From online dating site to messaging due to busy life

[BrightV]

Guys,

Some advice from online dating to real life meetup (but with a long waiting period due to busy lives).

We met online through a dating site, we where exchanging a message once a week, but in the end she gave her phone (as we where always loosing each other due to this crazy life).

We talked through messages for an evening and next day through phone. But now we have a period of 2.5 weeks before we can meet (she is on business trip).

How should I handle the contact? messaging is not easy to avoid but again... what is your advice on that?

 

[BrightV]

sounds fun, lets see. about the sexual part you right it has to happen. cause we are now just randomly saying stupid stuff. (once a day).

though she is mostly moving the chat to the busy life (which I do not like to do so...) but I am trying to make her think if we had a date now how would be (might be stupid but it seems to work).
se seems engaged on chatting.

 

[grayclif]

Yes the question thing is great but I keep it short and simple. l. The questions are completely random and the answers are completely subjective They'll pick one and I'll give them a +1 or a -1 depending on my mood. I'll start with something like Denzel or Samuel, Steak or Sushi, or beef or pork ribs, or red or white, gin or vodka, Animal house or Porky's.

These questions also give me an opportunity to know how broad their knowledge base is. She'll come up with explanations and reasons for each answer so it keeps the conversation flowing. They always ask how did they score, which presents a great opportunity to neg.

Good luck and spin plates.

 

[BrightV]

I read harry's suggestion, nice one also gray but i think we have passed that step. I will just keep the contact reduced a bit.

She "complains" she is tired, is mental support appreciated? and is it good to do so?

 

[grayclif]

She "complains" she is tired, is mental support appreciated? and is it good to do so?

I would ignore these complaints. I use whatsapp so I have funny little videos, memes and jokes coming at me all day. I'm also part of a few groups so lots of funny stuff is being discussed. I simply share a tiny bit of that with her.

What i wiuldnt do is say "good morning babe, I miss you, how was your day... etc... if I'm texting her it's about something funny or interesting.

Just a side, why are interested in her if she is constantly complaining. Have you been a shoulder she can lean on. I just find it odd that she would do this so early in a relationship.

Good luck and Spin plates!

 

[sunnykhatri736]

I am stucked at same situation . The girl i have been talking to is having exams so we will have to meet after 10 days so im just keeping contact as low as possible. One phone call of 2-3 minutes every alternate day thats it so that she thinks that im concerned about her and i havent forgotten her thats it . If u are talking over texts then keep them to 4-5 texts a day but each of those 4-5 texts should be playful and teaseful and fun. U shouldnt be texting her " hey how are u , how was ur day or what u doing " make them playful , fun and teaseful just like u talk to ur girlfriend. She should feel she is talking to her boyfriend not her friend.

 

[BrightV]

She "asked" for attention/complaint about her exhausting day with special (advanced) emoticons. Which shows me interest on finding something playful.
Sometimes we engage on normal talking also.
Well I try to keep it as playful as possible (at least I think so)... Like When we talked about going out, I asked something like:
"So do you have the permission from your owner to date me or not?" she has a cat! and as we already said: cat is the owner and we are the slaves, is that in "playful" side?
it was not exactly that but something more nice (do not remember)

 

[grayclif]

All I'm saying is to be outcome independent and have fun with the conversation. Push bounderies and be sexual. Who wants to talk about a cat unless its the one between her legs. Move her bro, emotionally, sexually don't be like every other dude.

If your not sure do some web searches on texting. I gave you some examples above try and be fun and when the opportunity presents itself be sexual.

Nothing keeps a LDR girl interested like the prospect of sex. I'm not sure what type of girl she is but I sometimes send a sexy meme or brief porn clip. It all depends on the vibe. Get her on whatsapp and send her funny sexy stuff infrequently.

 

[BrightV]

Well the questions game began, and it goes well.. I set the rules.. and it is already interesting.
Limited questions per day, limited days, and that was really engaging from her side and made her curious..

And of course I have the "radio silence" implemented for days now. I always wait for her, and sometimes I even do not reply.

 

[BrightV]

She is really... communicating all the time.

she wants to talk everyday. and even at 5.40 in the morning she sent me a message that she couldn't sleep.

For me this is happening first time. and I am a bit wtf. (of course Like it)

Wouldn't it better to move this topic to mature men section?

 

[Tictac]

V. Adhere to the golden ratio

Give your woman 2/3 of everything she gives you. For every three calls or texts, give her two back. Three declarations of love earn two in return. Three gifts; two nights out. Give her two displays of affection and stop until she has answered with three more. When she speaks, you reply with fewer words. When she emotes, you emote less. The idea behind the golden ratio is twofold — it establishes your greater value by making her chase you, and it demonstrates that you have the self-restraint to avoid getting swept up in her personal dramas. Refraining from reciprocating everything she does for you in equal measure instills in her the proper attitude of belief in your higher status. In her deepest loins it is what she truly wants.

Chateau Heartiste
"The Sixteen Commandments of Poon"

 

[BrightV]

To be honest, she always wants to call, I Initiated only one of them. and usually yeah I try to keep it shorter!
And all of them are ended by me.