingle they just cant handle our presence... we literally intimidate intimidate them..can you feel what Im saying.... change from the inside.... the whole congruency thing..

my 0.02

 

[LikRetsam]

Hey pumkin, maybe they're acting like that for a reason. Maybe the problem is you and not them.

 

[Interpol]

If you truly had the "I don't care what other people think" attitude, then you wouldn't be posting about this.

As for a solution? Either really stop caring what they think, or get new friends.

 

[Michael Chief]

****y and Funny - the magic formula

If you are the type of guy that like to make jokes and be funny, then there is another aspect that you musn't forget.
You should definitely try to add ****iness to your humor.
Get a good balance of ****y and Funny. Don't have one ingredient more than the other. However funny you are, you have to be just as ****y. However ****y you are, you have to be just and funny.
Just being funny can demonstrate that you are an inseure wuss who needs attention. Being ****y cancels out all notions of this insecurity. Being ****y and Funny demonstrates that you are a confident guy that uses humor just because you feel like it - and not just for attention.

Note - my advice is not from Don Juan's seduction stuff. I've been studying David DeAngelo's attraction theory for more than a year now and his material is where i'm coming from. www.doubleyourdating.com

 

[Pfeile]

I kind of had a similar problem up until about last year (when I found this site, everything changed). I had no respect from basically anyone, and was treated like sh*t. But it was my fault because I let myself get hurt and didn't stand up for myself.

Today, because I no longer give a sh*t what ppl say and I stand up for myself, my friends have stopped giving me so much sh*t, and when they do, I just take it as a joke and laugh with them. There are a couple of losers who still disrespect me but I just avoid them and ignore them. I'm having my graduation tonight and it will be the last time I see these losers forever anyway.

Everyone is insecure, even those people you believe are Alphas. Think about it. If you were really secure with yourself, you wouldn't need to make fun of others to make yourself feel better.

A little bit of teasing from your friends is just natural, but if it is consistent and annoys you, tell your friends to shut up and if they don't, they're not real friends and you don't want to waste your time hanging around with them anyway.

 

[CoRVeTTe6699]

ditch them.. i had the same problem and it only gets worse....u may not have friends for a month, but its worth it.....

they did **** to me infront of girls, and girls got turned off by this..

i had these **** friends my entire high school career. i never got girls because of them..i realized too late (end of senior year) to ditch them... girls associate u with those you hang out with. if ur hangin with losers, theyll view u as a loser..and if ur so called friends dont respect u- why should a girl?

now i ditched the *******s, got new male and female friends when i went to college, and now im on the top of my game..

i party all the time, i got good grades, and my biggest problems are..
1) deciding which girl to date this weekend..
2) how not to get caught by my girlfriend..


ditch the losers.. u are better than them. u dont need them..

if u dont want to ditch them, have a serious discussion with them... if they still treat u bad, dont hang out with them. u can find better friends..and the kids who u think are "dorks" aren't...be friends with everyone.. just cuz they are nice doesnt mean they are losers..ull learn that soon enough...