Fuked up tonight

[powersize]

So there is that colleague from another threat that I wrote earlier. We were hanging out tonight, went for drinks, had some kino, kisses and etc. Once there was a time to leave I offered to go to my place and hopped to escalate. She refused and said she has periods and has to do some stuff in the morning. I said well, you just cannot come over without anything? (I know it sounds stupid now) So I was kinda pissed off with the whole situation, ordered a taxi which arrived in 1 min and left her on the street alone.

I do not know why I reacted like that and did what I did. Probably cause I haven't been out with her for 2 weeks and already had a plan to bang her tonight. I called her in 5 min after and asked if she got a taxi back home. And then apologised that I left her alone over the text.

Any ideas how to fix the situation or it is pretty much dead end?

I do not wanna be that needy guy who will chase and ask for forgiveness. I know I acted like an immature teenager and already apologised for the ****. (She did not reply on it).

 

[Modern Man Advice]

So there is that colleague from another threat that I wrote earlier. We were hanging out tonight, went for drinks, had some kino, kisses and etc. Once there was a time to leave I offered to go to my place and hopped to escalate. She refused and said she has periods and has to do some stuff in the morning. I said well, you just cannot come over without anything? So I was kinda pissed off with the whole situation, ordered a taxi which arrived in 1 min and left her on the street alone.

I do not know why I reacted like that and did what I did. Probably cause I haven't been out with her for 2 weeks and already had a plan to bang her tonight. I called her in 5 min after and asked if she got a taxi back home. And then apologised that I left her alone over the text.

Any ideas how to fix the situation or it is pretty much nothing to do?

This is a tough one. You def over-reacted and showed you care too much. In other words, you let your emotions get the best of you. At least you realize this and next time def be in more control of how you react.

If she replies (which would be quite surprising), just play it cool and don't mention it again. I'm not against apologizing if you did something wrong, just not sure I would have in this situation. It almost feels like you lost control and frame when you:

1) Overreacted and let your emotions get a hold of you
2) Reached out to apologize

Not sure you can fix this unless she didn't think it was a big deal (doubt it), reaches out, and you play it cool as if nothing had happened. Then carry on.

Realistically speaking, you are better off learning from this and moving on.

Modern Man Advice

 

[darksprezzatura]

You're only human. Expectations sometimes lead to loss of frame when they aren't met.

She's either attracted to you or she's not.

As modern man advice said, spin other plates, if she reaches out, you take it up.

This is just 1 girl. There are tonnes better out there.

Are you willing to take the shots?

 

[powersize]

You're only human. Expectations sometimes lead to loss of frame when they aren't met.

She's either attracted to you or she's not.

As modern man advice said, spin other plates, if she reaches out, you take it up.

This is just 1 girl. There are tonnes better out there.

Are you willing to take the shots?

Yeah, I know I lost my frame at this moment. Would you say I should not apologize in general?

 

[powersize]

This is a tough one. You def over-reacted and showed you care too much. In other words, you let your emotions get the best of you. At least you realize this and next time def be in more control of how you react.

If she replies (which would be quite surprising), just play it cool and don't mention it again. I'm not against apologizing if you did something wrong, just not sure I would have in this situation. It almost feels like you lost control and frame when you:

1) Overreacted and let your emotions get a hold of you
2) Reached out to apologize

Not sure you can fix this unless she didn't think it was a big deal (doubt it), reaches out, and you play it cool as if nothing had happened. Then carry on.

Realistically speaking, you are better off learning from this and moving on.

Modern Man Advice

I mean I apologised cause it felt like she was honest and gave me a legit reason (of course who knows it she really has it or not) while I acted like an ashole.

So if I reach her out lets say in a couple of days I will be in that needy position while if she will reach eventually me - that means that she is still interested at some point?

 

[derby1]

Yeah, I know I lost my frame at this moment. Would you say I should not apologize in general?

Never use the word sorry or like to a woman, she will instantly see you as below her

use other ways of wording things.

i wouldnt mention it again, women dont gossip about nice guys who are apologetic

 

[darksprezzatura]

Yeah, I know I lost my frame at this moment. Would you say I should not apologize in general?

Sometimes people apologise due to empathy/guilt.
"She must've felt bad. I want to make it up to her"

Sometimes people apologise to continue to be accepted by the other person despite the mistake.

I think apologising in general, might make you "feel" good and accepted, and the other person relieved.

It could show weakness too.

It could make you a target to be manipulated especially with women you don't really know.

 

[powersize]

Sometimes people apologise due to empathy/guilt.
"She must've felt bad. I want to make it up to her"

Sometimes people apologise to continue to be accepted by the other person despite the mistake.

I think apologising in general, might make you "feel" good and accepted, and the other person relieved.

It could show weakness too.

It could make you a target to be manipulated especially with women you don't really know.

Yes, I think I did it on emotions as well.

Since we work together should I act as nothing happened but do not contact her again if she will not reply?

 

[powersize]

In fact today she told me that she has a boyfriend back in her home country (while I fuked her already 3 times since she moved to my country). She also told me that all her male friends in her home country wanted to fuk her and that she feels the same with me.

 

[bat soup]

So there is that colleague from another threat that I wrote earlier. We were hanging out tonight, went for drinks, had some kino, kisses and etc. Once there was a time to leave I offered to go to my place and hopped to escalate. She refused and said she has periods and has to do some stuff in the morning. I said well, you just cannot come over without anything? (I know it sounds stupid now) So I was kinda pissed off with the whole situation, ordered a taxi which arrived in 1 min and left her on the street alone.

I do not know why I reacted like that and did what I did. Probably cause I haven't been out with her for 2 weeks and already had a plan to bang her tonight. I called her in 5 min after and asked if she got a taxi back home. And then apologised that I left her alone over the text.

Any ideas how to fix the situation or it is pretty much dead end?

I do not wanna be that needy guy who will chase and ask for forgiveness. I know I acted like an immature teenager and already apologised for the ****. (She did not reply on it).

I mean I apologised cause it felt like she was honest and gave me a legit reason (of course who knows it she really has it or not) while I acted like an ashole.

So if I reach her out lets say in a couple of days I will be in that needy position while if she will reach eventually me - that means that she is still interested at some point?

I would always view excuses with suspicion. The fact that a woman has a period doesn't mean that she can't bang - she can still take it in the ass and in the mouth. She can still take it in the puzzy as long as you put a towel on the bed. And "stuff to do" in the morning.. so what? She could bang and then go home to do her "stuff".

 

[darksprezzatura]

Yes, I think I did it on emotions as well.

Since we work together should I act as nothing happened but do not contact her again if she will not reply?

I will suggest you to give this woman a wide berth.
Screenshot consent messages.

You're working with this chick. Don't sh!t where you eat next time.

If she reinitiates, cool. If not, do not attempt contact. Most women are fickle and their feelings change from time to time.

The only damage control would be to be back to casual friendship so your work doesn't suffer.

Newbie mistake.

 

[El Roi]

Never use the word sorry or like to a woman, she will instantly see you as below her

@derby1 "like"?

 

[bat soup]

Imagine if I told you guys that I had a hot girl that wanted to come back to my place to bang last night but I told her no because I had stuff to do this morning. After staying out until late drinking with her. "Stuff to do" my ass.

If she had wanted to bang, she could have banged. If she was honest, she could have just told the truth that she doesn't want to. Period, stuff to do... these are all just excuses. Women come out with this BS in order to mislead men and make them think that they really want to do something with you when they have absolutely no intention of ever doing it.

 

[powersize]

Imagine if I told you guys that I had a hot girl that wanted to come back to my place to bang last night but I told her no because I had stuff to do this morning. After staying out until late drinking with her. "Stuff to do" my ass.

Yeah, it sounds strange. Indeed it looks like she is not as interested in me as I thought. A couple of examples I noticed:
once we just met she was texting me 4-5 times a week, always initiating, than it went to 2 times, and now it could be 1 time per week.
There was also the case that I asked her out 2 times while she refused without conter offer. Last weekend she went to Sweden with her friends and told me she got drunk on one evening. So potentially fuked someone. At the same weekend I jumped with parachute and posted my stuff online so she knew it. I was quite surprised that she did not even ask me how was it. Considering people do not fuking do it every weekend.

 

[bat soup]

Yeah, it sounds strange. Indeed it looks like she is not as interested in me as I thought. A couple of examples I noticed:
once we just met she was texting me 4-5 times a week, always initiating, than it went to 2 times, and now it could be 1 time per week.
There was also the case that I asked her out 2 times while she refused without conter offer. Last weekend she went to Sweden with her friends and told me she got drunk on one evening. So potentially fuked someone. At the same weekend I jumped with parachute and posted my stuff online so she knew it. I was quite surprised that she did not even ask me how was it. Considering people do not fuking do it every weekend.

I think she did exactly what she wanted to do, which was spend the evening drinking and lapping up male attention and then go home by herself after giving you some BS excuse.

She kind of reminds me of a girl I knew that liked to hang out, kiss etc but would never come home with me. Some women are like that. They just like getting attention from lots of different guys.

 

[derby1]

Last weekend she went to Sweden with her friends and told me she got drunk on one evening. So potentially fuked someone. At the same weekend I jumped with parachute and posted my stuff online so she knew it. I was quite surprised that she did not even ask me how was it. Considering people do not fuking do it every weekend.

shes not interested, solipsism 101

you should stand on the stairs of a 5 star hotel dressed like a G and get pictures took (even though your in an apartment down the road with plastic bed sheets)

she will be interested then

 

[TheQ2020]

Never use the word sorry or like to a woman, she will instantly see you as below her

haha what nonsense.

this whole "never say sorry to women" is 100% NONSENSE.

OP you definitely ****ed up.

and saying sorry is 100% ok and what i would do,

it might NOT fix things but definitely will not make things worst or make her lose respect for you or anything like that.

these morons who say black and white rules like "never say sorry to women" are keyboard warriors who spend their time online reading PUA material but never actually interact with women.

do NOT listen to this idiot OP; you should apologize and you did **** up bad.

 

[powersize]

shes not interested, solipsism 101

you should stand on the stairs of a 5 star hotel dressed like a G and get pictures took (even though your in an apartment down the road with plastic bed sheets)

she will be interested then

Can you explain what do you mean here?

 

[powersize]

I think she did exactly what she wanted to do, which was spend the evening drinking and lapping up male attention and then go home by herself after giving you some BS excuse.

She kind of reminds me of a girl I knew that liked to hang out, kiss etc but would never come home with me. Some women are like that. They just like getting attention from lots of different guys.

Could be. She had some issue with credit card, so I ended up paying for everything. And than joked that she has to work those money out tonight. Maybe it pissed her off and resulted in refusal. Who knows

 

[derby1]

Can you explain what do you mean here?

women dont care about men, they dont care what men do, they care about your social proof.

tell me the last 20 women youve been out with who could pass a simple friendly quiz about you 3 dates in? i bet theres not one.

however i bet you could pass the quiz about her. Shes spoke that much