From AFC to one step closer to Don

[SemperDJ]

I'll be using this Thread as my personal DJ Update​

It's been a year since I was last on this forum, so first off I'll like to give thanks to all the senior DJ's here on this forum for their knowledge and wisdom.

I am truly grateful for such a wonderful community this is, A year ago I was a typical AFC, lost and heart broken by every girl I encountered.

I first stumbled on this forum not to long ago when my BPD ex pushed me through a mere long and suffering state of depression that eventually led me here.

That my friend, is pure destiny and is why I am back today.:rockon:
I've reached the point of where any HB ain't a problem. I've learned to be truly happy without them, and that is just the first step.

A year ago I would linger to any HB as the possibility of the nice syndrome would break out would be 100%, and now when I break it off with a broad I would simply move on to the next. Not a feeling of regret, and not a feeling of oneitis in sight.

And for that reason I'm taking this time to write up this post, to let everybody new to or still suffering on this forum to never give up :box:

Don't give up my friend, AFC ain't no permanent condition.

If I can do it, you can do it.

And as of now, I'll be more active on this forum
Nice to meet everyone I'm SemperDJ:trouble:

 

[SemperDJ]

I will refer myself as OP in OP's Encounter, in which I makes OP feel less drastic

Rather than starting from the beginning OP will just start off on OP's latest encounter, A HB7
To start things off OP met HB7 about 4 weeks ago, a funny story of where OP was leaving a party when a car pulled up on the driveway to ask OP for directions of where this party was, and that is how OP first met HB7. (Sorry OP will leave the details out of what happen next)
A week later HB7 followed OP on instagram in which followed a comment regarding how OP looked handsome in OP's uniform (Showed interested).
Few days later OP decided to add HB7 on FB, did a little online flirting, and exchanged numbers.

HB7 - Is a Latina, not fat but just the right amount around the chest (36DD?) and lower body. Dark and long hair, with a little makeup possibly can pass for a 7.5, Standing around 5'6 and about 105 Ibs HB7 lacks a bit intelligence in English but still manage to speak perfect English with a bit of slang.

Side Note: HB7 showed high interest as OP ignored HB7 first few attempts to come hangout -
(OP showed little interest as OP texts were quick responses,
OP likes to keep texting and calling a minimal til face to face encounter, kept HB7 on her toes guessing)

First Night Out: Asked HB7 out to go out for dinner the 2nd week after OP got HB7 number down. Picked HB7 up at her place, and took HB7 to some Noodle shop (OP is Asian). Sat down next to HB7, giving a little touching (Kino) every now and then (playful flirting/touching). After dinner we went back to OP's car, then proceeded with more playful flirting which eventually led OP to make OP's move. Went for the kiss, which led to a positive outcome. Made out for about 10 mins which eventually led us to the backseat for some quick action.

Note: We was still in the parking plaza (First time in public).

Red flags: Took roughly an hour to get into HB7 pants, crossed out every possibility of LTR - placed HB7 to one night category

Had a good time, a day later it was back at OP's place for a little more.
But then it was time to move on as HB7 was possibly seeking validation to become exclusive, so a day later OP broke it off.
HB7 went no contact yesterday, and blocked OP on social media sites.

Overall: HB7 was a good learning experience, maybe OP should of kept HB7 for pure pleasure but OP felt HB7 would be to much a hassle as HB7 displayed a few BPD signs, shortly OP was told by HB7 that daddy problems were apparent.
Learning Note: OP felt that OP made the wrong move by bringing HB7 over to OP's House.
Dating Duration/Time Spent: 2-3 weeks roughly

Any Comments, Questions, or Suggestions is highly appreciated
SemperDJ :trouble:

 

[SemperDJ]

Here's a little brief intro of who I am, as who I am as I forgot to mention in the earlier post.
As I continue to update hopefully throughout the years, I think it's vital to give a description of who the writer is.

As for many, I was a AFC like many here. Not to long ago, actually it's only been a year since I was that same nice guy you
was who ran across some chick that eventually led to the AFC-Self destruct button to be activated.

Like many, I stumbled across this site when I reached the end of the crossroad.
I shot the old nice chump in the back, and I worked toward a new and rejuvenated me. Even if it hasn't been long, I've came back to share my knowledge
and experiences as a whole in hopes that some heartbroken AFC like me not to long ago can stumble across my posts and realize that AFCness can be cured.

As for me, I'm just an average looking Asian-American male (Yes, An Asian-American) in his early 20's. For many will laugh and say I'm still young and inexperience,
I'll gladly object as my view in life ain't a tad in the norm. Perhaps with a military background (I'm in the Military Reserve) it helped me reached that middle age
maturity faster than my peers as I spent 2 years away under time.
Like I mention I'm a average male standing 5'8 and roughly 170Ibs with just average built (muscular with fat).
I'm not the best good looking nor am I the ugliest, which gives you insight that I have
no advantages over the average male of getting laid or anything along those lines.

Relationship Status
- Longest LTR - 3 months / With BPD Ex and last year's oneitis from hell
- HB's slept with in 2012 - 3
- HB's slept with in 2013 - 5
- Recent HB status - Ended November

Currently attending college, I'm trying to better educate myself as a whole. With this in mind, I'm a firm believer in the saying of "Knowledge is Power"
even tho my intelligence is far from someone of true intellect. In hopes of this thread, I'd like to keep a written track of my journey of becoming a DJ.
Even if I'm actively roaming these forums, I know eventually my personal life will takeover at some point in which will slow down my updates so bare with me.

Thing's I'm currently pursuing:
- Losing another 10 Ibs before 2014 (Cutting Fat)
- Finishing my college semester with a GPA of 3+
- Improving my game in the front lines, getting more plates to spin in 2014
- Improving my overall game (Never tried a cold approach)
- Improving my leadership skills (I like to lead)
- Getting a part time job next semester (Need a steady income)
- Overall, 2014 will be a better year as I reach 21 (Nightlife starts)

Few Notes For The Viewers:
- More plates, More fun
- Being happy with one-inner self, is the first step to becoming Don
- Don't give up so easily cause if I can do it, You can do it

Any Comments, Questions, or Suggestions is highly appreciated
SemperDJ :trouble: