Friendzone antics

[Bigdada]

Hey there all DJs

I'm new to this forum, though I must admit I've been reading the postings for a while, especially those by Magickarl (helped me the most). well, I want to tell you a bit about my problem and see what advice comes up:

I've been something of a Friend-Zone Escape Artist all my life. every girl who ever was lucky enough to be my bedmate started out as a friend/close friend. I managed to do this three ways:

1)I'm a ****y bastard who isn't afraid to be arrogant, aggressive, and overly confident without appearing overtop (imagine, I'm even overweight and I still pull it off well)

2)I always tell my close girl-friends about my sexual exploits, and treat them like friends. seems to spark a jealousy factor in them.

3) I NEVER show interest. I almost treat them like sisters, meanwhile, while talking to them about my sexual exploits, making physical connections, etc.


Now here is my problem. my last girlfriend was originally a friend. She started out asking me about things like her attractiveness, etc. I'd always say she's "pretty enough". no ass kissing. I'd never show ANY interest. however, I'd always talk about girls I banged in the past and my sexual exploits. for some reason, she proved that irresistible.

We have broken up, but I think it's because I displayed too much interest when I fell for her. after we had sex...I got really attached. I know I know, gimme a break, I'm 18! haha,

But anyways, my first question is, do you think I lost her because I showed too much interest? Thus making myself challenge-less?

My second question is, I have this new girl (let's call her Rosalía) in my arena. she has a boy-toy, which I'm constantly making fun of, saying how I'd kick his ass if I met him, etc. (she's never told me to stop either, do you think she likes it?) and I think I made Rosalía REAL jealous by telling her that I'm screwing some girl I met at school. of course, she can't get mad, because we're just friends!

just today, she says she's over the guy, and she doesn't know where her next bf will come from (being the strapping "good friend" I am, I suggested her school, but she says that she never knows where love will come from")

but I'm afraid I'm getting a little too close below the equator of friend zone limits. what should I do next? am I doing everything right? should I keep it up? thanks for any suggestions!

 

[Bigdada]

also, we were talking about alcohol, and how it always makes me horny, and she said "well then, I guess I can't drink alcohol around you, huh? we'll have to find something else to do" to which I said "I dont' think of you like that--I see you just as a big sister"

what I said, do you think that was a good neg, or a faux pax?

 

[Hughman]

also, we were talking about alcohol, and how it always makes me horny, and she said "well then, I guess I can't drink alcohol around you, huh? we'll have to find something else to do" to which I said "I dont' think of you like that--I see you just as a big sister"

what I said, do you think that was a good neg, or a faux pax?

Girls calling you a 'big bro' is a major reject (from experience and reading). I'd presume a woman would read you calling her a sister the same way as, even though guys don't have as much qualms about ****ing their relatives (don't argue, just look at the level of incest in the world, and how much of it is male-instigated)

 

[Allurre]

1. Revealing too much interest with your ex wasn’t the downfall. The leading cause may be being too clingy orpossessive. I’m not sure how you actually behave in a relationship.

2. Telling Rosalia how you’ll kick his boy-toys ass is unattractive. Maybe she may find it entertaining, but she surely wouldn’t support it.

There’s nothing wrong in showing interest. It’s better off to show atleast 10% of interest level as opposed to non at all. This could make you a better tease, and a couple notches more attractive.

 

[Sandow]

also, we were talking about alcohol, and how it always makes me horny, and she said "well then, I guess I can't drink alcohol around you, huh? we'll have to find something else to do" to which I said "I dont' think of you like that--I see you just as a big sister"

what I said, do you think that was a good neg, or a faux pax?

That isn't bad, but you shouldn't of said the sister part. Now, if you guys hook up it may seem akward. You should of just said "friends" and that's it. That'll cause some mystery and she won't be able to figure out what you meant by that. Nevertheless, ur comment was still a neg, so your fine.

Don't go overboard on trying to make her jealous. if you do, you look like a try-hard and she'll smell that desperation right off the bat. Just tell her random things that'll make her jealous seldomly. Try to raise the tension. Eventually the tension will get so great that somethings going to have to give.