Friggin Confused as Hell

[mmangiaruca]

I work with a girl and i like her and wouldnt mind hookin up with the downfall is she has a boyfriend but their relationship is okay but not as happy go lucky as she wants not quite sure how to approach the situation we get along pretty well generally talk for hours at work and have alot of the same likes and dislikes but i cant tell if she has me in that dreaded friend zone or if she is lookin for a good excuse to get out of the relationship shes in

 

[underoath777]

I'm in the same situation, problem is I'm on the other side of the country. Thing is, she was waaaay into me, but now I think it's died down. I matched her level of neediness and probably fvcked it all up.

You need to be ****y/funny with her, and you need to be sexual. If it's working then you'll know.

The thing you need to remember is that you need to give her more positive and negatives emotions than her bf. For example, insult her with a compliment.
"Wow you're so short, are you legally a midget? You're the cutest midget I've ever seen"

Problem was, I stopped saying **** like this to the girl I'm going after...that's where I think I fvcked up. I started going all AFC and just trying to keep her in a positive mood.

Be an ass, be sexual, and she should go for it...but STAY THAT WAY.

 

[mmangiaruca]

lol ive been doin that hehehe shes my "walking stick with an ass" shes been eatin it up left and right but ive been out of the game for about 4 yrs due to a relationship that lasted 3 1/2 yrs too long so im rustier then a 1940s car in a scrapyard so i know im missin signals left and right as for talkin about sex thats the whole basis of all our conversations so i think im gettin somewhere im just not sure

 

[Igetit!]

I work with a girl and i like her

HOW LONG have you worked with and known this girl?

the downfall is she has a boyfriend but their relationship is okay but not as happy go lucky as she wants not quite sure how to approach the situation

So she's not as happy as she'd like to be in the relationship.

Umm...how do YOU know this? Who told you that?

we get along pretty well generally talk for hours at work and have alot of the same likes and dislikes

You two talk for hours? About what? What kinds of things do you discuss?

but i cant tell if she has me in that dreaded friend zone

My guess would be that you probably are friendzoned,but to be absolutely sure,ANSWER those questions I asked,and PLEEEASE answer them DIRECTLY.

or if she is lookin for a good excuse to get out of the relationship shes in

You don't have to worry about this. If she wants out of the relationship,SHE'LL GET OUT.


She'll find a reason,or even make one up,but she'll get out of it.

 

[ThatMysteriousGuy]

I work with a girl and i like her and wouldnt mind hookin up with the downfall is she has a boyfriend but their relationship is okay but not as happy go lucky as she wants not quite sure how to approach the situation we get along pretty well generally talk for hours at work and have alot of the same likes and dislikes but i cant tell if she has me in that dreaded friend zone or if she is lookin for a good excuse to get out of the relationship shes in

Stop being a girlfriend to women and you won't have to worry about confusion or ending up in the friendzone.

One of the hugest mistakes that men make is thinking that having the same likes as a girl makes the situation more attractive to her. It doesn't. It ends up turning her off. She doesn't want a girlish clone of herself. She wants to do new things with you leading.

Another is jabbering for hours on end with a woman. That's a very feminine trait and makes her put you in the girlish-boy-guy-friend-zone.

Both of the above remove mystery about you and women want to keep peeling a guy like an onion to see what he's all about, not have him hand it all to her and ruin the anticipation.

 

[Desdinova]

The easiest thing for you to do is pursue women who ARE single before you try to tackle the ones who aren't. Getting simple pointers in one thread is not going to help you land this woman of your dreams. You need to understand how to attract women, what works, what doesn't, and what parts of your natural personality help you attract a woman. Get out in the field and experiment with MANY different women. That is the only way you'll learn how to become a good seductionist.

Also, avoid women you work with. Don't stick your d1nk in the company ink.

 

[teacha]

DO YOU TOUCH HER? Kino is a great way of testing a girl's interest in you, when you do it just be subtle about it. simple.

 

[mmangiaruca]

for igetit here are your answers
1. for just about a year
2.she told me but not in so many words she is young yet and hasnt learned how to gloss her emotions over just yet(and by young i mean 19 yrs old young for the dirty minded out there)
3. we generally talk about work mostly sex and the stupid sh** our friends do

for desdi my specialty was takin girls from their men single women are a little to easy even as rusty as i am thats why i picked her

for teacha i generally dont have to touch her she is the one that initiates the contact lol but till i figure out what angle to come at this from im taking a light hands on approach

 

[underoath777]

Another is jabbering for hours on end with a woman.

I got caught up in doing this again. ughh total afc crap.

How long would you say the cut off limit to a phone call is with a woman..20 minutes?


Btw, Igetit!, I PMed you.

 

[Igetit!]

for igetit here are your answers
1. for just about a year

You've known her for a year? And for this whole time,you've been talking to her for hours on end,and I think it'd be a safe bet that you've never asked her out in that year.

ThatMysteriousguy was 100% correct. I already knew what the deal was here,but the reason I ask questions is because I want YOU to see it for YOURSELF.


Yes,you're in the friendzone. If you've known her for a year,then you've probably been in the friendzone for at least the past 11 and a half months,and that's NOT A JOKE,I'm serious.

2.she told me but not in so many words she is young yet and hasnt learned how to gloss her emotions over just yet(and by young i mean 19 yrs old young for the dirty minded out there)

She told you about her relationship problems.


Well that settles it. You're offically friendzoned.


Like everyone else has said:You should NEVER talk to a girl about her relationship problems if you're trying to date her.

Girls do that with their girlfriends,not guys that they want to date.

3. we generally talk about work mostly sex and the stupid sh** our friends do

You talk about these things,but you don't talk about THE TWO OF YOU dating or seeing each other,right?



Yeah,you no longer have to wonder now. You're friendzoned. I mean come on dude,she's telling you about her boyfriend,the guy she's having sex with. And as ThatMysteriuosguy pointed out,this is what girls do with their other GIRL-friends.


You have a few things you need to learn man. I don't have time to cover them all,but for now...


STOP "hangingout" and talking with girls you want to DATE.

Let a girl know you're interested in her as soon as you can,not a YEAR after meeting her.


And don't talk for hours with a girl about "whatever". If the talk is about you and her,then cool,but even then,don't spend hours on the phone.



You might want to have a look at the DJ Bible to really get a good grasp of things.

 

[mmangiaruca]

as for how long ive known her for the better part of it i was on the last 6 months or so of a 4yr relationship
as for the talking about relationships ive been steadily workin her into breakin up with her boyfriend thats about the extent of it mainly i tell her she is stupid to stay in it and thats about it and its in those exact words
as for talking about dating or just seein each other im not lookin for a relationship ive done that part of my life and im finished with it
as for the sex talk her boyfriend has never been mentioned its always been about what she likes in bed
trust me ive done this plenty of times before but as i said i just got out of a 4yr relationship so i have to strap on the training wheels again and learn some of the new tricks of this wonderful trade im old school where this is concerned and i just want some new tips not a flood of "ooooh your screwed your in the friendzone now" if thats the case i alter tactics wouldnt be the first time just lookin for some fresh tricks now

 

[mmangiaruca]

mayhaps i worded my initial post wrong and i apologize deeply for that it was kinda written "shoot from the hip style" if you will mainly i wrote from my first impressions before thinking clearly about it

 

[thedude4242]

you think if her and her boyfriend break up you are next in line? most of us have thought that before. dont be her ***** or do special things for her because she gives you that "your different than my boyfriend and you are what I want" and things seems special between us. too many men get in this situation.

 

[teacha]

for teacha i generally dont have to touch her she is the one that initiates the contact lol but till i figure out what angle to come at this from im taking a light hands on approach

well, if she's the one that initiates contact just reciprocate the kino subtly but keep pushing the envelope to see how far you can actually go. You should do this calmly and confidently thinking that she already wants you to fukk her and its just a matter of when. You gotta also realise every woman want you to be sexual to them even if they have a boyfriend.

Actually in this scenario its good to be in the 'friendzone' because she already got a boyfriend. First of all don't try and break it off with her boyfriend, when she asks you for advice just try and console her.
Just keep kino'ing and flirting with her and see how far that goes, you might just be suprised that she was waiting for you to make a move.

PS. if she does not appreciate your sexual advances, just act like nothing happened (don't apologise) and go back to the way things were like before to avoid any akwardness at work if you know what i mean haha....:crackup:

 

[mmangiaruca]

thedude
i could worry less about that like i said im not in it for the long haul i just want her for one night and i dont do jack sh** for her last time i checked when i ask her to go grab me a pack of smokes from the store she does its amazing what a "knight in tarnished armor" can get away with when the break up happens

 

[mmangiaruca]

teacha
thats what i thought teacha so far your advice has been the most helpful it kinda runs along what i was thinking about to begin with so ill probably run your idea with some additions to ensure final success

 

[phenomenom]

damn bro use some commas and periods

 

[mmangiaruca]

sorry im typing fast cause im at work so im not sparing the time for punctuation

 

[Kailex]

damn bro use some commas and periods

This was hilarious. I REALLY hope someone else sees it.



And to the OP... you're in the Friendzone... you are NOT next in line.
But however, you WILL be there to hear her ***** about the next guy she dates.

 

[SoldMySoul]

The easiest thing for you to do is pursue women who ARE single before you try to tackle the ones who aren't. Getting simple pointers in one thread is not going to help you land this woman of your dreams. You need to understand how to attract women, what works, what doesn't, and what parts of your natural personality help you attract a woman. Get out in the field and experiment with MANY different women. That is the only way you'll learn how to become a good seductionist.

Also, avoid women you work with. Don't stick your d1nk in the company ink.

Listen to this man and Rollo Tomassi!! They always have tremendous advice!

The part about leaving women alone at work is true! Also, you try and hook up with a woman that has a significant other you are asking for more issues and baggage than you will want. Even if you just hit it and quit it. No good!

Break down:

No fooling with ladies at work.
Leave women that have boyfriends/ married alone.

You have two things working against you already.