Friendzone and "best friends make best lovers"

[Ricky]

I have mixed feelings about this topic.. I think one reason we don't understand the friend zone is that we sometimes see examples that counter it.

For the most part and Neil Strauss mentioned this in a book, i used to like to sleep with women as soon as possible. Obviously for the physical need but also to get a key relationship goalpost out of the way.. then there is no ambiguity that your interest in each other is physical.

I have however really enjoyed the chase and with my wife.. well i had to wait a little. I loved the challenge at the time. Now i wonder.. maybe it was a sign that we weren't as compatible in the end.. which is where i'm at now.. I don't think she has ever been the kind that someone gets into bed easily and her bodycount is low.. but the wait.. well when i had to wait it definitely had some level of her not being sure about me.

Although the women where the passion strikes hot and heavy quickly.. that can also flame out quickly. These are normally the ones that were physically attracted to me the first night but maybe neither of us have alot in common.

Another key thing i'm noticing now is that online sipping can work for some men.. the only reason i think this works is that the woman gets her emotional needs met from afar. Women actually like this while simultaneously they pine away thinking about a guy who isn't physically in their presence on a daily basis. Its causing a lot of problems for people now specifically with regards to infidelity etc.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I have mixed feelings about this topic.. I think one reason we don't understand the friend zone is that we sometimes see examples that counter it.

For the most part and Neil Strauss mentioned this in a book, i used to like to sleep with women as soon as possible. Obviously for the physical need but also to get a key relationship goalpost out of the way.. then there is no ambiguity that your interest in each other is physical.

I have however really enjoyed the chase and with my wife.. well i had to wait a little. I loved the challenge at the time. Now i wonder.. maybe it was a sign that we weren't as compatible in the end.. which is where i'm at now.. I don't think she has ever been the kind that someone gets into bed easily and her bodycount is low.. but the wait.. well when i had to wait it definitely had some level of her not being sure about me.

Although the women where the passion strikes hot and heavy quickly.. that can also flame out quickly. These are normally the ones that were physically attracted to me the first night but maybe neither of us have alot in common.

Another key thing i'm noticing now is that online sipping can work for some men.. the only reason i think this works is that the woman gets her emotional needs met from afar. Women actually like this while simultaneously they pine away thinking about a guy who isn't physically in their presence on a daily basis. Its causing a lot of problems for people now specifically with regards to infidelity etc.

People confuse what the friendzone is more than anything.

The friendzone is when a woman would rather have sex with a dog than with you because it disgusts her to think of you in that way.

You are asexual to her. Not even an option. Maybe if you were the last man on earth she would cave in and have sex at some point after a while.

This is NOT what happened with your wife. You were NOT in the friendzone. You may have only been friends but that is NOT the same as being in the friendzone.

 

[jhonny9546]

Oh I know what you mean, got it. Well typically when women are in love they follow their man's interests and hobbies

Well, the man has to have them.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Re: Friendzone. Men put themselves in the friend zone by being dishonest about their motivation to be with a woman.

Re: Best Friends make Best Lovers. A Friend with Benefits can be a better lover than a lover. Because when it comes to sex / intimacy, you cannot be as honest with a romantic love as you can be with a FWB. Therefore you're more likely to, for instance, tell a woman how you like to be fellated when you don't risk her getting offended or dramatic about your feedback.