Ah man, I feel ya about the whole nice girl thing. Well, it's always hard when you're looking in the wrong direction. Try and meet women at other places. I'm not exactly saying you're not going to have a chance with this girl because you blew it the first time, but it's not going to be easy. You've already affirmed that you are in the friends zone now, and there are tons of articles concerning this issue. I'm not exactly an older DJ but I've been around for a while. What you need to do is surround yourself with other women, and keep her off of your mind for a while. By doing this you will have fun while attracting her back again and maybe she'll come around for a second go. Just don't mess it up next time! By the way, I like the name. I'm into the JDM scene too.