Friends girlfriends being too flirty with you

[meldiamond]

I have noticed that the girlfriends of my close guy friends tend to throw the p**sy at me in subtle ways. This happens when the boyfriend and girlfriend are in a long distance relationship but the girl still lives within my city. I have also seen my girlfriends get way too flirty with my guy friends. Sometimes they dance too freaky with with you on the dance floor and its very uncomfortable because your friend is near by. Have you guys noticed this phenomenon? Do women have a mechanism that causes them to be attracted to men within the "tribe". Maybe we are built with an in group attraction switch.

These girls become way to comfortable with you much too fast. They offer to hang with you alone without their boyfriend (my close friend). One girl recently asked to go hang out alone! I never told my friend though. It is difficult to prove this because they can always use the plausible deniability of just being friendly. If you snitch on them they will say that they just wanted to innocently hang out.

The funny thing is that if I met these girls as strangers they would never give me play. It is because I am familiar that they give me any traction. I would never ever fu*k my friends girlfriend. I never have and never will even though I have had opportunities. I would not be able to forgive myself. It is tempting though but the whole situation disgusts me.

There is a mirror thread in the general discussion forum:

https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/so-yeah-i-am-a-chad-and-yes-hypergamy-is-real.252221/

That thread focuses more on married woman looking to cheat. You will likely find some similarities and maybe a few tips on how to deal with these situations.

 

[AttackFormation]

Okay so now the story is out... I found it pretty hard to summon up any sympathy for this guy because his mentality/behavior is so pathetic. Simultaneously thinks she's a victim and defends her behavior while apparently disliking it, even she says he puts her on a pedestal, he's unable to deal with the problem by leaving her and instead copes by jacking off and going out clubbing, and then he marries her.... lol. There's no helping these people. All you can do is leave him be and be ready to welcome him back to reality when he breaks down and can no longer cope.

 

[jaymbrs]

Good to see it's more common than I thought. A lot of my friend's GFs have hit on me in one way or another. It's one of the most awkward things because I don't know if I should tell my friend or what.

 

[meldiamond]

Good to see it's more common than I thought. A lot of my friend's GFs have hit on me in one way or another. It's one of the most awkward things because I don't know if I should tell my friend or what.

I don't even keep track of it anymore. It's normal and expected.

 

[stovepipe]

I've had this happen a lot ever since I was in HS. I made the mistake of sleeping with one of my good friends wives the night before their wedding. Then she cheated on him with me again while they were married with 2 kids. She then dumped her husband for me and a 6 year relationship ensued. He spiraled into deep depression over it as she was his first. Began living in the streets smoking meth for years. He ended up passing away shortly after our relationship ended. I somewhat felt guilty for all the pain I caused him and ultimately what happened to him.

Another time I hung out with my best friends gf who he just broke up with. Her and I were friends, we didn't hook up, I declined a back rub from her. Instead I listened to her whinny a$$ talk about him the entire time about how sad she is, blah blah blah. The next day my buddie asks what I did last night, I said nothing, then asks if I was at her house. Told him no, then he asked why did I just lie cause his ex told him I was. Long story short he cussed me out and never saw him again. His ex set me up to come that night so she can make him jealous and had the nerve to tell him she gave me a back massage when it didn't happen. Some b!tchs be so ruthless! I shouldn't have lied, I get that.. It cost me probably my best friend, someone who I considered my brother over it.

Never would I do that to a friend ever again. I learned my lesson the hard way. Most all my friends wives flirt with me often. At times it flattering, most times it makes me feel uncomfortable. One in particular is my bestf's wife. She constantly holds my hand, winks at me, tells me she loves me, when shes drunk uses flirts with me in front of him to try and make him jealous, cried to me about her marriage problems. It's very manipulative, inappropriate and makes me uncomfortable. As much as it happens to me kinda opened my eyes on how shady married women are.

 

[Alvafe]

good thing its kida rare where I live....

 

[stovepipe]

The reason we are in this position is not by accident. This is a program run by the masses on ALL MEN. To take any man once he's become married or in an LTR and put him under her control.

Yup....When I observe all my friends who are married or in a LTR. There is one consistent thing amongst them all. One of the partners is being controlled. I'd say 80% of them the women are in control. One buddy of mines wife makes him dye his hair to cover his greys and buys all his clothes. The guys I know who are in control their wife/gf is miserable. In and out of therapy, couples therapy, crying about their problems.


Seems you cant get into a relationship these days without one person wanting control over the other. Very little fair play between each other. If one cant control their spouse things go south fairly quick. Society as a whole has become more and more controlling which is scary.