Its a long post, whoever decides to read it, I thank you for helping me out. 
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Hey everyone, this is going to be my first post on sosuave as I am in desperate need of advice of this girl I've been trying to get with for the past 8 months from work.
I'll try to cut it down as short as possible, this girl is extremely flirty and friendly with everyone, which I knew not to take so seriously at first however I somehow kept getting caught up in it and fell for her anyway (a strong case of oneitits).
I've always been the classic beta "nice guy" (and still sorta am) trying to get with her. We started to go out on a few dates but Ive always been too much of a ***** to initiate any kino so we haven't really done much, and when I feel I start to get close, she gets distant and stops talking to me.
I always rushed it and confronted her about it which just lead to me getting friendzoned by her saying "i can only offer u my friendship atm" bs because she was going on/off with her EX. I always got frustrated and stopped talking her for a few weeks until we started to chat again. By the third time this happened, the ex was still in her life however her excuse changed to "i like you, but I still need closure with my ex and i need to focus on school" Which I felt was a lie because she dated some guy for a week when we weren't talking
Fast forward to 3 weeks ago, we started talking after about 3 months of ignoring each other, we click instantly, we go out almost everyday and by the end of the week she started to distance herself again and I was wondering what was wrong.
And this is where I found the DJ bible, I spent days reading it and realized the error of my ways. I vowed to myself to change and try to make it work this time. I stopped txting and asking her out every five minutes and basically just fell back and killed my nice guy ways. We've hung out once since I've read the bible and it worked wonders. I used kino, tried to follow most of the advice i've read, and ended the night with a tap kiss on the cheek. I had more physical contact with her that night than the entire 8 months lol. She messaged me that night on how much fun she had and how she wants to go out again and see a movie. I told her sure we can go someday.
So now i'm unsure of where to go with this, I feel like im stuck somewhere between friendzone and relationship because she is definitely acting differently than she used to when she used to friendzoned me, but she doesn't mention or hint at us getting in a relationship. We do tease each other about it because she says stuff like "I saw that girl checking you out, ima kill her haha", so I guess the interest is there. And going out to lunch the other day, I feel our kino is past a friend level. (We spent the entire time hugging at the restaurant.) However I heard from my friend at work that the ex is in the picture, they dont talk at all but she refuses to move on until they talk and have closure, and both are too stubborn to do anything.
Anyone have any advice on what I should do? Just continue going with the flow? I want to try talking to her about what is going on with us, however that hasn't worked out so well in the past so I'm afraid of going into that incase I push it and get rejected again. I don't know how to advance to the next stage. I tried txting her the other day however she is starting to get distant again because she just replies once and I don't hear from her again, so that is getting frustrating. She seems to wall herself off when things start going good. I know I should probably just drop this and cut her out like a true DJ, however I do want to try continuing this and getting with her as I feel i'm closer than before.
Thanks for reading!
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Hey everyone, this is going to be my first post on sosuave as I am in desperate need of advice of this girl I've been trying to get with for the past 8 months from work.
I'll try to cut it down as short as possible, this girl is extremely flirty and friendly with everyone, which I knew not to take so seriously at first however I somehow kept getting caught up in it and fell for her anyway (a strong case of oneitits).
I've always been the classic beta "nice guy" (and still sorta am) trying to get with her. We started to go out on a few dates but Ive always been too much of a ***** to initiate any kino so we haven't really done much, and when I feel I start to get close, she gets distant and stops talking to me.
I always rushed it and confronted her about it which just lead to me getting friendzoned by her saying "i can only offer u my friendship atm" bs because she was going on/off with her EX. I always got frustrated and stopped talking her for a few weeks until we started to chat again. By the third time this happened, the ex was still in her life however her excuse changed to "i like you, but I still need closure with my ex and i need to focus on school" Which I felt was a lie because she dated some guy for a week when we weren't talking
Fast forward to 3 weeks ago, we started talking after about 3 months of ignoring each other, we click instantly, we go out almost everyday and by the end of the week she started to distance herself again and I was wondering what was wrong.
And this is where I found the DJ bible, I spent days reading it and realized the error of my ways. I vowed to myself to change and try to make it work this time. I stopped txting and asking her out every five minutes and basically just fell back and killed my nice guy ways. We've hung out once since I've read the bible and it worked wonders. I used kino, tried to follow most of the advice i've read, and ended the night with a tap kiss on the cheek. I had more physical contact with her that night than the entire 8 months lol. She messaged me that night on how much fun she had and how she wants to go out again and see a movie. I told her sure we can go someday.
So now i'm unsure of where to go with this, I feel like im stuck somewhere between friendzone and relationship because she is definitely acting differently than she used to when she used to friendzoned me, but she doesn't mention or hint at us getting in a relationship. We do tease each other about it because she says stuff like "I saw that girl checking you out, ima kill her haha", so I guess the interest is there. And going out to lunch the other day, I feel our kino is past a friend level. (We spent the entire time hugging at the restaurant.) However I heard from my friend at work that the ex is in the picture, they dont talk at all but she refuses to move on until they talk and have closure, and both are too stubborn to do anything.
Anyone have any advice on what I should do? Just continue going with the flow? I want to try talking to her about what is going on with us, however that hasn't worked out so well in the past so I'm afraid of going into that incase I push it and get rejected again. I don't know how to advance to the next stage. I tried txting her the other day however she is starting to get distant again because she just replies once and I don't hear from her again, so that is getting frustrating. She seems to wall herself off when things start going good. I know I should probably just drop this and cut her out like a true DJ, however I do want to try continuing this and getting with her as I feel i'm closer than before.
Thanks for reading!