Friends think i handled this girl wrong

ZaCool

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Today me and a couple friends went to get a couple beers from the supermarket, we paid and everything and on my way out the cashier right by the exit is this chick I know, i said hey whatsp up with a smile as her eyes widened and she smiled and reached to handshake me from behind counter ( Like literally she almost fell and it was more like caressing my hand softly) ... and i just kept going not looking back or spending more than a couple seconds talking to her , my friends think i should've stayed there for few more mins and "strengthned" the bond between me and her .

background, she's been showing interest for months, i talked to her, she likes me and acts like it, randomly blocked and unblocked me on messenger twice, plays hide and seek, sometimes she cant be found other times she sees me and is running to me to say hi and talk to me, i saw her with guy at a bar and he sure as hell wasnt some random dude he was her bf (she knows i saw her), i asked her to go out for coffee once and she agreed, next day she texts me shes sorry and her car wont start up ... i said cool and havent talked to her since and in all honesty i wasnt planning to i was this close to removing her from my facebook cause i dont play games, i just moved on with life, but for some reason my friends think i should've shown more interest when she reached out to handshake me .... my answer was "f*Ck her, iam not a toy, i have no interest in wasting time on girls like that " .
 

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No you played it right. She is probably on/off with the BF hence the block/unblock. Your friends are beta I'd try find some solid guys to go out with.
 

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No you played it right. She is probably on/off with the BF hence the block/unblock. Your friends are beta I'd try find some solid guys to go out with.
My friends are tough as long as they dont get too close to the girl once she "catches " them emotionally they start changing, i differ from them in that emotions play no role for me, if i want to like her i will if i dont i wont , its an on/off button ... and youre right about the bf part
 

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Beta friends will be really confused when you flirt with women, get reciprocation and then walk away without getting a number or caring. To them it's such a rare occurrence they think you're crazy, like you're walking away from the lottery win. But you've already spotted a red flag or she's not really attractive enough for your liking.
 

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Weak link. Let it go, if she reaches out and is up for bangin', if you still interested, pick it up. Otherwise, let her go.
 

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she actually messaged me and we had a two hour convo, i was on the offensive and asked her about the other dude i've seen with her to wish she replied its no big deal and hes not someone to be worried about ...... i am not looking for anything serious really i just want to have fun, i asked her out a second time just to make her back the f*Ck off and understand i dont play games, and she agreed to go out, then a couple hours before the date she messaged me that she cant make it cause her mom needs a ride to another city .... long story short i answed with "ok" and thats it, iam done talking to her, if she wants me she knows where to find me, there are enough girls in this world for everyone .
 

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Beta friends will be really confused when you flirt with women, get reciprocation and then walk away without getting a number or caring. To them it's such a rare occurrence they think you're crazy, like you're walking away from the lottery win. But you've already spotted a red flag or she's not really attractive enough for your liking.
LOL i related soo much to that.

Actually just talking to a girl and complementing her in a flirtious way without being outcome dépend is weird.

Wait i rephrase.. Just talking to her is weird for them
 

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Beta friends will be really confused when you flirt with women, get reciprocation and then walk away without getting a number or caring. To them it's such a rare occurrence they think you're crazy, like you're walking away from the lottery win. But you've already spotted a red flag or she's not really attractive enough for your liking.
to be fair, I wouldn't not pick up an extra $20 on the floor because concrete is dirty
 
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