friends dont wanna go out

[funketekun]

friends dont wanna go out (updated)

i called several friends. nobody wants to go clubbing with me.

do u guys have the same problem?
i told them dont stay home on sat. lets go out.

they are like who is going and is there any girls coming with us?

i said not just u and me.


they are like in that case no.

 

[Raikojo17]

i called several friends. nobody wants to go clubbing with me.

do u guys have the same problem?
i told them dont stay home on sat. lets go out.

they are like who is going and is there any girls coming with us?

i said not just u and me.


they are like in that case no.

tell them to grow some balls and go FIND some girls to hang out with at the club.

 

[thirtyplus]

Guys that want to take girls to a club = lame. Don't take sand to the beach.

The only exception to this I can think of is if you and a group of FBs/pivots actually want to go to a NIGHTCLUB to SIT and CHILL and be the A-crowd...like if you have a private VIP room or what not. Especially if you have bisexual FBs who want to scout for chicks with you.

Then you can send out feelers / scouts to pick up the hottest girls and bring them back to your VIP pad. Natural DHV and attraction built right in.

 

[Hitman10000]

Maybe because your friends who might also be around your age don't want to go to clubs where drunk early 20s or younger guys are pumping out their chests and pretending to be executives who make six figures when they go home to their mommy and daddy with their mommy and daddy's car and go to school getting a C average or work part time at some retail store making $5 an hour?

 

[kdnash82]

Go out by yourself. You don't necessarily need friends to have fun. Whenever I go out to the club with friends, I usually end up doing my own thing so I've become very use to it. I might run into them a couple of times throughout the night, but what good does that do for me?

 

[funketekun]

ok guys i went out today with a friend...we didnt exactly go to the clubs. First we went to a coffee shop. I was looking around to hit. Saw no girls by themselves.
Then my friend who is super shy suggested to go have bubble tea. In the restaurant theree were 3 waitresses. I know its hard to hit on waitresses but i tried.

she was at the cash register...i approached her. The waiter guy next to her looked at me. so i gave him an EC but forgot to smile at him (Like saying it's not your business keep doing your work) and he looked away really quickly. Then i proceeded.
me: hi, how are you? (Looked into her eyes and smirk)
w1: good (really serious look or shocked look)
me: you look cute. I wanna take you out for a drink sometimes.
w1: no (with her eyes opened)
me: ok. thats cool. (walked back to my table)


she was cleaning the table next to us.
me: excuse me. where did you get your earrings?. They look nice.
w2: thanks (smiled)
me: (smiled back) so where did you get them?
w2: in taiwan
me: they are really nice.
w2: (She smiled again)
me: Can i get them in toronto?
w2: no. (smiled again)
then i didnt know what to say.....really lame but she smiled.

regarding the 1st waitress. I cant believe she said no to me. She will regret it.
She didnt even give me a chance to tell about myself and she said no. And she didnt look that good when i see her from a closer distance cause she was wearing lots lof makeup and had eye bugs.

 

[funketekun]

Maybe because your friends who might also be around your age don't want to go to clubs where drunk early 20s or younger guys are pumping out their chests and pretending to be executives who make six figures when they go home to their mommy and daddy with their mommy and daddy's car and go to school getting a C average or work part time at some retail store making $5 an hour?

yeah dont u hate that.

 

[funketekun]

Go out by yourself. You don't necessarily need friends to have fun. Whenever I go out to the club with friends, I usually end up doing my own thing so I've become very use to it. I might run into them a couple of times throughout the night, but what good does that do for me?

i ve never been in the club by myself. But i have to try that

 

[Mind_Body_Soul]

Go out alone. A year ago this was UNHEARD of for me, but I started small. I started going snowboarding on my own. Just going out and riding the mountains for a few hours with only my thoughts and my MP3 player was honestly life changing. I realized that I don't need anybody to have a good time.

Now I like going everywhere alone. Don't worry about social proof, you can gain that as soon as you arrive by chatting up a bunch of people. If anyone asks where your friends are say "I'm here alone so I can make new friends". You will come off as one mother f.ckin confident dude.

I remember when I started going snowboarding alone - the girl I was dating at the time would ask "who are you going with?" and I would say "I'm going alone." I think it really turned her on because most people don't have the ballz to go out without their little support group of b1tches.

Don't become a hermit though.

 

[MyOwnKryptonite]

Friends dont want to go out? Go to the bar instead, pick yourself up a local chick

 

[funketekun]

Go out alone. A year ago this was UNHEARD of for me, but I started small. I started going snowboarding on my own. Just going out and riding the mountains for a few hours with only my thoughts and my MP3 player was honestly life changing. I realized that I don't need anybody to have a good time.

Now I like going everywhere alone. Don't worry about social proof, you can gain that as soon as you arrive by chatting up a bunch of people. If anyone asks where your friends are say "I'm here alone so I can make new friends". You will come off as one mother f.ckin confident dude.

I remember when I started going snowboarding alone - the girl I was dating at the time would ask "who are you going with?" and I would say "I'm going alone." I think it really turned her on because most people don't have the ballz to go out without their little support group of b1tches.

Don't become a hermit though.

snowboarding and going out picking up chicks is different. I go alone to play basketball too and i always have fun. But going out alone to pick up chicks is different.

 

[selfmademob]

Who says you can't pick up chicks alone while doing thinks like playing basketball or going snowboarding? Before SoSuave like 2 1/12 years ago I was playing basketball alone and this chick and her little brother started playing and I played her and being naturally funny I made her laugh alot and she gave me her number and I didn't try.

 

[Mind_Body_Soul]

snowboarding and going out picking up chicks is different. I go alone to play basketball too and i always have fun. But going out alone to pick up chicks is different.

Well... I disagree. You need to get out of the mindset of "going to pick up chicks" read the post on here somewhere about approaching vs. being open. Everywhere I go, I try to be open to meeting ANYONE new. It may be an old lady at the gym or a HB on the chairlift when I'm snowboarding. The point is - get into the mindset that the only thing you need to have fun is yourself. It's about YOU anyways.

 

[funketekun]

Mind_Body_Soul,
thanks for the advice.

 

[AckeDman]

ok guys i went out today with a friend...we didnt exactly go to the clubs. First we went to a coffee shop. I was looking around to hit. Saw no girls by themselves.
Then my friend who is super shy suggested to go have bubble tea. In the restaurant theree were 3 waitresses. I know its hard to hit on waitresses but i tried.

she was at the cash register...i approached her. The waiter guy next to her looked at me. so i gave him an EC but forgot to smile at him (Like saying it's not your business keep doing your work) and he looked away really quickly. Then i proceeded.
me: hi, how are you? (Looked into her eyes and smirk)
w1: good (really serious look or shocked look)
me: you look cute. I wanna take you out for a drink sometimes.
w1: no (with her eyes opened)
me: ok. thats cool. (walked back to my table)


she was cleaning the table next to us.
me: excuse me. where did you get your earrings?. They look nice.
w2: thanks (smiled)
me: (smiled back) so where did you get them?
w2: in taiwan
me: they are really nice.
w2: (She smiled again)
me: Can i get them in toronto?
w2: no. (smiled again)
then i didnt know what to say.....really lame but she smiled.

regarding the 1st waitress. I cant believe she said no to me. She will regret it.
She didnt even give me a chance to tell about myself and she said no. And she didnt look that good when i see her from a closer distance cause she was wearing lots lof makeup and had eye bugs.

With the cash register waitres u didnt spark any interest before number closing... with the regular waitres u sparked interest but didnt numberclose.

But either way the most important thing is to build up that rejectionresistant shield (being able to take rejection and just moving on).

 

[thickandcreamy]

You're right. Going out on your own is weird. Better to stay home and jerk off.

snowboarding and going out picking up chicks is different. I go alone to play basketball too and i always have fun. But going out alone to pick up chicks is different.