Friends girlfriend jocking me (HELP!)

[learningtopimp]

One of my homies has a girlfriend that is trying to get at me, or so it seems. I don't say this to brag but because I need advice. The first time we were at a club, me her several other guy friends and 2 girls, and I was at a bar near the back, and she comes over and starts rubbing up on me, and trying to dance with me. I told her I had to go to the bathroom and left for 20 minutes, and I ended up leaving the club 30 mins after that with 2 of the homies i came with, because I was preety buzzed and one of them was DD. Next time was about 5 days later (this Friday) when she saw me on campus and gave me a hug (which I returned) and then starts running my hands over her stomach and up near her tits but not quite, and keeps trying to hold on after I hugged her. I tried to back off on her and then claimed I had to go to class (not smooth but I was kinda shocked by her behvaior).

I am debating if I should tell my friend, I am leaning towards it because I will never betray a friend for a girl (even though she is a 7, no girl is worth a friendship) but I want him to know that his girl is disloyal, and also that I would never hit that so if they have problems later she doesn't bring this up and cost me my friendship with him (even though I did nothing). Should I tell him, stay quiet, and how should I deal with her, since it's kind of akward when we see each other? Also, how do I get her to back off, do I have to be very tough and straight up with her?

 

[LoneRanger22]

Psychology will tell you that informing your mate about the aleged attempts by her to "come onto you" will make him feel inferior and that "his chick" feels your better then he is, he`ll never admit that and may never caunciously be aware of it but on a subconsious level it could distance the two of you.

Dont act on any level until you are more then 95% sure she is playing the two of you. At which time you inform her that her responsibilities as a caring/sharing girlfriend have being compromised by her rogue behaviour towards you and that you feel its best she "steps off" before she really looses the game and goes home single.

 

[learningtopimp]

Sounds good....anyone think I should tell him?

 

[Don Rageta]

"oh, by the way. your girlfriend wants me. but don't worry. i won't bang her".

that is pretty much all your friend will hear. my advice is give her the cold shoulder, Don't mention her to him and if she keeps coming onto you step her aside and tell her that her kino makes you uncomfortable and that she will forever be off bounds, tainted by your homies sperm.

 

[chlywly]

I wouldn't tell him, but I would mention something to her, tell her to back the f up Others are right, telling him would probably make him feel somehow inferior to you, make him feel kind of ****ty and embrassed, and you don't want that now do you?

 

[JustDoItAlways]

If she's only doing it to you, just tell her to back off.

But chicks like this are probably doing it to many other guys.

Next time you two are out somewhere, watch her closely and see if she pulls the same moves on another guy. If she does, then tell your bud about it (and maybe her moves on you as well if he needs more proof.)

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

u must tell your friend this girl is a ho - she is obviously so bold as to grab on u in public and u r his friend - what the hell do u think she is doing in the dark behind doors with guys that he doesnt know or see - save his rep never let a man look like a chump - hell u think u r the only one that knows she is a ho and screwing others - your friend is the laughing joke on campus - save his honor - tell her u saw her doing the same with other guys at the club or whatever - she probably has and the focus wouldnt entirely b on u.

The advice u r getting from the previous posts r lame - im sure if their girl was screwing around they would want to know - wouldnt you? They sound like chumps - theyll b the first to cry out "Y DIDNT U TELL ME" - she made me look like a fool!!!!! And they be right. dont let your buddy b a fool especially when u already know he is being played for one by a ho.

 

[iqqi]

i agree, tell your boy. he might be upset, but that is to be expected. don't just NOT tell him to make life comfortable for yourself, that is selfish. if he is really your boy, and not just an associate, he has the right to know about the shady ho.

 

[PRMoon]

Don't say anything to him, which seems to be general concensus is the best route. Just keep your mouth shut about the whole thing. You should say something to her only after she's confessed out right to you about wanting your jock or makes a definate move on you like movin in for the kill or trying to steal a kiss, something along those lines. At which point just tell her that she's your boy's girl and you can't betray a friend. Don't say anything about you being attracted to her at all, don't even hint at it because that'll make her come on stronger or try to get you drunk or something which is a bad situation. Don't tell your boy ever, no tender moments, no drunken slips of the lips, nothin its something you should keep to yourself forever.