Friends resent me now

[Sasake]

It seems like the more I have improved myself and my life the more a lot of my friends have started to resent me. Now that I believe in myself, I am doing better in school, started working out, have goals for the future, and am a lot happier.

But this seems to have upset my friends. They try to say Im arrogant and I think Im better then other people. I dont think I am or even give off that impression. The people saying this arent really doing anything with their lives, so I think the fact that they see me trying to make something of myself gives them a bad impression.

I was wondering if anyone else has had friends who have acted like this. I dont know if I should continue to be friends with them knowing they resent me, or just find some new people with a similar outlook on life. I know I need to meet some new people regardless of my other friends.

 

[WC2]

Sometimes you need to come the realization that your friends aren't happy with you cause they are insecure. It's not good to have friends who not only look down upon you improving yourself, but also friends who don't want to improve their own person.

While you don't want to break ties with your friends (obviously), try and meet some new ones. You'd be suprised how new people can change your whole perspective.

 

[flexion_]

Its seems a bit odd that they are saying you are arrogant and you are doing nothing to provoke this. How is that possible? Are you bragging about yourself in front of them or something to that effect? Are you giving them advice when they haven't asked for any?

Anyway... if your new personality doesn't match theirs then you need to find new friends on the same wavelength as you - you can't make people like you.

 

[Sasake]

The only thing arrogant I do is take college seriously. I know thats my future so I make it a top priority.

They dont go to college or have any real future plans.

 

[penkitten]

i think your friends are scared that you are going off bettering yourself and dont have time for them anymore.