First off, I'd like to say hi to everyone here on the boards. I've been browsing these forums for about a year and reading about the crazy inner world of male/female interaction for about twice that. And I can tell you all with 100% conviction that it's really helped me to pull away the veil of illusion that I had over my beliefs, and start working with the reality of what really confronts us when it comes to women.
It's a big F'king job though ey!.. But I guess as these boards prove, if you can turn it all into an exciting journey, and a quest for nothing more than an ever evolving interconnection of knowledge and experiences, then it ain't so bad!
I have a current area of confusion... I'm going to post on it very vaguely and then if anyone wants me to elaborate on anything then I will. I think it's a better idea than a 20 page rant which will inevitably have big chunks of important information missing!
Ok, so very basicly this is how it went:
I meet this girl in a club, lets call her Lucy. I play hard to get and shes all over me so we go back to hers and have sex. The whole of the next day we spend in bed getting to know each other and being intimate etc.
I don't text her for a good 4 days, then out of the blue she texts me saying she doesn't really fancy me that much but would love to still be friends with me. I thought that if a girl wasn't interested in me then she wouldn't text, especially off her own back. So I saw it as a pre emptive dump - she felt she was going to be rejected and so rejected me first. So I told her to shut up, that i really liked her, and to meet me for drinks.
She did! And the same turn of events unfolded again. And for 2 more weeks after that! So we had 4 weekly sex sessions, and each was followed by a whole day in bed together.
Sounds pretty good huh? A nice easy no strings fun time with a cool girl!
Well she wanted to meet me tonight, but to 'talk to me'. I demanded to know what it was about (I thought 1 of 4 things: pregnant, STD, wanted more, wanted nothing more). I was right. she wanted to end what we were doing! But she really really likes me as a person and still wants to meet me and hang out with me, but the bottom line is she doesn't want sex anymore (although she didn't explicitly say that. But they never do, do they!). She doesn't feel it going anywhere and she gave it a try and it isn't happening for her.
Lets face it though, if she was willing to do 4 weeks of this then she must have liked me quite a lot. So somewhere along the line I messed up. I mean if I was a sexual tyrannosaurus with amazing wit, charm and intelligence, then why the hell wouldn't she want to keep it going?
I did something wrong!
Has anyone else had experience with this type of behavior? I'm sure it's my fault because a very similar thing has happened in the past with me. And I'm worried that it could become a feature of my dating life if I don't work out what the problem area is.
Like I say this is pretty vague and I obviously have a much richer story, and more of an understanding of the events between us than I have explained. If anyone wants to try and help me dig to the bottom of this then that'd be cool, just ask me anything.
Any advice, tips, similar experiences, plain old reality slap in the faces would be appreciated!
Cheers!
It's a big F'king job though ey!.. But I guess as these boards prove, if you can turn it all into an exciting journey, and a quest for nothing more than an ever evolving interconnection of knowledge and experiences, then it ain't so bad!
I have a current area of confusion... I'm going to post on it very vaguely and then if anyone wants me to elaborate on anything then I will. I think it's a better idea than a 20 page rant which will inevitably have big chunks of important information missing!
Ok, so very basicly this is how it went:
I meet this girl in a club, lets call her Lucy. I play hard to get and shes all over me so we go back to hers and have sex. The whole of the next day we spend in bed getting to know each other and being intimate etc.
I don't text her for a good 4 days, then out of the blue she texts me saying she doesn't really fancy me that much but would love to still be friends with me. I thought that if a girl wasn't interested in me then she wouldn't text, especially off her own back. So I saw it as a pre emptive dump - she felt she was going to be rejected and so rejected me first. So I told her to shut up, that i really liked her, and to meet me for drinks.
She did! And the same turn of events unfolded again. And for 2 more weeks after that! So we had 4 weekly sex sessions, and each was followed by a whole day in bed together.
Sounds pretty good huh? A nice easy no strings fun time with a cool girl!
Well she wanted to meet me tonight, but to 'talk to me'. I demanded to know what it was about (I thought 1 of 4 things: pregnant, STD, wanted more, wanted nothing more). I was right. she wanted to end what we were doing! But she really really likes me as a person and still wants to meet me and hang out with me, but the bottom line is she doesn't want sex anymore (although she didn't explicitly say that. But they never do, do they!). She doesn't feel it going anywhere and she gave it a try and it isn't happening for her.
Lets face it though, if she was willing to do 4 weeks of this then she must have liked me quite a lot. So somewhere along the line I messed up. I mean if I was a sexual tyrannosaurus with amazing wit, charm and intelligence, then why the hell wouldn't she want to keep it going?
I did something wrong!
Has anyone else had experience with this type of behavior? I'm sure it's my fault because a very similar thing has happened in the past with me. And I'm worried that it could become a feature of my dating life if I don't work out what the problem area is.
Like I say this is pretty vague and I obviously have a much richer story, and more of an understanding of the events between us than I have explained. If anyone wants to try and help me dig to the bottom of this then that'd be cool, just ask me anything.
Any advice, tips, similar experiences, plain old reality slap in the faces would be appreciated!
Cheers!